Umxholo
- Ukuthumela imiyalezo kulungile
- Iziphumo kwimpilo yengqondo
- Iindlela ezili-9 zokufuna ukuzixolela
- 1. Yamkele ingxaki
- 2. Yiba nomonde kwaye ube novelwano
- 3. Cela uxolo ngempazamo oyenzileyo
- 4. Sukunamathela kwiimpawu
- 5. Qhuba iimvakalelo zakho
- 6. Funa unyango, iingcebiso kunye nenkxaso kwezentlalo
- 7. Ziqhelise ukuzinika ingcebiso nokuzithanda
- 8. Lungisa ubudlelwane bakho
- 9. Sebenzela kuxolo lwangaphakathi
Kuthatha isibindi kunye nesibindi ukulungiselela ingqondo yakho ukuba uzixolele.
Ukuxolela bubugcisa, inkqubo ethe chu kunye nohambo losindiso lomntu lokufumana uxolo lwengqondo.
Sisakhono ekufuneka usibile xa uhamba kwindlela yobomi bakho kwaye ujongane namaxesha anzima, amaxesha okuthatha isigqibo kunye neemeko ezinzima.
“Unoyolo kangakanani ongakwaziyo ukuzixolela.” ~ U-Publilius Syrus
Ukuthumela imiyalezo kulungile
Ngaphandle kokuxolelwa, umntu uya kuzitshabalalisa ubomi bakhe aze afake kwiimvakalelo ezimbi ngaphakathi kwesifuba sakhe de ziqhume kwaye zimenze aphulukane nayo yonke into.
Ukubambelela kwityala, ukuba lixhoba leziphumo kunye nokuba sesichengeni se-clichés kulula, kodwa kufuneka isibindi ukuze uqhubeke, ubambelele ethembeni, wenze kwakhona kwaye uphinde wenze isenzo sakho ukulungisa ubudlelwane obuqhekekileyo.
“Umntu uyaxolela kwinqanaba alithandayo.” ~ UFrancois de La Rochefoucauld
Iziphumo kwimpilo yengqondo
Uxolelo luphakamisa uxinzelelo olukhulu lwengqondo kwaye lukukhokelele kubomi obuphilileyo bengqondo nobomzimba ngelixa usonyusa isimilo sakho. Kufundisa ukuba ubonakalise imfesane nobubele kuwe nakwabanye.
Sisicwangciso esisebenzayo sokujongana noxinzelelo olubandakanya imigaqo-siseko yothando kunye nobubele kunye nezixhobo eziqala uhambo lokuphila.
"Yiba nobulali kuqala kuwe ukuba unqwenela ukuba mnene nabanye." ~ Lama Ewe
Iindlela ezili-9 zokufuna ukuzixolela
Iindlela ezahlukeneyo ezenziweyo kwilizwe jikelele ezikukhokelela kukuzixolela zichaziwe apha ngezantsi:
1. Yamkele ingxaki
Inyathelo lokuqala kukuchonga nokwamkela ingxaki ekukhathazayo. Yazi ukuba nguwe, kwaye nguwe kuphela, onokuzisindisa.
Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba ujonge iindawo ekufuneka usebenzele kuzo ukuze ungaphindi impazamo yakho kwixa elizayo.
2. Yiba nomonde kwaye ube novelwano
Uvelwano yingcambu yobubele kunye noluntu.
Thina, njengabantu, zizinto ezinesiphene ngokugqibeleleyo ezifuna ukugqibelela kuyo yonke into. Ngelishwa, kwaukucinga ngokugqibelela kusenza sixhalabe kuba sinako ukugqwesa, hayi ukugqibelela.
Sinokugqwesa ngokufunda, siphucule kwaye sihlale sinomonde nathi.
3. Cela uxolo ngempazamo oyenzileyo
Nje ukuba wenze impazamo, ayinakuphinda yenziwe.
Kodwa, ukubakho kokufaka isenzo sokulungisa esinokuthi siphinde sibuye, sibuyele umva okanye sibuyekeze ingxaki sihleli sihleli. Zazise wena kunye nabathandekayo bakho ukuba uxolile kwaye unyanisekile kwaye uyaxolisa ngomonakalo ojongene nawo.
Qiniseka ukuba uyakulumka kwaye uziphathe kakuhle ngexesha elizayo.
4. Sukunamathela kwiimpawu
Kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba ubomi buqhubeka phakathi kwazo zonke izidubedube kunye nengxaki.
Ekuphela kwendlela yokuqhubela phambili kukuboleka ukholo oluncinci, uphinde ufunde kwaye uqhubeke nokukhula. Izinto ozenzileyo kwixa elidlulileyo azikukuchazi ukuba ufundile kubo.
Ke, kwixesha elizayo xa usenza isiganeko esifanayo, ungakhetha ukwenza ngokwahlukileyo kwaye ke, ube negalelo elihle.
5. Qhuba iimvakalelo zakho
Thatha ikhefu kuyo yonke into ukuze uqheleke. Xa usamkela iimpazamo zakho, uyetyisa ukuzisola, ukuzisola, kunye nokuziva unetyala ngako kwaye uguquke waba ngumntu onengqondo.
Ngapha koko, inceda iimvakalelo zakho ukuba zehle ukuze ukwazi ukucinga ngokwengqondo. Ukuqhubekeka neemvakalelo zakho kungathatha ixesha kodwa kuyathembisa ngokwaneleyo.
6. Funa unyango, iingcebiso kunye nenkxaso kwezentlalo
Ngamaxesha anomngcipheko, xa kungekho enye into ekusebenzela kwaye ugqiba ukuzisola nokuzibek 'ityala, kubalulekile ukuba wabelane ngeengcinga zakho kwaye ubonakalise imeko yakho yengqondo kwabo ubathandayo.
Yenza unyango, ucamngce, uthandaze kwaye ufune uncedo kwezentlalo ukukunceda uzibuyisele.
7. Ziqhelise ukuzinika ingcebiso nokuzithanda
Ukuzicebisa ngokwakho kuluncedo xa udiniwe kukunxibelelana nabantu ekuhlaleni kwaye akukho nto ibonakala inceda.
Ukuzikhathalela nokuzicebisa ngokwakho yindlela yokuzinceda ebangela ukuzithemba nokuzithemba kwaye ikuncede ujonge ubomi bakho ngokuthe ngcembe.
8. Lungisa ubudlelwane bakho
Wonke umsitho uzisa izifundo ebomini bakho.
Ukwazi ukuba ngamava okufunda okukuncedileyo ukuba ufumane ubulumko kunye nemvo yoxanduva kufanelekile ukulungisa ubudlelwane bakho obuqhekekileyo.
Ubudlelwane budinga ixesha, inkathalo kunye nentembeko, kwaye bunokulungiswa ukuba uxolisa ngokunyanisekileyo komnye umntu, zisebenze ngokwakho kwaye uqhubeke nokuzama.
9. Sebenzela kuxolo lwangaphakathi
Unokulufumana uxolo lwangaphakathi ngokuhlala uphaphile kwaye uzilolonge kwinguqulelo yakho ebalaseleyo.
Qiniseka ukuba uyacamngca, uzilolonga, uchithe ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye nabahlobo bakho kunye nosapho kwaye ugcine umsebenzi / umdlalo ulinganise ebomini.