Umxholo
- Hloniphanani
- Khumbula useto ngaphambi kokuba uqale incoko
- Ukuthumela umyalezo nge-imeyile okanye ukuthumela i-imeyile ukuveza umsindo akuyona indlela efanelekileyo yokunxibelelana
- Sebenzisa izixhobo zonxibelelwano ezisempilweni kulo lonke unxibelelwano
- Wuqonde umahluko phakathi konxibelelwano olungenampilo nolusempilweni
- Yiba ngumphulaphuli olungileyo
- Yitsho into oyifunayo
Ukunxibelelana ngendlela esempilweni kufuneka kubengaphezulu kwazo zonke uLuhlu lweeNjongo zoBomi. Amaqabane abeka ipremiyamu ekugcineni ubudlelwane bawo bomelele bafunda indlela yokunxibelelana ngendlela esempilweni kunye. Abaphandi kwiZiko loPhando lwePew bafumanise ukuba ezona zibini zonwabileyo zibamba incoko ezinomdla ngomndilili weeyure ezintlanu ngeveki. (Oku kungaphandle kwencoko yesiqhelo ye-chit.) Zeziphi ezinye zeemfihlo zonxibelelwano olusempilweni kwizibini ezitshatileyo?
Hloniphanani
Soloko uthetha nomlingane wakho ngokungathi ungumhlobo wakho osenyongweni. Kuba ucinga ntoni? Bazi! Amagama akho, ulwimi lomzimba kunye neethoni yelizwi zibonisa ukuba ulijonga njani iqabane lakho. Izibini ezihloniphanayo, nangona zixabana, musa ukubambana okanye ukubonisa ukudelelana. Endaweni yoko, babelana ngeembono ezahlukeneyo besebenzisa amagama anceda ukunxibelelana nezimvo zabo kunye neembono zabo ngaphandle kokujongela phantsi amaqabane abo. Banokusasaza impikiswano ngokuhlekisa kwaye banokude bafumane amanqaku aliqela kumaqabane abo xa beqonda ukuba banokulunga, phofu!
Khumbula useto ngaphambi kokuba uqale incoko
Awufuni ukuvula ingxoxo ebalulekileyo xa umyeni wakho ephuma emnyango ngomsebenzi, okanye kufuneka ufike kwidinga. Abanxibelelanisi abasempilweni bacwangcise ixesha lezi ntlobo zeencoko ukuze 1) nobabini nilungiselele ingxoxo kunye no-2) nisebenzise ixesha namandla afunekayo ukukhupha lo mbandela kwaye niqinisekise ukuba nobabini nifumana ithuba iviwe.
Ukuthumela umyalezo nge-imeyile okanye ukuthumela i-imeyile ukuveza umsindo akuyona indlela efanelekileyo yokunxibelelana
Izibini ezininzi zibhenela kwezi ndlela, nangona kunjalo, kuba ukumba umbandela ontununtunu, onokuthi ukhokelele kungxabano, kulula ukwenza xa ungajongananga ubuso ngobuso. Kodwa ukufihla ngasemva kwescreen kunokubonwa njengokungenzi nto, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ayikuvumeli konke ukufihla okungokweemvakalelo okunokudluliselwa yingxoxo yomntu. Nangona kunokubonakala kulula ukunxibelelana nge-imeyile okanye ngombhalo, gcina ezo ndlela kwizinto ezincinci zokongeza ezinokuphakamisa intliziyo yeqabane lakho emini: “ukucinga ngawe” okanye “Ukukhumbula”. Kwiincoko ezifuna ukuhoywa ngokupheleleyo, qiniseka ukuba ukhona emzimbeni kunye neqabane lakho ukuze ukhuthaze ukuhamba kwemvakalelo. Ukuthetha ubuso ngobuso kusondele kakhulu kunemiyalezo, kwaye ekugqibeleni kuyakusondeza kunye njengoko nisebenzela ukusombulula ingxaki leyo.
Sebenzisa izixhobo zonxibelelwano ezisempilweni kulo lonke unxibelelwano
Sukugcina izakhono zonxibelelwano ezisempilweni kwizihloko ezikhulu, njengohlahlo-lwabiwo mali, iholide, imicimbi yomyeni okanye imfundo yabantwana. Zama ukuhlala usenza iindlela ezilungileyo zonxibelelwano ngotshintshiselwano ngalunye. Ngale ndlela uya kuba ukulungele ukufikelela kwezi zixhobo xa ufuna ukuhlasela "izihloko ezinkulu"; Uya kube uziqhelanise kakhulu kangangokuba unxibelelwano olusempilweni luba yimvelo yakho yesibini!
