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Umxholo
- Yintoni iGamophobia?
- Ixhaphake kangakanani iGamophobia?
- Yintoni ebangela ukoyika umtshato?
- 1. Ulwalamano oludlulileyo aluphumelelanga
- 2. Abantwana bomtshato
- 3. Ukoyika ukuhlala phantsi
- 4. Imeko yengqondo
- Uloyiko olwahlukileyo ngomtshato
- 5 Iimpawu zokoyika umtshato
- Indlela yokujongana noloyiko lomtshato
- 1. Zivelele
- 2. Thetha neqabane lakho
- 3. Qala ukuchitha ixesha nabantu abatshatileyo
- 4. Cinga ngale nto uyifunayo
- 5. Fumana uvavanyo
- 6. Khangela ingcebiso
- Iindlela zonyango eziluncedo ekujonganeni ne-gamophobia
- 1. Unyango ngengqondo
- 2. Unyango ngokuziphatha
- 3. Unyango lokubonisa
- Yintoni omele uyenze ukuba iqabane lakho line-gamophobia
- 1. Thetha nabo
- 2. Thetha ngonyango
- 3. Cinga ngezinto onokukhetha kuzo
- Isiphelo
Ngaba ukrokrela ukuba iqabane lakho liwoyika umtshato? Ngaba ulahlekelwe yindlela yokujongana nayo? Eli nqaku lelakho!
Xa ucinga ukuba iqabane lakho linokoyika umtshato oluthintela ulwalamano lwakho, uya kufuna ukwazi ngokuqinisekileyo. Qhubeka ufunda lonke ulwazi oludingayo malunga nokuba iqabane lakho line-gamophobia okanye yintoni enokwenziwa.
Yintoni iGamophobia?
Igama elithi gamophobia lithetha nje ukuba umntu woyika ukuzibophelela okanye umtshato. Oku akuthethi ukuba umntu uyathandabuza xa ecinga ngomtshato. Yiphobia, eluhlobo lwengqondo.
I-phobia luhlobo lokuphazamiseka koxinzelelo, ekuvumela ukuba wazi ukuba umntu ufumana ixhala xa ecinga ngemitshato, ukutshata, okanye ubomi bokuzibophelela, oku kunokuthetha ukuba bafumana i-gamophobia.
Zama kwakhona:Ngaba Ndiyoyika Ukuzibophelela
Olu hlobo lwe-phobia aluyonto enokuthi ihambe ngokukhawuleza okanye iyodwa. Kubandakanya uloyiko olungenangqondo lomtshato, ohluke kakhulu kunokoyika nje ngomtshato.
Ixhaphake kangakanani iGamophobia?
I-Gamophobia ibaluleke kakhulu kwi-phobia yomtshato kwaye yenye yeephobias ezithile umntu anokuzifumana. Kuqikelelwa ukuba malunga ne-10%, nika okanye uthathe ipesenti ezimbalwa, unesifo esithile sabantu e-US.
Le phobia khange ihlolwe ngokusondeleyo ngokwaneleyo ukumisela ukuba bangaphi abantu abachaphazelekayo kuyo.
Yintoni ebangela ukoyika umtshato?
Kukho izizathu ezimbalwa zokuba kutheni umntu esoyika ukutshata.
1. Ulwalamano oludlulileyo aluphumelelanga
Isizathu esinye sokuba umntu oyike umtshato kukuba babenobudlelwane obaye baba mbi. Ukuba umntu unonxibelelwano olunye okanye nangaphezulu oluye lwaphela, oku kunokubashiya beziva bekhathazekile ngokutshata.
Banokucinga ukuba lonke ubudlelwane babo buya kuba yingxaki okanye buphele.
2. Abantwana bomtshato
Esinye isizathu sokuba umntu angafuni kutshata kukuba basuka kwikhaya elinabazali abaqhawule umtshato.
Banokuziva ngathi abafuni ukuphela njengabazali babo okanye ukuba banokuqhawula umtshato kuba benze njalo ngabazali babo.
3. Ukoyika ukuhlala phantsi
Ngamanye amaxesha umntu usenokungafuni kuhlala phantsi nomntu omnye. Le ngcinga inokubenza babe nexhala.
