Umxholo
- 1. Ukuphazanyiswa nokungamhoyi
- 2. Ukujongele phantsi yonke into ayenzayo
- 3. Ukulahla inenekazi lakho
- 4. Ukuguqula okudlulileyo kwinto yangoku okanye umona ongenampilo
- 5. Ukuzingca xa uqala ukukubona
Ngamanye amaxesha indoda idibana nomntu obhinqileyo oyithandayo. Kubuhlungu ukuba le ndoda ayikhathali ngeemvakalelo zayo kwaye ibonisa isimo sengqondo, esoyikeka ngokwaneleyo ukubulala ubudlelwane babo.
Abo bangakuqondiyo ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuxabisa iqabane lakho, icebo lam kukubonisa uthando lwabo ngokukhawuleza. Sukuvumela inenekazi lakho lihambe ngokwenza iimpazamo zobudlelwane bokungazi.
Mbonise iimvakalelo zakho kwaye ungaze wenze ezi mpazamo zobudlelwane ndiza kuthetha ngazo kwisicatshulwa.
1. Ukuphazanyiswa nokungamhoyi
Imiyalelo efana 'Thula!' okanye 'Vala umlomo wakho' xa ezama ukuthetha into, ayifanelekanga kakhulu kwaye ihlala isetyenziswa. Yi mbi mithatha amadoda aqhele ukwenza kubudlelwane.
Iya kuba lihlazo elikhulu kwinenekazi lakho ukuba ubonakalisa le ndlela yokuziphatha phambi kwabantu. Ukuhlekisa ngaye ngethoni ehlekisayo nokuphakamisa isandla sakho njengophawu lokuba intombazana yakho imyeke ukuthetha sisiqalo sesiphelo.
Akukho ndoda okanye mfazi uya kulunga kwisimo esinjalo. Ukuziphatha okunjalo kubonisa ngokucacileyo iqabane lakho ukuba akathethi nto kuwe kwaye uzibona ungoyena ungaphezulu kwakhe.
Ubuhlobo bakho buza kutshabalala xa uqhubeka unje. Kukho enye indlela. Zama ukuba nobubele kwaye uzikhumbuze malunga namaxesha amnandi enaninawo nobabini.
Mmamele kwaye uzame ukuba nobulali. Ngamanye amaxesha, amantombazana ethu kufuneka athethe nathi. Bafuna ukuziva ukuba kukho umntu obahloniphayo.
2. Ukujongele phantsi yonke into ayenzayo
Enye ye Eyona mpazamo inkulu amadoda ayenzayo kubudlelwane, ujongela phantsi abafazi nokuba angazama ngantoni.
Ukuba lo mfazi uyakuthanda ukuzoba, endaweni yenkxaso, uyakufumana ukugculelwa kwaye iqabane lakhe liyakumxelela ukuba akonelanga kwaye akanetalente.
Ngamanye amaxesha umfazi unokuva ukuba akanangqondo ngokwaneleyo kwaye uphantsi kwenqanaba lendoda yakhe. Ukuba uzithatha ngokungathandekiyo ezi zithuko, ziyakumenza azive engento yanto.
Ukuziva ungenamsebenzi yenye yezona mpazamo zibuhlungu kumadoda nabasetyhini. Andizukubaxa xa ndisithi ayisiyampilo kwaye iyabulala. Gcina iqabane lakho kule mvakalelo yoyikekayo.
Unokuba nobubele. Xa inenekazi lakho lipheke into enothando kunye nomnqweno, nje sukumgxeka. Xa ephupha ngento ethile, phupha naye.
Mxhase. Wonke umntu kufuneka alandele iphupha lakhe. Abantu bakunye ku zixhasane.
3. Ukulahla inenekazi lakho
Ubukele umabonwakude esofeni njengo-Al Bundy okanye uskrolela kwifowuni yakho okwishumi elivisayo, ukhangela iindaba zamva nje ze-Facebook. Intombazana ifike ikubambe. Uyamomotheka kwaye ufuna ingqalelo yakho.
