Umxholo
- 1.Ukuganga okungaphezulu
- 2. Umsebenzi wokudibanisa ukuphefumla
- 3. Amehlo omphefumlo
- 4. Izinto ezintathu
- 5. Iindlebe ezimbini, umlomo omnye
- Ukongezwa kwezibini zokulala ngaphambi kwexesha lokulala kunye neengcebiso zokusondelelana okungcono
Abanye bethu basenokuba lixhoba lenkolelo yokuba "uthando lwenene lwenzeka ngokwendalo" kunye nentsingiselo yokuba "umsebenzi akufuneki usebenze" kubudlelwane bothando. Ukuba unetyala lokucinga, unokuba sengxakini.
Inyani yile, uthando lokwenyani luthatha umsebenzi wokwenene kunye nomzamo, kudala emva komhla wokungena okanye ukutshintshiselana ngezibhambathiso. Kodwa ukwazi indlela yokwakha ngomnye umxholo ngokupheleleyo.
Ukusondelelana emtshatweni Yindibaniselwano yokusondelana ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokweemvakalelo, ngokwasengqondweni, nangokwasemoyeni okhulayo kunye neqabane lakho njengoko nabelana ngobomi benu kunye.
Ukwakha ukusondelelana emtshatweni kubalulekile ekomelezeni iqhina elenzelwa sisibini. Ke zingenza ntoni izibini ukwakha ubuhlobo emtshatweni wazo?
Yiba yimidlalo yokuthandana kwabantu abatshatileyo, umthambo osondeleyo kwizibini ezitshatileyo, okanye imisebenzi yokwakha ubudlelwane kwizibini ekufanele uhlale uzabalazela ukufumana iindlela zokugcina ubudlelwane bakho busondele.
Vumela eli nqaku likulungiselele ukuba uqalise ngezinye ukuzilolonga emtshatweni kwabantu abatshatileyo ukuba baphinde banxibelelane ezihlala zicetyiswa kunyango lwezibini.
Ezi 'zimbini zokwenza ulwalamano olusondeleyo' ngumqeqeshi wobudlelwane uJordani Grey ziya kusebenza ngokumangalisayo ebomini bakho bomtshato!
1.Ukuganga okungaphezulu
Masikhawuleze izinto ngokulula. Khetha ixesha, nokuba kusebusuku okanye kusasa, kwaye uchithe elo xesha lixabisekileyo ungxola imizuzu engama-30 ubuncinci. Ukuba uqhele ukugoba kobu bude bexesha, yonyuse iyure.
Kutheni isebenza?
Ukusondela emzimbeni yenye yeempawu zokudibanisa. Iipheromones, amandla e-kinetic, kunye nokusabela kweekhemikhali okwenzeka nje ngokurhabaxa nothando lwakho kwenza ukuba kubekho unxibelelwano oluyimfuneko kubudlelwane obusempilweni.
Awusebenzi nje kuphela njengokunyanga ngokwesondo kodwa kunye nokuzilolonga ngokweemvakalelo.
2. Umsebenzi wokudibanisa ukuphefumla
Njengabaninzi imisebenzi esondeleyo, le inokubonakala ngathi iyabhanxa ekuqaleni, kodwa vula ingqondo yakho ukuba uyizame kwaye uyayithanda. Wena neqabane lakho niya kujongana nihleli phantsi, kwaye niyichukumise kancinci ibunzi lenu, nivale amehlo.
Uya kuqala ukuphefumla, nzulu, kunye nokuphefumla ngokuzithandela kwi-tandem. Inani eliphefumlelweyo lokuphefumla kwi-tandem liqala nge-7, kodwa wena neqabane lakho ninokuthatha inxaxheba kwimiphefumlo emininzi njengoko nithanda.
Kutheni isebenza?
Ukuchukumisa, kunye namava ochukumiso, ahambelana nokuphefumla, azisa iimvakalelo zendalo zonxibelelwano ngamandla abelwanayo atshintshiweyo ngebunzi okanye kwi-chakra "yesithathu".
Oku kunokuchaphazela ezinye zezona zixhobo zethu zibaluleke kakhulu kubuchule bethu bokuzibandakanya kwizinto zokomoya kunye nokutshintshiselana ngamandla kwiindlela eziphilayo.
3. Amehlo omphefumlo
Kule ukwakha umthambo osondeleyo, nihleli nje bajongana kwaye nijongane ngamehlo, nicinga ukuba amehlo "lifestile emphefumlweni". Uninzi lwezi ntlobo zokuzilolonga zinokubonakala ngathi zi-corny ekuqaleni, le iklasikhi.
Nangona ungaziva ungakhululekanga ekuqaleni, njengoko uqhele ukuhlala kunye nokujongana ngamehlo, umthambo uyaphumla kwaye ucamngce. Zama ukuyibeka emculweni ukuze ube nemizuzu emi-4-5 yokugxilwa kwexesha.
Kutheni isebenza?
Olu hlobo lokuzilolonga luthanda ukunciphisa izinto. Kufuneka yenziwe amatyeli aliqela ngeveki ukuze ufumane inzuzo ephezulu. Kweli hlabathi lixakekileyo, ukugxila kwimizuzu emi-4 ukuya kwemihlanu ngokujonga nje emehlweni kunceda isibini ukuba siphumle kwaye siphinde sihlangane.
Ewe kulungile ukuqhwanyaza ngexesha lomthambo, kodwa zama ukunqande ukuthetha. Ezinye izibini zisebenzisa ingoma emi-4 okanye emi-5 ukuseta imvelaphi kunye nexesha.