4. Imeko yengqondo
Ukongeza, umntu unokufumana olunye uhlobo lomcimbi wezempilo yengqondo ekufuneka ujongiwe. Oku kunokuba negalelo kuxinzelelo lomtshato ngamanye amaxesha.
Ukuba ezi zinto zibalulekile kuwe okanye kwiqabane lakho, kuya kufuneka uthethe ngazo. Banokuba neenyawo ezibandayo okanye banoloyiko lomtshato, olunokufuna ukunyangwa.
Uloyiko olwahlukileyo ngomtshato
Xa kuziwa kuloyiko oluphathelene nomtshato, ayisiyiyo nje uloyiko lokuzibophelela emtshatweni.
Ngamanye amaxesha umntu unokuba mathidala ukutshata ngenxa yezinye izizathu.
- Banokuziva ngathi baza kuqhawula umtshato.
- Banokoyika ukuba kuzakubakho ukungathembeki.
- Umntu unokucinga ukuba baya kuthandana nomntu oza kuba liqabane lakhe.
- Banokoyika kuba yinto abangazange bahlangabezana nayo ngaphambili.
- Abanye banokutolika ukuba ukungonwabi kwabo phambi komtshato kuthetha ukuba umtshato awuzukuphumelela
Ezi zizathu zimbalwa zokuba kutheni umntu esoyika umtshato, kodwa wena okanye iqabane lakho ninokuba nesizathu esahlukileyo soloyiko lwenu.
Ukuba ufuna ukwazi ngakumbi malunga noloyiko lokutshata, bukela le vidiyo:
5 Iimpawu zokoyika umtshato
Kukho imiqondiso emininzi yokwazi xa kufikwa ekuchongeni ukuba iqabane lakho linoloyiko malunga nokutshata.
Nazi iimpawu ze-gamophobia ekufuneka unike ingqalelo kuzo ukuba uyazibona.
- Uvalo okanye uloyiko xa ucinga ngomtshato.
- Ukudakumba xa kufikwa ekuthetheni okanye ukucinga ngomtshato kunye nokuzibophelela.
- Uhlangabezana nokubila, awukwazi ukuphefumla, uziva ungonwabanga, okanye izinga lokubetha kwentliziyo yakho liphakanyisiwe xa ujikeleze imitshato okanye ucinga ngomtshato.
- Uyakuphepha ukudibana nabahlobo kunye namalungu osapho atshatileyo.
- Ukubetha kwentliziyo okukhawulezayo, isicaphucaphu, isiyezi kunye nezinye iimpawu zomzimba zoxinzelelo kunye noloyiko
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba nabani na unokuba novalo malunga nomtshato okanye azive ngathi umtshato uyandoyikisa, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba uhlangabezana ne-gamophobia.
Kwimeko yokoyika umtshato, ukuba uyahlangabezana nawo, unokuchaphazeleka kakhulu kuwo kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bakho.
Awungekhe uvumele ubudlelwane bakho bubaxeke kakhulu, okanye ungabatyhalela kude abo uza kutshata nabo xa uqala ukuba neemvakalelo ngabo. Unokwazi nokucima yonke imitshato.
Indlela yokujongana noloyiko lomtshato
Zininzi iindlela zokujongana nokukhathazeka emtshatweni wakho. Unokukhangela unyango kolu hlobo lwephobia.
Nanku ukujonga kukhetho olufumanekayo kuwe.
1. Zivelele
Unokuba noloyiko lomtshato, kwaye khange ucinge ngesizathu soko.
Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukufumanisa ukuba inokuba yintoni ingxaki, wakuba wenze oko, ungaqala ukuhamba ngokudlula kuyo okanye ukumisela into ofuna ukuyenza ukunyanga le ngxaki.
2. Thetha neqabane lakho
Xa uziva ngathi unokuba ne-gamophobia, kubalulekile ukuba uthethe neqabane lakho malunga noku. Kufuneka bayazi inyani, kwaye kufuneka ubathethelele kwaye uthembeke kubo. Banokukunceda ukuba usebenze ngayo, ngakumbi ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuba ufuna ukuya kunyango.
