Umxholo
- Ukusondelelana kuvela kumava akho kunye
- 1. Khumbula ukuba kutheni uthandile kwasekuqaleni
- 2 Yakhani isicwangciso sonxibelelwano phakathi kwenu
- 3. Ukuphuhlisa igama lekhowudi kumaxesha xa enye 'ingeva' enye
- 4. Sebenza nzima yonke imihla ukubakhona kwaye utyale imali kwiqabane lakho
- 5. Cwangcisa ukuba nobusuku obuqhelekileyo bomhla
- 6. Xelelanani rhoqo ukuba niyayixabisa kwaye niyathandana
- 7. Yenza izithethe phakathi kwakho kwaye unamathele kuzo
Ukusondelelana kuvela kumava akho kunye
Ukusondelelana yinto efuneka rhoqo kubudlelwane kwaye iphoswe xa ingekho. Kodwa ubudlelwane obusondeleyo ayisiyonto ihlala ijolise kuyo, okanye isonjululwe ngononophelo ngabantu abathandanayo kubudlelwane kunye nokwenza izinto zibe nzima ngakumbi, ukusondelelana kuhlala kungaqondwa kakuhle. Rhoqo ebhokisini kwimicimbi yesondo ngaphandle kokuthathela ingqalelo yonke enye, kwaye iindlela ezibaluleke kakhulu ezenza ukuba ulwalamano lwenzeke ngaphakathi kubudlelwane.
Ubudlelwane obusondeleyo buya kuqala ukukhula ukusuka kumtsalane wesini kwinqanaba lokuqala emva kwayo yonke loo nto yindlela obonisa ngayo umntu osesichengeni kwezo zigaba. Kodwa njengokuba ixesha lihamba, ukusondelelana kuvela kumava enu kunye, indlela enicwangcisa ngayo kunye, kunye nokuqonda ezo zinto zincinci, kunye nokuphendula okuvela kuphela kumntu okwazi ngokusondeleyo.
Ukuba ufuna ukuphucula ubudlelwane bakho bobudlelwane, nazi iindlela ezimbalwa zokuphucula kunye nokugcina ubudlelwane kulwalamano lwakho.
1. Khumbula ukuba kutheni uthandile kwasekuqaleni
Yenza inqaku lokuhlala ukhumbula ukuba kutheni uthandile kwasekuqaleni, ukuze ngamaxesha engxaki, umgama, okanye ungquzulwano ube nethuba elingcono lokusebenza nalo. Ukutshintshela nje imeko yengqondo yakho ekuthandaneni nasekuxabaneni, kuya kuyithambisa imiphetho yobudlelwane kwaye kuncede nobabini nihlale nizinikele omnye komnye kwaye nisondelelane.
2 Yakhani isicwangciso sonxibelelwano phakathi kwenu
Unxibelelwano lunokuba ngumceli mngeni wokulungileyo kuthi, kwaye lunokuba sesona sizathu somgama kubudlelwane njengoko inokuba ngumyili wolwalamano olusondeleyo. Ukufunda ukuba unxibelelwano lwethu luyabhidana, luyacaphukisa, okanye lukhuthazana njani, kungasinceda silungise unxibelelwano lwethu.
Ngamanye amaxesha inokuvula umgangatho wokuxoxa ukuba kutheni sinxibelelana ngendlela esenza ngayo, kwaye nokuba ichaphazela njani enye nenye-enokuthi isasaze nje ezinye iimpikiswano. Ukufunda indlela yokunxibelelana omnye nomnye ngothando nothando olusenyongweni kuya kuphakamisa ubudlelwane bakho obusondeleyo kumanqanaba ongazange uwabone ngaphambili.
3. Ukuphuhlisa igama lekhowudi kumaxesha xa enye 'ingeva' enye
Kukho amaxesha kubudlelwane apho elinye iqabane linokuthi liqwalasele elinye ukuba liphatheke ngokungenantlonelo, liqhula, okanye lide lijongane nomcimbi. Yeyiphi ke ebangela ukuba banciphise imeko. Ewe kunjalo, ukuba elinye iqabane linobuzaza oku kungangunobangela omkhulu wengxabano kwaye uqhube umgama uye kwezona zisondeleyo kwizibini ezitshatileyo. Ukuvuma ngegama lekhowudi eliyimfihlo phakathi kwakho kuya kukuvumela ukuba uphawule kwiqabane lakho ukuba uzimisele kakhulu ngomcimbi. Igama lekhowudi linokusetyenziselwa ukwazisa omnye nomnye xa bezimisele ngokushiya umsitho, okanye ngoncedo kubugcisa bothethathethwano.
