Umxholo
- Inxalenye yembali
- Ke yintoni kanye kanye eyenza umhlobo onolwalamano nezibonelelo?
- Umahluko phakathi kwabahlobo kunye nezibonelelo kunye nobudlelwane bezothando
- Kwaye inkcubeko edumileyo iyakhankanywa
- Inokusebenza njani le nto?
- Izikhokelo ezinengqiqo kulwalamano lwe-FWB
- Ihlabathi aliyondawo incinci
- Eminye imigaqo
- Kwaye bahlala kamnandi ngonaphakade
Abahlobo abanezibonelelo zesondo. "FWB" njengoko unokwazi ngayo.
Le yinto ekudala ikho, kodwa ihambe ngamagama amaninzi ahlukeneyo okanye izihloko: isini esingaqhelekanga, amaqabane angathandani nabantu abathandana nabo, amaqabane omtshato, abantu obaqhelileyo, ulwalamano olungaqhelekanga, ukubetha abahlobo, abahlobo bebhedi, izihlobo ezithandanayo, i-hookup yobusi, kunye namahlakani e-pelvic.
Uninzi lwezinto ezenziwa ngabantu ezisondeleleneyo okanye ezomzimba ngokwendalo zinamagama okanye amagama asezintlekweni (slang) okanye amagama afihla okanye afihle okwenzekayo. Cinga ngawo onke amagama owaziyo "ukugabha" kunye "nokunxila".
Into ekufuneka uyenzile kukujonga kwisichazi-magama saseDolophini ukufumana amakhulu amagama amatsha kwezi meko zomntu. Kodwa buyela kubahlobo ngezibonelelo zesondo. Yintoni ekufuneka uyazi ngayo?
Inxalenye yembali
Masiqale ekuqaleni.
Emuva kwiintsuku zomqolomba, uNed, i-Neanderthal mhlawumbi yayingumntu wokuqala owazibandakanya nabahlobo ngezibonelelo zokwabelana ngesondo noNancy waseNeanderthal. Ngamanye amagama, kuya kuba kufanelekile ukuthi isini se-FWB sihlala siyinxalenye yoluntu.
Ngokufika konxibelelwano olubanzi kuzo zonke iintlobo zalo, i-FWB iyathethwa nje kwaye yamkelwe ngenkulungwane yama-21 kunokuba yayinjalo kumaxesha angaphambili.
Nokuba yamkelwe okanye ayamkelwanga kwaye / okanye yamkelwe ngabaninzi kwezi ntsuku ngumcimbi opheleleyo. Eso sisigqibo sakho kwaye sixhomekeke kwimfundo nakwimbono yakho yesini. Khawukhumbule nje ukuba yamkelwe njengenxalenye yesimo sokuziphatha ngokwesondo kubantu abaninzi. Ngaloo nto njengendawo yokudlala kunye nemvelaphi, makhe sijonge ngakumbi kubahlobo abaneenzuzo zesini.
Ke yintoni kanye kanye eyenza umhlobo onolwalamano nezibonelelo?
Okokuqala, ukusetyenziswa kwegama "ubudlelwane" kuyolula kancinci. "Amalungiselelo" iya kuba lixesha elingcono.
Abahlobo abanezibonelelo banokujongwa ngokubanzi ngolu hlobo: abantu ababini banomdla omnye komnye, kodwa abafuni ukuzibophelela kubudlelwane. Leyo yinkcazo yamathambo angenanto.
Kukho, ewe, umahluko kulo mxholo. Akukho xesha lamkelweyo ngokubanzi okanye umda wexesha kolu hlobo lwamalungiselelo.
Umahluko phakathi kwabahlobo kunye nezibonelelo kunye nobudlelwane bezothando
Abahlobo abanolwalamano kunye nezibonelelo banokuthi kwaye bahlala beguquka ukuba babe ngabantu abathandanayo, kodwa ubudlelwane obunothando abufane buye bube ngumhlobo onobuhlobo, nangona oku kusenzeka ngamanye amaxesha.
Kwaye inkcubeko edumileyo iyakhankanywa
Igama elithi "abahlobo abanezibonelelo" laye laziwa kakhulu kwaye lasasazeka ngenxa yomboniso bhanyabhanya ka-2011 onelo gama, u-Mila Kunis noJustin Timberlake.
Ewe kunjalo, le rom-com iziko elijikeleze ukuba ingaba iinkwenkwezi ezimbini zinokuba nomhlobo na kunye nezibonelelo ubudlelwane obuvela kubuhlobo babo. Kwifashoni yokwenyani yaseHollywood, iingxaki ziyavela xa iimvakalelo zokwenene zivela, kwaye ubudlelwane babo be-FWB buba bubudlelwane obunzulu, obunentsingiselo.