Esinye isizathu sokuba uthethe neqabane lakho kukuba, abaziva ngathi uloyiko lwakho kungenxa yento abayenzileyo. Uloyiko lwakho lunokushiya iqabane lakho livakalelwa ngathi lenze into engalunganga ukuba awubachazanga.
3. Qala ukuchitha ixesha nabantu abatshatileyo
Ukuba awuqinisekanga ngabantu abatshatileyo okanye emitshatweni, kunokuba luncedo ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabo. Ungatya isidlo sangokuhlwa endlwini yomhlobo wakho okanye ubamemele kwakho.
Njengoko ubona indlela abadibana ngayo, inokukunika ukuqonda ngomtshato kwaye inokukunceda ukuba usebenze ngezinye zeembono onazo malunga nentloko yakho.
4. Cinga ngale nto uyifunayo
Unokubona izibonelelo zokucinga malunga nento oyifunayo ebomini bakho nakubudlelwane bakho. Ukucaca malunga nokuba ufuna ntoni ngobomi bakho kunokukunceda ubone ukuba ungazifeza njani iinjongo zakho.
Ukongeza, kuya kufuneka ubucinge ubomi bakho kwiminyaka eli-10. Ukuba ufuna iqabane lakho lihlale ecaleni kwakho, kunokuba kuluncedo ukusebenza kuloyiko lwakho lomtshato. Thetha nabo malunga neenjongo zakho kwaye uqiniseke ukuba ninokufumana zombini le nto niyifunayo.
5. Fumana uvavanyo
Ukuba unoloyiko malunga nokutshata kwaye uzive unento ebaluleke ngakumbi kunaleyo, unokufuna ukuzijonga.
Kukho ithuba lokuba ube nemeko yempilo okanye imeko yempilo yengqondo efuna ukunyangwa, ekwenza ukuba ube nexhala kwaye woyike. Ugqirha angaqhuba iimvavanyo ukuze wazi ngokuqinisekileyo.
6. Khangela ingcebiso
Iindidi ezimbalwa zeengcebiso ziyafumaneka kumfazi owoyikayo umtshato okanye kwindoda enoloyiko lomtshato. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba unokukhetha ukubona umcebisi kunye, okanye ungaya ngokwakho ukuya kusebenza imicimbi yakho.
Iindlela zonyango eziluncedo ekujonganeni ne-gamophobia
Unyango lolunye lweendlela eziphambili zonyango kunyango lweentlobo ezininzi ze-phobias, kwaye i-gamophobia ayifani.
Ngoncedo olufanelekileyo lobuchwephesha kunye nokuxilongwa, umntu unokulawula kwaye alawule olu loyiko, kwaye aphile ubomi obuqhelekileyo.
1. Unyango ngengqondo
Olu hlobo lonyango luthathwa njengonyango lokuthetha, nto leyo ethetha ukuba ugqirha wakho uya kumamela kwinto oyithethayo. Uyakwazi ukuthetha ngemiba ojamelene nayo kwaye uxelele ugqirha indlela oziva ngayo.
2. Unyango ngokuziphatha
Olu luhlobo olusebenzayo lonyango lweemeko ezahlukeneyo. Ngolu nyango, umcebisi unokukunceda ufunde indlela yokucinga nokwenza ngendlela eyahlukileyo kwiimeko ezithile. Oku kunokuba luncedo ngelixa ufumana u-phobia wakho womtshato.
3. Unyango lokubonisa
Unyango olubonakalayo lunokuba yinto efanelekileyo yokujongana noloyiko lomtshato. Ngolu nyango, unokucelwa ukuba uziveze kwinto leyo woyikayo ukusebenza ngayo.
Oku kunokuthetha ukuya kwimitshato okanye ukuthetha ngezicwangciso zomtshato. Umbono kukuba xa ucinga ngayo kwaye uhambe ngezinto ezibangela uxinzelelo, kunokuba lula ukujongana nazo.
Unokufuna ukuthetha nodokotela wakho malunga neyeza ezinokukunceda uxinzelelo okanye ezinye iimpawu ozifumanayo ngenxa yokwesaba umtshato. Kukho ithuba lokuba imigqaliselo inokukunceda ukuba uphathe ezinye zeempawu zakho ezinzima, nangona kungekho nonyango oluthile kule phobia.
