Umxholo
- Ngaba ufuna ukuba umntwana wakho aphulukane neminqweno yabo yokukholisa abanye?
- 1. Benze babe nembeko, babe nembeko kodwa babe ngqwabalala emazwini abo
- 2. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba banike inkcazo eneenkcukacha ngokwala kwabo
- 3. Ungaze ubavumele babeke amaxabiso abo okanye izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka emngciphekweni
- 4. Baqeqeshe ukuba bazibekele imida yobuqu
- 5. Benze babe ngabemi abanenkathalo
- 1. Zoba umfanekiso omhle welizwe lethu.
- 2. Thobela umthetho
- 3. Khokela ngomzekelo
- 4. Yiya nakowuphi na umcimbi nomntwana wakho kwindawo yakho okanye kwisixeko
Ngamanye amaxesha "Hayi" lelona lizwi libalaseleyo. " - UVironika Tugaleva
Ngexesha elithile elidlulileyo, ndaya kutya kwivenkile yokutyela kunye nentombi yam eneminyaka elishumi. Indawo yokutyela yayiphantse yagcwala kwaye bafuna ukuba siye kwigumbi elingaphantsi kwabo apho imeko yabo yayingonelisi.
Bendizakuthi kulungile xa intombi yam uSachika isithi, "Hayi asizuhlala apho", umphathi wasamkela isigqibo sakhe walungiselela itafile entle ngaphandle kwevenkile yabo yokutya kwaye satya isidlo sangokuhlwa phantsi kweenkwenkwezi nenyanga kwindawo evulekileyo. .
Ndiyithandile umgangatho wentombi yam ukuyimela ngokuqinileyo into eyifunayo kwaye ithi ngqo 'Hayi'.
Ngaba ufuna ukuba umntwana wakho aphulukane neminqweno yabo yokukholisa abanye?
Ukuba hayi, baqeqeshe ukuba banyaniseke kwiziqu zabo, bakhethe into echanekileyo kwaye bamele into abakholelwa ukuba ilungile!
Ukufundisa umntwana ukuba athi 'hayi' amaxesha amaninzi kubasindisa ekuxinzeleleni abahlobo (kunye neemfuno zabo ezingathandekiyo), ukuba nesisa kakhulu / ububele kuhlala kuxhaphazwa / okanye kunikezelwa.
Ikwabanceda ukuba babeke imida yobuqu ekufuneka bona okanye abanye bathobele kuyo.
Nazi iindlela ezingenatyala zokuzifundisa ukuthi 'Hayi'
1. Benze babe nembeko, babe nembeko kodwa babe ngqwabalala emazwini abo
Anditshayi; Andiyi nakweliphi na ixesha lasebusuku, Enkosi; Ndiyoyika ukuba andinakho ukukopa / ukuxoka; Andijonganga ukubukela iphonografi / ukudlala amakhadi / umdlalo weselfowuni, njl njl kodwa enkosi kakhulu ngokubuza.
Okokuqala, banokuziva benoxinzelelo, benetyala lokwala umntu kodwa babonise amanqaku amahle okuthi 'hayi'. Umzekelo umz
2. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba banike inkcazo eneenkcukacha ngokwala kwabo
Gcina nje inkcazo elula kwaye inqaku.
Ngamanye amaxesha oontanga / abanye abamamkeli u'Hayi 'wabo okokuqala ngqa, ke baxelele ukuba nceda uthi' hayi 'nakwesesibini okanye isihlandlo sesithathu kodwa ngokuthe kratya.
3. Ungaze ubavumele babeke amaxabiso abo okanye izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka emngciphekweni
Baxelele ukuba bayenze ibe lula ingxelo yabo.
Endaweni yokuba 'Ndizokuzama kwixa elizayo "bafundise ukuba bathi,' uxolo anditshayi okanye ndisele, kufuneka ndisikhabe isicelo sakho".
4. Baqeqeshe ukuba bazibekele imida yobuqu
Imida iya kubanceda bathathe isigqibo ngento abanokuyenza nabangakwaziyo ukuyenza (nokuba awukho).