Ukugcina amandla ekhowudi yelizwi, kufuneka isetyenziswe kuphela kwiimeko ezinzima, kwaye ayikaze isetyenziswe njengehlaya, okanye ukunyanzela ukuthanda kwakho kwelinye iqela. Xa isetyenziswe ngokuchanekileyo nangona kunjalo, inyusa ubudlelwane bakho obusondeleyo kuba nobabini niyazi ukuba ninelizwi lekhowudi onokulisebenzisa kwimeko egqithileyo, okanye ekhathazayo kuwe. Iphantse yenza ingubo yokhuseleko ukuze uzive ukhululeke ngakumbi ekubeni sesichengeni nasekuthembaneni.
4. Sebenza nzima yonke imihla ukubakhona kwaye utyale imali kwiqabane lakho
Ukuba nobabini nisebenza nzima yonke imihla ukubamba eyona nto ibalulekileyo liqabane lakho. Ukubaxhasa ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwasemphefumlweni nasengqondweni, kwaye nobabini nizinikele ekwenzeni oku, niyakufumanisa ukuba ukuthembana kunye nobudlelwane obusondeleyo kubudlelwane benu buyakhula - kuba unokuxhomekeka komnye umntu ukuba akunqwenelele okuhle entliziyweni.
5. Cwangcisa ukuba nobusuku obuqhelekileyo bomhla
Kulula ukuba siqhubeke nobomi, izinto esizithandayo, umsebenzi kunye nosapho. Nobabini niphila ubomi obubodwa kodwa nibuya kunye ekupheleni kosuku. Kulula ukulibala ukuba kufuneka uphinde uqhagamshele kunye. Ngokukodwa xa kufikwa ekugcineni ubudlelwane bakho kunye nolwalamano olusondeleyo phakathi kwakho.
Ukwenza ixesha lokuba nobusuku obuqhelekileyo bomhla ukuba ningabazali, okanye ukwenza iinzame zokunxiba kwaye niphume ukuba nitshatile, enifumene nje ukonwaba esofeni! Oku akuyi kukusondeza kunye nokusondelelana kuphela kodwa kuya kugcina ukuvutha kwescreen phakathi kwakho kwaye kukwenze uzive wonwabile xa wonwabile ebusuku.
6. Xelelanani rhoqo ukuba niyayixabisa kwaye niyathandana
Ukusondelana kufuna ukuthembana, hayi ukuthembela nje ekubeni unokuba neqabane lakho emqolo, likukhusele okanye linyaniseke kuwe, kodwa kuya kufuneka wazi ukuba bakubambile ngokweemvakalelo, ukuba bayakuxabisa kwaye bayakuthanda. Kwangolo hlobo lunye, iqabane lakho lifuna okufanayo kuwe kwaye ngokwenza njalo, uyakugcina ubudlelwane bakho buphila kunye nolwalamano lwakho luyinto entle.
7. Yenza izithethe phakathi kwakho kwaye unamathele kuzo
Ukwenza amasiko, njengokugubha ubusuku ohlangane nabo okokuqala, isikhumbuzo sakho, ubambe usapho lwe-bbq unyaka nonyaka. Ukuphinda ujonge indawo entle ngeempelaveki, okanye ubeke bucala impelaveki enye ngonyaka (okanye nangaphezulu ukuba ungazolulela kuyo) ukuhlola umhlaba. Nkqu nezithethe ezincinci ezinje ngeqabane elipheka kancinci rhoqo lenza umzamo wokupheka isidlo sakusasa ngeCawa.
Mhlawumbi mpelaveki nganye niyonwabela kunye. Amasiko adala iinkumbulo ezingcwele, kwaye ayeke iiveki ziqengqeleka zibe yiminyaka. Ke ukuba awunguye obhiyozela imibhiyozo yesiko, zenzele eyakho, imibhiyozo enentsingiselo ngakumbi kwaye ujonge indlela amava kunye neenkumbulo ezikusondeza ngayo kunye nokwenza ubuhlobo bakho busondele.