Umxholo
- Xa amagama eyekile
- Xa ungenakudlula kuloo ngxaki inye
- Xa ungathembekanga
- Unemvelaphi eyahlukileyo
- Khangela umcebisi womtshato
Uthando aluboni, njengoko besitsho.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ayikuko ukuba uthando aluboni; Kukuba abo basothandweni basondele kakhulu kwiingxaki zabo ukuze babone indlela ebangqongileyo. Kuthatha umntu onokubona iingxaki ezivela ngaphandle- abo banombono- ukufumana iindlela zokulungisa imiba ezibonakalisa kulwalamano oluninzi.
Nokuba ungumcebisi womtshato okanye ugqirha wakho wobuqu, kubalulekile ukuba uqwalasele ukubona umntu onokukunika umbono wangaphandle kwaye akuncede ubone ukuba yeyiphi ekufuneka yenziwe. Oku kuya kuthetha ukushiya emnyango kwaye uvulekele ukuvumela umntu angene kumzabalazo wakho, kodwa kuya kulunga ukuba sesichengeni.
Liliphi ixesha elifanelekileyo lokufuna uncedo lomntu ongaphandle kobudlelwane bakho? Kwiimeko ezininzi, ngokukhawuleza kungcono. Endaweni yokuphendula kwisiganeko esibuhlungu, yiba nomdla kwaye ufune olo ncedo ngaphambi kokuba iimpikiswano zakho zibe nkulu.Makhe sijonge imiqondiso ecacileyo yokuba kuya kufuneka unxibelelane nomcebisi okanye ugqirha kungekudala kunokuba kamva.
Xa amagama eyekile
Kukho amanqanaba amabini omsindo nengqumbo:
Xa ukukhala kuqala kwaye xa ukukhala kuyekile.
Xa ukhwaza kwaye ucofa umphezulu wemiphunga ngaphandle komsindo kunye nokudana, kunjalo unomsindo (kwaye kufanele kanjalo fumana uncedo). Kodwa iingxaki kubudlelwane bakho ziye zibe nzima ukuzisombulula xa kungekho mntu uthethayo. Xa sele utyisiwe omnye komnye kangangokuba ungade ungathethi kubo konke konke.
Ukuba le yinto oye wayifumana ngokwakho, uyayiqonda indlela ekunzima ngayo kunye nokukhathaza ukuthula. Nobabini niyayazi into ekufuneka niyithethile kodwa kwala ukuba ngulomntu uyitshoyo.
Ukuzisa amehlo kunye neendlebe ezifanelekileyo kule meko kuya kuvumela incoko ukuba iqale ukuhamba ngendlela enemveliso. Ngokuqinisekileyo ngekhe usikwere konke kwiseshoni enye, kodwa njengoko iincoko ziqala, kuya kuba njalo ukuphilisa.
Xa ungenakudlula kuloo ngxaki inye
Ngalo lonke ixesha ungavumelani neqabane lakho kubonakala ngathi kuza kuvela.
Ngalo lonke ixesha kukho umlo, ubonakala ngomlingo kwincoko.
Ukuba kukho umba okanye ukungavumelani ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho niqhubeke nibetha njengebass drum, lixesha lokuba ufumane isingqengqelo sonyango ukuba uhlale kuso.
Uzamile ngokucacileyo ukuwusebenza ngokwakho lo mbandela, kodwa khange usebenze. Sukuvumela i-ego yakho ingene endleleni yokuqesha umntu ukuba akuncede uhambe emanzini okusombulula ungquzulwano. Umbono anokunikwa ngumcebisi uya kuyisombulula ingxaki ngokukhawuleza kunabantu ababini abadale ingxaki. Banike ithuba lokuba bangenelele kwaye bakuncede ubone ukuba ungawulungisa njani umba.
Xa ungathembekanga
Kodwa ukungathembeki akunjalo nje malunga nemicimbi yomzimba. Unokungathembeki kwiimvakalelo zakho. Ungangathembeki kwilizwi lakho. Ungangathembeki kwimali yakho.
Xa utshata iqabane lakho, nobabini nibeka eyenu ukholo omnye komnye ukuhlonipha nokuhlonipha ubudlelwane. Nantoni na oyenzayo engaphandle kwemida yolo kholo ngoko ke ongathembekanga.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba udibana nomntu osebenza naye ngendlela engafanelekanga, awuthembekanga.
Ukuba nichitha ngasese imali eyeyenu nobabini kwinto eniyaziyo eningafanele kuyenza, niyazi ukuba anithembekanga.
Owu, kwaye ukuba ulele ze ecaleni komntu ongelilo iqabane lakho njengoko ufunda le nto, awuthembekanga.
Ngaphambi kokuba naziphi na izenzo zokungathembeki zichaze ubungcwele bomtshato wakho, fumana umcebisi okanye ugqirha oxhotyiswe ngokufanelekileyo ukunceda ukuphilisa loo ntlungu. Yeyona nto ilungileyo kuwe neqabane lakho.
Unemvelaphi eyahlukileyo
Uthando luza kukuhlanganisa, kodwa alunakuba yiyo kuphela amandla okugcina nindawonye.
Njengoko uqala ixesha lakho lobomi bothando kunye neqabane lakho, kuya kubakho izinto ezininzi zobomi enizibonayo kunye. Ezi ziganeko zobomi ziya kuba ziintsikelelo kwiimeko ezininzi, kodwa kwezinye iimeko, ziya kubangela iintloko. Nokuba kukwahluka ngokwenkolo, umbono, okanye isimo sengqondo, wena kunye neqabane lakho imvelaphi inokubangela uxinzelelo olunzulu kulwalamano lwenu.
Khawufane ucinge ngendoda engumJuda kunye nomfazi ongumKatolika abazama ukuhamba ngexesha leholide zasebusika. Ukuba bobabini bazinikele kwiinkolo zabo, banokufumana njani ukuvumelana emakhayeni abo? Bangaziva njani iiholide ezimbini ezithetha lukhulu kwinkcubeko yomnye nomnye?
Banokuzama. Kodwa kuya kuba lula ukuba babenomntu ovela ngaphandle onikezela umbono. Iimeko ezinje ngolu lokuba ubuchule begqirha okanye umcebisi unokuba yinto ebalulekileyo kuwo nawuphi na umtshato. Kwakhona, umahluko ngasemva awunyanzelekanga ukuba ube ngowenkolo. Nakuphi na ukungqubana okubangelwe ziinkqubo zonqulo ezendeleyo kuya kuhamba ngokulula kuzo ngelizwi lesizathu elivela ngaphandle kobudlelwane
Khangela umcebisi womtshato
Umcebisi ngemitshato usebenza ngenjongo efanayo nogqirha, ngaphandle kokubeka iliso kunye nokuphucula impilo yomtshato wakho endaweni yomzimba wakho. Njengogqirha wakho, awufuni ukusebenzisa kuphela umcebisi wakho womtshato xa umtshato wakho usesibhedeni sokufa.
Yiya kubabona rhoqo. Ngena kwiofisi yabo ukuze ungene rhoqo kwaye ujonge. Sukulinda de kube lixesha lokuba ufumane uncedo olufunekayo wena neqabane lakho. Baya kuba sesona sixhobo sikhulu uncike kuso xa umtshato wakho usematyeni.