Umxholo
- Umtshato yinto ehlekisayo
- Iingcebiso ezibalulekileyo kubomi obonwabileyo bomtshato
- Apha ngezantsi kukho ingcebiso ehlekisayo kumyeni yokugcina umtshato ngendlela efanelekileyo:
Wonke umntu uyavuma ukuba ukuhleka lelona yeza lilungileyo kwaye kufanele ukuba kubekho uburharha emtshatweni ukuqinisekisa ubomi obude kunye nokonwaba emtshatweni. Uburharha emtshatweni buqinisekisa kungekuphela nje impilo yomzimba kodwa bukwakhuthaza impilo yomtshato. Isenokuvakala ingaqhelekanga kwabanye abantu, kodwa umtshato owonwabisayo ukhokelela kubomi obanelisayo, nothando, kunye nobudlelane.
Umtshato yinto ehlekisayo
Umtshato uyindawo entle, eyonwabisayo, engcolileyo, ethembekileyo, kunye nokuzama ukuba kuyo. Xa ufumana iqabane lakho lomphefumlo, umntu okhethekileyo ongenakucinga ukuba uphila ngaphandle kwakhe, kufuneka usebenze nzima kakhulu ukugcina iqhina lakho lisempilweni kwaye lomelele.
Uninzi lweengcebiso zomtshato zihlala zizinze kwaye zinobuzaza njengokwakha nokuchitha ubomi bakho nomntu omnye lishishini elibi, kodwa njengayo yonke enye into ebomini, kukho icala elihlekisayo nelilula emtshatweni. Iingcebiso ezinikezwe ngendlela ehlekisayo kunokwenzeka ukuba zisebenze ngcono kwaye zinamathele engqondweni kunaleyo uyinikiweyo ngendlela engqwabalala.
Iingcebiso ezibalulekileyo kubomi obonwabileyo bomtshato
Ukuzibophelela linyathelo elikhulu endodeni kwaye nokwenza umtshato usebenze umyeni kufuneka enze umzamo owongezelelweyo. Wonke umntu uyabuthanda uburharha obuncinci kwaye ngakumbi emtshatweni kokuya kukhaphukhaphu, kokukhona kungcono.
Apha ngezantsi kukho ingcebiso ehlekisayo kumyeni yokugcina umtshato ngendlela efanelekileyo:
1. Amabinzana amabini abalulekileyo ekufuneka umyeni awabandakanye kwisigama sakhe - 'Ndiyayiqonda' kwaye 'Unyanisile.'
2. Ingcebiso ebalulekileyo, ehlekisayo kumyeni kukuthi 'ewe' rhoqo. Vumelana nenkosikazi yakho ukwenza kubonakale ngathi ulungile amaxesha amaninzi.
3. Ukuba ufuna ukuphuma uye epatini okanye kwisidlo sangokuhlwa uxoke malunga nexesha. Soloko uzinika iwindow yokhuseleko yemizuzu engama-30 ukuya kwengama-45. Oku kuyakuqinisekisa ukuba umfazi wakho uyakubonakala emangalisa kwaye uya kufikelela kwitheko ngexesha.
4. Abafazi bayaxoka. Nanini na xa athetha into malunga nabahlobo bakho kunye nosapho ungawaphulaphuli amazwi akhe, mamela i-nuances. Ukuba uthi ungaphuma kunye nabahlobo bakho veki nganye okanye ukuba ungaya kubazali bakho nge-brunch yangeCawa veki nganye, uyaxoka.
5. Eli cebiso lihlekisayo kumyeni liyakuphelisa ukungavisisani okuninzi kwihlumelo. Ungaze uxelele umfazi wakho ngesipho ophantse wasifumana. Mphathele isipho kwaye umothuse.
6. Musa ukulindela isidlo sangokuhlwa xa ufika ekhaya. Le yinkulungwane yama-21 apho abasetyhini bengaxanduva lwabo kuphela ekulungiseleleni isidlo sangokuhlwa.
7. Elinye icebo elihle kumyeni kukuba ukuba ufuna umfazi wakho amamele lento uyithethayo ngoko thetha nomnye umfazi. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kukuhoya.
8. Ukuba uyalila ngamanye amaxesha myeke. Uyayidinga!
9. Zilungiselele ukutshintsha amanabukeni nicule iingoma ezizolisayo ezinzulwini zobusuku xa abantwana besiza. Kungenxa yokuba umfazi wakho wabazala musa ukulindela ukuba athathe uxanduva kuphela.
10. Khangela iindlela zokumbonisa ukuba uyamthanda oko akubandakanyi isondo.
11.Leli cebiso lihlekisayo kumyeni kufuneka lingalibali njengoko liya kumnceda akhokele ubomi obunomtshato obunoxolo iminyaka emininzi. Vuma xa uphazamile kodwa ungathethi nto xa unyanisile. Musa ukuvuya phambi komfazi wakho xa umbonisa ukuba uphosisile.
12. Ungaze uqhule ngemicimbi ethe-ethe njengobunzima, umsebenzi, izihlobo, okanye usapho. Usenokungabafumani bahlekise kwaye enzakaliswe kukungakhathali.
13. Mncome umfazi wakho rhoqo. Mxelele ukuba ubonakala emhle kangakanani kwilokhwe okanye umncome xa enze into ekhethekileyo ngesidlo sangokuhlwa.
14. Ukuba uyalwa, yiya kulala unomsindo. Musa ukuhlala ubusuku bonke ulwa. Ungaqala kusasa xa uhlaziyekile kwaye uzitshajiwe kwakhona.
Umtshato awuyonto yokoyika
Musa ukoyika ukutshata. Ukuba ufumana umfazi olungileyo, ungonwaba, kwaye ukuba awufumani, uya kuba sisithandi sobulumko. Kodwa iziqhulo ecaleni, umtshato liziko elihle. Awunakufunda ukwenza umtshato wakho wonwabe kwiifomula okanye kwiincwadi zesikhokelo. Unokufunda njengoko uqhubeka ngokugcina engqondweni izinto ozithandayo nangazithandiyo kunye nohlobo lweqabane lakho. Thetha nomfazi wakho. Mphathe njengomhlobo othandekayo nohloniphekileyo.
Khumbula, ngaphambi komtshato, wawukulungele ukuncama ubomi bakho ngenxa yakhe. Ngoku, okuncinci onokukwenza kukubeka ifowuni yakho ecaleni kwaye ube nencoko naye. Mkhuphele isidlo sangokuhlwa. Musa ukucinga ukuba emva komhla wokutshata ebusuku yinto yexesha elidlulileyo. Landela eli cebiso lihlekisayo kumyeni, kwaye uya kuba nomtshato owonwabileyo.