4. Izinto ezintathu
Wena neqabane lakho ningadlala le kodwa nithande. Omnye wenu unokuchaza izinto zakho zonke ngexesha elinye, okanye unokutshintsha. Cinga ngemibuzo ofuna ukuyibuza; zibhale phantsi ukuba kuyanceda.
Imibuzo iya kubhalwa ngolu hlobo:
Zeziphi izinto ezi-3 oza kufuna ukuzitya kwi-dessert kule nyanga?
Zeziphi izinto ezi-3 oqinisekileyo ukuba uza kuhamba nazo ukhenketha ukuya kwisiqithi esikweleenjiko?
Zinto zini ezi-3 onethemba lokuzenza kunye esingazizamanga?
Le yimizekelo nje; ufumana umbono.
Kutheni isebenza?
Le yi ukusondelelana kunye nomtshato umthambo wonxibelelwano. Kwandisa ubudlelwane phakathi kwakho ngokwandisa izakhono zonxibelelwano kwaye kubonelela ngolwazi lweengcinga zabanye, iimvakalelo kunye nomdla.
Kuyanceda njengoko umdla unokutshintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha. Iimpendulo ziya kubonelela ngolwazi olunokuthi lubonakale luncedo kwixesha elizayo.
5. Iindlebe ezimbini, umlomo omnye
Kulo msebenzi wokumamela osebenzayo, elinye iqabane lithetha okanye "likhuphe" ngesihloko esikhethiweyo, ngelixa elinye iqabane kufuneka lihlale lijongile, limamele nje kwaye lingathethi.
Nobabini niyamangaliswa yindlela engeyiyo eyendalo ukuba inokuthi imamele ngaphandle kokuthetha. Emva kwemizuzu emihlanu, imizuzu emithathu, okanye imizuzu eyisibhozo igqityiwe, umphulaphuli ke ukhululekile ukuvakalisa ingxelo.
Kutheni isebenza?
Ukuziqhelanisa nokumamela lolunye uqheliso lonxibelelwano oluphucula amandla ethu okuphulaphula ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye sithathe enye indlela yokuqonda.
Ukujolisa kubo ngenyameko ngaphandle kweziphazamiso kubanika uluvo lwengqalelo yethu engaphelelanga; into ebaluleke kakhulu kodwa enqabileyo kwihlabathi lanamhlanje elixakekileyo.
Ukumamela ngabom kusikhumbuza ukuba sihlale sigxile komnye umntu ngaphandle kokuqinisekisa izimvo zethu ngaphambi kwexesha. Ekupheleni kwalo msebenzi, uya kutshintshana ngeendawo njengesithethi / njengomphulaphuli.
Ukongezwa kwezibini zokulala ngaphambi kwexesha lokulala kunye neengcebiso zokusondelelana okungcono
Nazi ezinye zeendlela zokulala ezimangalisayo zokuzibandakanya kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla ukuze usondelelane ngcono:
- Gcina iifowuni zakho kude: Ayisiyiyo kuphela ukugcina ifowuni ilungile kubudlelwane bakho kodwa ukukhanya kwe-elektroniki okungalunganga kuyanceda nakwimpilo yokulala. Iya kusebenza ngokumangalisayo kumgangatho wokulala oza kukwazi ukufumana.
Beka phambili unxibelelwano lwakho neqabane lakho kangangexesha elithile ngaphambi kokuba ulale - thetha malunga nosuku, iimvakalelo zakho okanye enye into esengqondweni yakho. Qiniseka ukuba ucima iifowuni okanye ukhanyise amakhandlela ambalwa anuka kamnandi okanye amabini ukuze ubambane ngcono.
- Ukulala ze: Ukuthatha zonke iimpahla zakho ngaphambi kokuba ulale kuqinisekisile izibonelelo zempilo (ilawula i-cortisol, ilungile kwimpilo yesini kunye nokuphucula umgangatho wolusu). Le yenye yezona zibini zilungileyo zokuzilolonga. Ukongeza, ikwavumela wena kunye neqabane lakho ukuba nibe nolusu ngakumbi kunxibelelwano lolusu olukhokelela ekukhululweni kwe-oxytocin. Kwaye kwenza ukuba ulalane ngesondo kusasa kube lula kakhulu!
- Massage omnye komnye: Ukuphululana yinto eqhelekileyo ukuyigcina! Khawufane ucinge ukuba ubenosuku olunzima kwaye uncitshiswa liqabane lakho ngothambiso lothando. Nokuba siyintoni na isizathu sakho, ukuphulula izixhobo sisixhobo esihle sokuphucula ukuphumla ngaphambi kokulala kunye nokunxibelelana kwezibini.
- Bonisa umbulelo: Ngaba uyazi ukuba yintoni efunxa ukuphela kosuku? Ukugxekwa. Ngoku yithabathele indawo ngombulelo kwaye uza kuwubona umohluko owenzayo ebomini bakho. Yithi enkosi ekupheleni kosuku kwiqabane lakho kwaye uyakuqaphela ukuba ubomi buba njani.
- Yabelana ngesondo: Eyona ndlela yokuphinda uqhagamshele ebusuku njengesiqabane kukulala! Ewe awungekhe uyenze yonke imihla. Kodwa, dibanani ngokusondeleyo / ngesondo kwaye nikhangele iindlela ezintsha kunye ezingenamda ngobusuku ngabunye.
Nikezela ubuncinci imizuzu engama-30-60 yosuku lwakho kwi izibini zonyango kunye neqabane lakho kwaye nibone isiphumo sokuya phezulu kuyo yonke imimandla yobomi bakho.