Umxholo
- 1. Sukulala ulala unomsindo, hlala ulwe ubusuku bonke!
- 2. Ungaze ulibale la magama mathathu, "Masiphume!"
- 3. Shiya isitulo sangasese phantsi
- 4. Bafazi, musani ukwenza ingxwabangxwaba xa engakhali
- 5. Sukuziva uzothekile ukuba uyagquma kuba eza kuthanda
- 6. Tyisa omnye nomnye kakhulu
- 7. Cela umngeni kwiqabane lakho
Yinto eqhelekileyo ukunika iingcebiso zomtshato ezihlala zinzulu kakhulu. Abantu abasandul 'ukutshata bayacetyiswa ukuba mabenze njani, baziphathe njani nokuba bathini kwaye yintoni mabangayenzi! Ukwakha ubomi nomntu owukhethileyo ukuba abe liqabane lakho lobomi ayisiyonto yokuhlekisa kwaye kufanele ukuba ithathwe ngokungathí sina, kodwa kuhlala kukho icala elilula kuyo yonke into.
Akukho apho? Ingcebiso emnandi yomtshato kwesi sibini sibopha iqhina yinto eyongeza uburharha kumbono womtshato, okwenza konke kube mnandi kwaye kumnandi! Ngokwesiqhelo yinxalenye yemidlalo abantu abayidlalayo ngeentsuku zomtshato ngokucebisa esi sibini okanye ngamanye amaxesha sesona sihloko sigqibeleleyo kumatheko e-bachelor okanye kwimibhobho yomtshato!
Inqanaba elisandul 'ukutshata kubomi bomtshato lelinye lawona manqanaba aphezulu njengoko isibini singenalo ixesha lokukruquka okanye ukudinwa omnye nomnye. Abantu abasandul 'ukutshata banomdla wokunxibelana kunye nokubeka yonke imizamo yosuku ukubonakala behle. Iitshizi, imigca yothando isavakala intle kwaye usuku lweValentine alukalahlekanga ngumtsalane walo! Eli nqanaba liphawula ukuqala kobudlelwane obuhle, obuthi ngamanye amaxesha, buye kudlule kumaqhuma amabi kodwa buthembise ubuqabane obungunaphakade bothando kunye nokuthembana.
Nazi ezinye ezihlekisayo ngenene kodwa eziluncedo kakhulu iingcebiso zomtshato ezihlekisayo kwesi sibini!
1. Sukulala ulala unomsindo, hlala ulwe ubusuku bonke!
Ingcebiso yomtshato ehlekisayo kwisibini esisandul 'ukutshata, kodwa sinecala elifanelekileyo kuso. Isibini akufanele silale kanye emva komlo. Kungcono ukulwa nomsindo kunye nokuxabana kude kunokuba uvumele ukuba yonke ingqokelela entliziyweni yakho ngokunganxibelelanisi.
Eli licwecwe elimangalisayo njengoko livakala lingenangqondo kodwa libambe ukubaluleka kakhulu xa ujonge nzulu. Ngokuqinisekileyo iya kunceda ukubeka izinto kwindawo yokwenyani xa ingxabano yokuqala yasemva komtshato ivela. Uninzi lweeyantlukwano phakathi kwezibini zihlala malunga nento engenamsebenzi ekufuneka ilwelwe kude kwangoko okanye ihlekiswe! Ngokuqinisekileyo, ezinye iimilo zifuna ngaphezulu kosuku lokuzinza, kodwa ubuncinci uzame kwaye ubone ukuba ayinakusonjululwa ngobusuku obunye ngaphambi kokuba ubize usuku.
2. Ungaze ulibale la magama mathathu, "Masiphume!"
Nokuba ngumhla wokuzalwa kweqabane lakho okanye umbhiyozo wempumelelo okanye mhlawumbi ngolunye usuku; ubusuku bomhla kuhlala kungumbono ogqwesileyo. Abantu abambalwa bayithatha njengento eyadlulayo kwaye bayibiza ngokuba "sisikolo esidala" kodwa inye into ekufuneka igcinwe engqondweni ukuba "izibini ezithandanayo zihlala kunye!"
3. Shiya isitulo sangasese phantsi
Xa bengatshatanga, izibini kunqabile ukuba namava okuhlala kunye, kwaye xa betshata, phantse bahlala benencoko embi malunga nokuba ngubani oshiye indlu yangasese imdaka. Iya kuba nezothe kodwa uyikholelwe okanye ungakholelwa, kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha, iya kuba nguye olibeleyo ukugungxula ngaphambi kokuba ahambe kwaye ngelinye ixesha iya kuba nguye olibeleyo ukuwukhupha ngokungxama ukupheka ukutya!
4. Bafazi, musani ukwenza ingxwabangxwaba xa engakhali
Ufumanisa nje kunzima ukubonisa loo mvakalelo. Abasetyhini bafuna indoda yabo ibalilele (njengakwimidlalo bhanyabhanya). Ambalwa amadoda ayenzayo! Kodwa ukuba akwenzi njalo, sukuyicinga njengento engaqhelekanga. Nantsi ke ingcebiso yomtshato ehlekisayo kwesi sibini. Kholelwa kuthando lomnye nomnye nokuba omnye akabonisi ukuba ulungile njengenkwenkwezi ye-movie obuyityhafisa mva nje!
5. Sukuziva uzothekile ukuba uyagquma kuba eza kuthanda
Kwaye uya kuyenza kakhulu loo nto! Ke zilungiselele ukugqabhuka kakhulu kwakamsinya nje emva kokuba utshatile. Kwaye kubafana, ungakufumani kuyothusa ukuba uthe phithi ziipeyinti zakhe zezikhonkwane kunye neemveliso zokhathalelo lolusu.Yile ndlela bafazi ngayo!
6. Tyisa omnye nomnye kakhulu
Ingabonakala iyisidenge kwaye inobuntwana kodwa "ukutya" kunokwenzela nantoni na emhlabeni. Ukuba nobabini niyalwa ngento ethile, niphakelane nje, nibonisane ngokutya, inokuba ziitshokholethi, ii-nachos okanye ii-mac ezinezitshizi! Ngaphezu koko, kokukhona utya kakhulu, kokukhona uya kuncipha ukuthetha. Isenokuvakala ngathi lelinye icebo lomtshato elihlekisayo kwesi sibini, kodwa yenza nje kwaye ubone umlingo!
7. Cela umngeni kwiqabane lakho
Ndiyakholelwa ukuba le yeyona ngcebiso yomtshato ihlekisayo kwesi sibini esiya kuza ngokufanelekileyo amaxesha ngamaxesha! Ukuba ufuna into yenziwe liqabane lakho, cela umngeni kubo ngokuthi umsebenzi othile ungaphaya kobuchule babo. Le yenye yeendlela zokubangela i-ego umntu anayo kwaye nangona engenantliziyo ipheleleyo, baya kuwenza umsebenzi. Kwaye yile nto ubuyifuna kwasekuqaleni. Akunjalo?
Ukuze ubudlelwane bube sempilweni, kuya kufuneka ubenecala elithambileyo kunye nelikhanyayo kulo kuba kukholelwa ukuba ubudlelwane obonwabileyo ngumxube wothando, uburharha kunye nokuhlekisa ngakumbi!