Yintoni omele uyenze ukuba iqabane lakho line-gamophobia
Inokuba ukhe weva abantu besithi, kutheni amadoda esoyika umtshato? Amanye amadoda anokoyika umtshato, kodwa i-phobia ayinanto yakwenza nesini. Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba wenzeni ukuba iqabane lakho lichatshazelwe yi-gamophobia.
Nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa:
1. Thetha nabo
Ukuba unenkxalabo yokuba iqabane lakho linabadlali abangathandaniyo, kubalulekile ukuba uthethe nabo ukuze ubone ukuba baziva njani ngawe. Akukho sizathu sokucinga ukuba ngenxa yokuba umntu esoyika umtshato, abachazi iimvakalelo zabo zokwenyani ngawe.
Babuze ukuba baziva njani, kutheni becinga ukuba bacinga njalo, okanye yintoni ebenza bazive ngolu hlobo. Basenokungazazi iimpendulo kuyo yonke le mibuzo, kodwa kokukhona uyazi, ngcono.
2. Thetha ngonyango
Enye into ukuthetha nomlingane wakho malunga nonyango. Ukuba nobabini nifuna ukuqhubeka nobudlelwane, kuyakufuneka ukuba niyenze njani, kwaye nokuthetha nomcebisi kunokukunceda kuloo nto.
Ungathetha ngeenjongo zakho kunye nendlela enokwazi ngayo ukuqhubela phambili kunye.
Ukongeza, iqabane lakho linokufuna ukutyelela ugqirha ngokwabo ukuze bakwazi ukusebenza ngalo mbandela. Ukuba baya, kuya kufuneka ubaxhase kwesi sigqibo.
3. Cinga ngezinto onokukhetha kuzo
Ukuba iqabane lakho alinanjongo yokuya kunyango okanye ukusebenza ngenxa yokoyika umtshato, kuya kufuneka uthathe isigqibo malunga nento ofuna ukuyenza.
Ukuba uzimisele ukuba nobudlelwane bexesha elide kunye neqabane lakho ngaphandle kokutshata, unokukwazi ukufumana le nto uyifunayo, kodwa ukuba awuzukutshata ngumqhekezi wesivumelwano kuwe, kuya kufuneka ufumanise ukuba yintoni Amanyathelo alandelayo aya kubakho.
Isiphelo
Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba kutheni ndisoyika ukutshata, awuwedwa. Kukho abanye abantu phaya abavakalelwa ngendlela oziva ngayo, kwaye lukhona uncedo. Unokuba novalo oluqhelekileyo malunga nokutshata, kodwa isenokuba yenye into.
Abantu abaninzi bayoyika ngokutshata kunye nazo zonke iinguqu eziza kwenzeka.
Nangaliphi na ixesha ubomi bakho buya kutshintsha kakhulu, kulungile ukuba uzive ungonwabanga malunga noku. Xa unexhala lokutshata, oku kuya kudlula njengoko imini isondela.
Oku kunokuba luloyiko lomtshato okanye i-gamophobia kwaye akunakulindeleka ukuba inyamalale ngaphandle konyango ukuba ayenzi njalo. Ngamanye amaxesha le meko inokukuchaphazela iminyaka emininzi kwaye iyalele indlela obuphila ngayo ubomi bakho.
Ewe kunjalo, akufuneki uvumele ukoyika kwakho umtshato kukuthintele ekubeni wonwabe kwaye ube nolwalamano olufunayo. Kukho iindlela zokusebenza kule phobia, kubandakanya ukuthetha neqabane lakho okanye umcebisi ngayo.
Kufuneka kwakhona uqonde ukuba yintoni ekubambezelayo. Qiniseka ukuba unyanisekile kwisiqu sakho nakwabanye, ke unethuba elihle lokufumana uloyiko kwaye uphile ngendlela ofuna ngayo.
Lukhona uncedo olukhoyo, kwaye le meko inokunyangwa ngeendlela ezimbalwa ezahlukeneyo, oko kuthetha ukuba awudingi kulahla ithemba!