Kwimeko embi, Ukuhamba ngoncumo olumnandi kunokubenzela izinto ezintle.
Bacacisele ukuba ukuthi 'hayi' ngekhe kubenze bangabinantlonelo, abazicingela bodwa nabangalunganga.
Abangobantu abangenabubele okanye abangancediyo ukwenza izigqibo ngokusekwe kubulumko babo kunye neenqobo ezisemgangathweni eziya kubanceda bazive belawulwa kwaye benamandla. Kungcono ukuthi 'hayi' namhlanje kunokuba ngomso ube nengqumbo.
5. Benze babe ngabemi abanenkathalo
“Asiwudli ilifa umhlaba kookhokho bethu, siwuboleka kubantwana bethu” - UChief Seattle.
Kwakukho ukumkani obawayo, ozingcayo nonenkohlakalo.
Wonke umntu ebukumkanini bayoyika ngenxa yenkohlakalo yakhe. Ngenye imini, ihashe awayelithanda kakhulu uMoti wasweleka kwaye ubukumkani bonke beza kumsitho wakhe wokutshisa isidumbu. Oku kwamonwabisa kakhulu ukumkani kuba wayecinga ukuba abemi bakhe bamthanda kakhulu.
Emva kweminyaka embalwa, ukumkani wasweleka kwaye akukho mntu waya kumasiko akhe okugqibela.
Ukuziphatha kwebali-Zuza imbeko endaweni yokuyifuna ngokuzenzela wena kunye nomntwana wakho umntu onoxanduva nothando.
Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa zokukhulisa umntwana oluncedo ngokuziphatha kunye noxanduva
1. Zoba umfanekiso omhle welizwe lethu.
Ndiyazi ukuba mininzi imingxunya ye-lope kwinkqubo yethu, iingxaki ezininzi kunye neengxaki kodwa mandikubuze umbuzo olula? Ukuba umama wethu unemiqobo eliqela ngaba siyayigxeka esidlangalaleni okanye siyigxeke? Hayi, asiyi kuthi, akunjalo? Kutheni le nto ilizwe lethu?
2. Thobela umthetho
Landela i-etiquettes elula njengokuthi ungatsiba imiqondiso yezithuthi, hlawula iirhafu zakho rhoqo kwaye ume emgceni. Lumka- abantwana bakho bahlala bekujongile.
Xhasa ubugcisa bendawo yakho, yengingqi, yesizwe kunye nomculo. Thatha abantwana bakho baye kwindawo yemidlalo yeqonga, babukele imidlalo kunye kwiholo elikufutshane, ndwendwela iimyuziyam kunye namaziko obugcisa kunye.
Zinikele ngexesha lakho kunye nezixhobo zakho ekuncedeni abasweleyo. Bandakanya nabantwana bakho.
3. Khokela ngomzekelo
Hlonipha umntwana wakho, musa ukuhonela ngaphandle kokuba ungxamisekile, nikela ngegazi, gcina indawo ohlala kuyo icocekile, musa ukungcolisa (nokuba uthathe inkunkuma ongakhange uyilahle), ucime iiselfowuni zakho okanye uzithule xa ukwiindawo ezinje isikolo, isibhedlele, iibhanki.
Baqeqeshe ukuba beme beqinile kwaye beqinile ngokuchasene nokungabikho kobulungisa okanye nantoni na engalunganga. Kuya kufuneka bazi ukumela izinto okanye umntu abakholelwa kuye.
Nikela ngeencwadi zabo, iimpahla, izixhobo, izihlangu, kunye nezinto zokudlala kwikhaya labantwana. Thatha nabo.
4. Yiya nakowuphi na umcimbi nomntwana wakho kwindawo yakho okanye kwisixeko
Hlaziya abantwana bakho malunga nazo zonke izinto ezenzekileyo kwindawo yakho, isixeko, ilizwe nakwilizwe liphela.
Kufuneka bafunde ukuphatha wonke umntu ngokulinganayo, nokuba ungowesini sini, inkolo, inkolo, inkolo; Imvelaphi yezemali, ubuchwephesha, njl.
Okokugqibela, bafundise ukukhathalela okusingqongileyo njengoko sinomama omnye emhlabeni.