Ukugxothwa kwabasetyhini ngaba Iimpazamo zolwalamano olubi kakhulu ezenziwa ngabantu nantsi indlela abenza ngayo.
- Akukho mpendulo. Uhleli ngentetho engakhathaliyo ngokungathi akekho.
- Impendulo yakho ithi 'ndibukele iTV' okanye 'ndixakekile'. Eli cue lanele ukumbulala umnqweno wakhe wokusondela kuwe.
- 'Ndiyaphumla.' 'Ungandichukumisi.' 'Phuma.' Ewe kunjalo, sisenayo intetho yokungakhathali.
Nganye kwezi mpendulo yingcali enamava yokubulala ubudlelwane. Kuthetha ukuba unayo intokazi yakho ngento oyinikiweyo.
Usenokucinga ukuba uyamqhatha. Kukuziphatha okubi kakhulu ukubonisa. Ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva uya kudinwa kwaye uya kuba yindoda eyedwa.
4. Ukuguqula okudlulileyo kwinto yangoku okanye umona ongenampilo
Umona ongenampilo ngumbulali oqinisekileyo wolwalamano. Uninzi lwethu lunabahlobo abangamantombazana kunye namakhwenkwe, ababesakuba ngabafazi kunye nabayeni bangaphambili. Ukuba uyabamonela, ayilunganga ukuzithemba kwakho.
Umona onjalo uvela ngesiqhelo xa umntu owayesakuba sisoka lakhe eyindoda ephumeleleyo. Kutheni le nto ekunye nam xa enokuba naye. Impendulo yile, xa enawe, ungcono.
Ukuba wahlukana naye, unengxaki. Kufuneka uzithembe. Nguwe ophumeleleyo. Musa ukuhlala ngoloyiko. Ngale ndlela, wenza ukuba intombazana yakho ihlekise.
Akukho ndoda okanye mfazi uya konwaba ukuba ukrokrelwa ukukopela ngalo lonke ixesha. Xa iqabane lakho likuphinda oku kaninzi, oku urhano lunokukuphambanisa.
Ayisiyondlela ilungileyo yokubonisa uthando lwakho kodwa yindlela ethile yokuphulukana nentombazana yakho. Zama ukumthemba. Xa abantu bekunye, kungcono ukukholana. Ngaphandle koko, akukho ngongoma.
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5. Ukuzingca xa uqala ukukubona
Le yenye yeentshaba ezimbi kulwalamano. Nantsi lapho akukho ndawo yokuzingca xa abantu ababini bethandana. Sisifo kwaye siyakubulala ubudlelwane bakho ngokukhawuleza okanye kancinci.
- Unencoko nentombazana yakho apho ungaya khona kumhla. Indawo ayikufutshane nekhaya lakho. Uzama ukumcenga ukuba babonane kwenye indawo kuba kukude kakhulu kuwe.
- Emva kokuba enze ivenkile kwintombazana yakho uyakucela ukuba uze kumnceda. Impendulo yakho kukuba uxakekile.
- Ucela iglasi yamanzi okanye uye kumthengela ikofu. Uyala ukuyenza kwaye umxelele ukuba udiniwe okanye uthi ngqo 'Yenze ngokwakho'.
Ukuthetha ngeyona mpazamo iphosakeleyo yobudlelwane, apho omnye okanye nobabini niyazingca ngempazamo.
Abafana abaze bawaxabise amanenekazi akho emva kokuba ulahlekile. Sukuba yinxalenye yeli cwecwe lesidenge. Bathande xa bekunye nawe. Abanye abantu odibana nabo kube kanye ebomini.
Yenza umfazi wakho azive ekhethekileyo kuba kunjalo ngokwenene. Babonise okona kulungileyo kuni. Bathande nje kwaye uzame konke okusemandleni akho ukuba ungenzi iimpazamo ezibi kangaka zobudlelwane.