Umxholo
- Iimpawu zokuqwalaselwa
- Amaxabiso ahlukileyo
- Kufuneka ube kwicala elifanayo neqabane lakho
- Amava emtshatweni
- Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukulunga kwakho
Ukuphelisa umtshato inokuba sesona sigqibo kunzima ukusenza. Nangona siphila kwihlabathi langoku apho umtshato ungomelelanga njengeziko njengokuba kwakunjalo ngaphambili, akukho namnye kuthi owatshata ngenjongo yokuba usilele. Ngaphezu koko, sasikholelwa kakhulu koko "kude kube sekufeni kwesahlulo" somsitho. Ke, ukujongana nethemba lokuvumela yonke into ihambe ingaphezulu kokuphela kobudlelwane (obunzima kakhulu bodwa). Kukushiya umbono wethu wobomi bethu bonke. Kwaye oku kuhlala kungumthwalo onganyamezelekiyo kwabanye. Ngenxa yokuphepha konke okuza nokuba ungatshatanga kwakhona (kuphela ngoku uqhawule umtshato), abantu abaninzi bakhetha ukuhlala kwimitshato engonwabisiyo nokungonelisi. Kwaye abaninzi banamathandabuzo kwaye baziva ngathi izinto ekugqibeleni azizukulunga kodwa zigqibelele. Kodwa, masijongane nomculo kwaye sibone ukuba leliphi ixesha lokwenene lokuwubiza uyeke kwaye xa kusekho into ekubambelele kuyo, into ekufanele ukuyilwela.
Iimpawu zokuqwalaselwa
Kukho izinto ezininzi ekufuneka uziqwalasele ngononophelo xa usenza isigqibo soqhawulo-mtshato xa kuthelekiswa nokuhlala emtshatweni (kodwa usebenzela ukuwutshintsha ube ngcono-ukuba bekulungile, ngekhe ulifunde eli nqaku). Ezi zinokwahlulahlulwa zibe ngamacandelo amabini abanzi, amaxabiso kunye nemvakalelo ngokubanzi oyifumana kulwalamano lwakho.
Amaxabiso ahlukileyo
Xa kuziwa kumaxabiso, kula maxabiso enza isiseko sendlela yakho yokuqonda umhlaba, ngokuchanekileyo, eyakho kunye neqabane lakho inokuhambelana ngokugqibeleleyo. Kwaye xa wawutshata, wawusenokucinga ukuba bayakwenza oko, okanye ubusazi ukuba abakwenzi oko kodwa bebethandana kakhulu ukuba bangakhathala okanye bakubone njengengxaki enokubakho. Kodwa xa ixesha lidlula, abantu bangatshintsha, okanye umahluko kumaxabiso ethu asisiseko uvele uze phezulu kwaye ube yinto eza kubizwa kamva njengebhokisi eyoyikekayo "yokungafani okungalinganiyo". Ezi nqobo zisisiseko zibhekisa ekuziphatheni, inkolo, iinjongo, kunye neminqweno, izinto eziphambili, isimbo sokuba ngumzali, into ozibophelele kuyo, indlela obufuna ukuchitha ngayo ubomi bakho kunye nenyaniso yemihla ngemihla.
Kufuneka ube kwicala elifanayo neqabane lakho
Kuthiwa izichasi ziyatsala. Oku kunokuba yinyani kwintabatheko, kodwa akunjalo xa kusiza kumntu oceba ukuchitha yonke imihla kunye nobomi bakho bonke kunye nokwakha ikamva lakho kunye nelizayo. Kobo budlelwane, into oyifunayo kukuba kwicala elinye naloo mntu, ubuncinci xa kufikwa kuninzi lwale mibuzo. Ukuba awukho, kodwa usathandana ngokunzulu neqabane lakho, cinga malunga nokuba ingaba ikhona na indlela yokuvuselela ubudlelwane ukuze ezo nqobo nivumelane ngazo zenze eyona nto iphambili kuyo. Kwaye imiba ongavumelani ngayo unokuxoxa ngayo nomcebisi. Kodwa ukuba amaxabiso asisiseko ahluka kakhulu kuwe, kwaye uziva enye okanye ezingaphezulu kwezi mvakalelo zilandelayo, kuya kufuneka ukuba ucinge ngokwahlukana.
Amava emtshatweni
Icandelo lesibini ngamava akho angaphakathi emtshatweni wakho. Ukuza kuthi ga kwinqanaba-jonga impilo yakho yeemvakalelo mva nje emtshatweni wakho, kwaye ukhangele inyani malunga nokuba uziva ukhuselekile, uyathandwa, kwaye wanelisekile. Kungenxa yokuba umtshato ufanele ukuza nazo, ngokuqinisekileyo, zontathu ezi zinto. Kodwa ukuba ufumana naluphi na uhlobo lokuxhatshazwa (ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwesondo, ngamazwi, okanye ngokweemvakalelo), izinto kufuneka zitshintshe. Njengokuba ukuxhatshazwa akusosiseko sisiso sekamva. Uthando yeyona nto siyidingayo, silandela iimfuno zebhayoloji ezisisiseko njengokungalambi, ukunxanwa okanye ukubanda. Kodwa ukuba oko kuyalahleka, kwaye ungaboni ndlela yakukubuyisa okanye ukubasa umlilo, cinga ngokufumana ulonwabo kwenye indawo. Okokugqibela, imitshato emininzi ngamanye amaxesha yindawo yokungoneliseki. Kodwa akufuneki babe ziindawo zokungoneliseki okukhethekileyo. Ukuba uziva ungonelisekanga ngokungapheliyo, cinga ngokufumana ugqirha womtshato onokukunceda ufikelele kwiingcambu zawo, kwaye mhlawumbi ulondoloze ubudlelwane.
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukulunga kwakho
Khumbula, nantoni na ogqiba ukuyenza, uya kuhlala unamathandabuzo malunga nokuba utsale umnxeba olungileyo na. Kwaye oku kuqhelekile. Isenokuba sesona sigqibo sinzima ekunokufuneka usenze. Kodwa ekugqibeleni, ekuphela kwesalathisi sokwenyani sento ekufuneka uyenzile kukuzonwabisa kwakho. Ingavakala ngathi icingela isiqu sakho, kodwa ayisiyiyo-ulunge kangakanani umntu owawukhe wamthanda, okanye usamthanda, ukuba uziva woyikeka yonke imihla? Ke, cinga ngayo yonke into esithethe ngayo kwimihlathi edlulileyo, ulinganise yonke into, kwaye wenze umnxeba. Ngayiphi na imeko, isahluko esitsha esimnandi sobomi bakho siqala, kwaye ngubani owaziyo ukuba buzisa ntoni.