Inokusebenza njani le nto?
Kwabanye abantu, ulungiselelo lwe-FWB lulunge ngokugqibeleleyo. Iimeko, apho oku kungasebenza khona, zininzi. Ukuba umntu ubandakanyeka ngokupheleleyo emsebenzini, kwimidlalo, kwinto ayithandayo, kwaye ufuna nje ixesha okanye ixesha eliqhelekileyo lokuzibandakanya kulungiselelo lwe-FWB, kwaye uneqabane elifanayo okanye elikwimeko efanayo, amathuba okuba asebenze.
Ubuzaza abunakungena kwimeko, okanye iimvakalelo zokuba netyala, ezenkolo okanye enye into. Ngaba ukho umntu owenzakalayo? Hayi.
Izikhokelo ezinengqiqo kulwalamano lwe-FWB
Kuba oku ayikokuthandana, kubalulekile ukubeka imigaqo esisiseko kuqala.
Omabini la maqela kufuneka axoxe ngokuphandle nangokuvulekileyo malunga nokuba yintoni le, kwaye ibaluleke ngokulinganayo, le ayisiyiyo le.
Kuyavunyelwana ngemida.
Umgqatswa ofanelekileyo wobudlelwane be-FWB ngumntu onomdla kuye kodwa ongeyonxalenye yesangqa sabahlobo bakho.
Ngale ndlela ukuba ulungiselelo lwakho aluphumeleli kwaye awuzukusebenza, awuzukubeka emngciphekweni wokungena kuye kwiimbutho zokuzonwabisa. Oko kunokuba yinto engathandekiyo yiyo loo nto kungcono ukuba ufumane umntu ongenalo unxibelelwano nakwabahlobo bakho.
Ihlabathi aliyondawo incinci
Kuyafana nokungabinalo ulungiselelo lwe-FWB nomntu ovela kwisangqa sabahlobo bakho, yeyona nto inobulumko ukukhetha umntu ongahlali kwikona okanye kwibhloko yakho.
Awufuni ukumbona lo mntu ngalo lonke ixesha uphuma emnyango wangaphambili, naxa usevenkile enkulu ukhetha ukutya okuziinkozo kwasekuseni okanye ukuhlamba umlomo. Umgama wejografi yindawo yokudibanisa xa ubandakanyeka kumhlobo onobuhlobo nezibonelelo. Ewe kunjalo, ukuba kuya kufuneka uwele imigca yelizwe, oko kunokuba kude kakhulu!
Eminye imigaqo
Ngokucacileyo, (kwaye kuninzi, owona mthetho unzima ukuwugcina), akufuneki uwele loo mgca ube kukukhanuka okupheleleyo kunye nokuthandana.
Omabini amaqabane kufuneka abe kwiphepha elinye ukusuka ekufumaneni oku. Enye into eyiyo: sebenzisa ulawulo lokuzalwa. Eli iya kuba lelinye lawona maxesha mabi ekunokwenzeka kuwo omabini amaqabane ukuba ajongane nokukhulelwa okungacwangciswanga.
Isiseko esinye se-FWB ayisiyonto inzima yokubandakanyeka ngokweemvakalelo, kwaye ukukhulelwa okungacwangciswanga kunjalo kanye.
Omabini amaqabane kufuneka agcine ukuthumela imiyalezo ubuncinci, ayisiyiyo i-BFF yakho. Gcina ubuso bakho ubuso ngobuso kwiincoko ezikhanyayo.Lo ayinguye umntu ekufuneka utyhile naye iimfihlo ezinzulu zeemvakalelo okanye iimvakalelo ezinamandla zezopolitiko; ungafumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho lineenkolelo zopolitiko ezichasene nezakho ongenakho ukufikelela kuzo.
Kwaye bahlala kamnandi ngonaphakade
Ewe, hayi. Ukuphela kwentsomi kuluhlobo olwahlukileyo lobudlelwane. Kodwa yeyiphi indlela ebalaseleyo yokuphelisa ubudlelwane be-FWB? Elula. Ngelixa kusahamba kakuhle. Ngale ndlela akukho thuba lokuba ijike iye emazantsi.
Elona cebiso lililo kukuyiphelisa ngokukhawuleza, njengokukhulula i-band-aid, kunokuba buhlungu kwimizuzwana embalwa, kodwa emva koko iphelile.