Wuqonde umahluko phakathi konxibelelwano olungenampilo nolusempilweni
Abafowunelwa abangenampilo basebenzisa ukukhwaza, ukukhwaza, ukubetha amanqindi okanye iindlela "zokuthula" ukuze baveze uluvo lwabo. Amaqabane alwa ngale ndlela anokuzenzakalisa ngokwasemzimbeni nasengqondweni, ngoxinzelelo lwegazi ukudubula, ukuqina kwesifuba kunye nentlungu, kunye ne-hyperventilation. Abo basebenzisa "unyango olungathethiyo" lokunxibelelana ngaphakathi befaka umsindo wabo okhokelela ekuqineni komzimba, okukhokelela kwintlungu yomqolo, imihlathi ebuhlungu kunye nentloko. Ngethamsanqa, ukuqaphela ezi ndlela zokunxibelelana zingenampilo linyathelo lokuqala ekufundeni indlela yokunxibelelana ngcono usebenzisa izixhobo eziza kukunceda wena kunye neqabane lakho ukuvula incoko ngeendlela ezingayi kwenzakalisa imizimba yenu kunye nobudlelwane. Xa uziva ukuba izinto ziyafudumala, thatha "ixesha lokuphuma" de ube upholile kwaye usete ingqondo yakho kwakhona. Yiya kude omnye komnye, kwaye uye kwindawo ethe cwaka nengathathi cala. Nje ukuba nobabini nibuye nizolile, buyelani kunye, nihlale nikukhumbula ukubaluleka kokuhlala nivulekile ukuze nimamele izinto ezithethwa ngomnye.
Yiba ngumphulaphuli olungileyo
Abanxibelelanisi abasempilweni bayazi ukuba unxibelelwano lwenziwa ngamalungu alinganayo athethayo kwaye emamele. Bonisa iqabane lakho ukuba umamele ngenkuthalo oko babelana ngako (kwaye ungacingi nje ngento oza kuyithetha bakugqiba) ngokugcina ukubonana emehlweni, ukunqwala, ukubamba ingalo yabo okanye elinye ilungu lomzimba elingathathi cala. Le miqondiso ibonisa ukuba ubandakanyekile kwincoko. Xa lithuba lakho lokuba uthethe, qala ngokuphinda ukuqonda kwakho okwenziweyo. “Kuvakala ngathi kukho ukuphazamiseka kwindlela esilawula ngayo uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali lwasekhaya,” ngumzekelo wokumamela ngokukuko. Ukuba ufuna ingcaciso engaphezulu ngalo naliphi na inqaku, ungalicela ngokuthi “Andicacanga ukuba uthetha ukuthini na. Ngaba unokwandisa le nto ukuze ndiyiqonde ngcono? ”. Oku kubhetele kunokuba "Usoloko ungqindilili!"
Ukuphulaphula bubugcisa. Enye yeemfihlo zonxibelelwano olusempilweni kwizibini ezitshatileyo kubandakanya ukugqibezela ubugcisa bokumamela obuhamba indlela ende ekuthinteleni izinto ezingenamsebenzi ukuba zinganyuki ngokuphulaphula ngokulula oko kuthethwa liqabane lakho.
Yitsho into oyifunayo
Abafowunelwa abasempilweni abashiyi nanye into ukuba yenzeke; baxela iimfuno zabo. Iqabane lakho alingomfundi-wengqondo (njengoko singathanda ukuba oku kube yinyani.) Xa iqabane lakho likubuza ukuba lingakunceda njani, akunampilo ukuthi “Hayi, ndiphilile.” xa ngenene, ufuna uncedo ukuze, uthi, ukucoca emva kwesidlo sangokuhlwa. Uninzi lwethu lusebenzisa obu buchule, kwaye sithule sithe cwaka xa sibona amaqabane ethu ehleli phantsi phambi kweTV ngelixa sishiywe sihlamba izitya, konke kungenxa yokuba khange sitsho ukuba sifuna ntoni. “Ndingasebenzisa isandla ekuhlambeni; ungathanda ukuhlamba okanye ukomisa izitya? ” yindlela entle yokuchaza iimfuno zakho kwaye unike iqabane lakho ukhetho kulo msebenzi. Khumbula ukubabulela ngokunceda; iya kunceda ekuqinisekiseni ukuba benyukela kwipleyiti ngexesha elizayo ngaphandle kokuba ubuze.
Oku kuya kwiimfuno ezinxulumene nomsebenzi. Abafowunelwa abasempilweni baya kuthetha into abayifunayo ngenkxaso yeemvakalelo; abalindi de iqabane labo liqashele. “Ndiziva ndiphantsi ngoku kwaye ndingakwazi ukuwola,” yindlela elula yokucela unxibelelwano oluxhasayo emva kosuku olubi.
Ukufunda iindlela zonxibelelwano olusempilweni kubantu abatshatileyo yindlela eqinisekileyo yokuqinisa ubudlelwane bakho kunye nokuyigcina kwindlela enothando. Uya kufumanisa ukuba ukusebenzisa ezi ndlela kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bakho, nokuba usemsebenzini okanye ekhaya, uya kuvuna umvuzo omkhulu ngokubhekisele kwimpilo yakho yeemvakalelo kunye nasemzimbeni.