Umxholo
- Umtshato kunye nobukrelekrele bemvakalelo
- Ukuba ngumyeni okrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo
- Ungajongana njani nomntu onengqondo ephantsi ngokweemvakalelo
- Umtshato nomyeni okrelekrele ngokwasemphefumlweni
Kule minyaka ilishumi idlulileyo, seva okuninzi malunga ne-Emotional Intelligence (EQ) kunye nendlela ebaluleke ngayo njenge-IQ. Ingumbono onomdla kakhulu ukulinganisa ukubanakho komntu ukuzilawula kunye nokukhuthaza iimvakalelo zabantu ababangqongileyo.Wonke umntu oqiqayo uyazi ukuba amanyathelo kunye nezigqibo ezenziwe phantsi koxinzelelo olugqithisileyo aziqhelekanga. Kuba umhlaba wokwenyani ubukho boxinzelelo, umntu onokuthi enze phantsi koxinzelelo unqweneleka kuwo nawuphi na umbutho. Kuba imitshato ngamanye amaxesha inokubangela uxinzelelo, indoda ekrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo ikwangumlingane onqwenelekayo.
Umtshato kunye nobukrelekrele bemvakalelo
Uninzi lwabantu, ngakumbi abantu abaqhawule umtshato, bayazi ukuba akukho nto injengolonwabo lomtshato olungapheliyo. Umtshato wokwenene unamahla ndinyuka kwaye unokuba yimeko enganyamezelekiyo kubantu abaninzi. Uxinzelelo lwabo nabuphi na ubudlelwane, umtshato ubandakanyiwe, sisizathu sokuba ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo bubalulekile.
Kukho amaxesha apho ubomi buphosa khona i-curveball, ukugula okanye ukufa kusapho, umzekelo, ziimeko zoxinzelelo ezingenakuphepheka naziphi na izibini ezitshatileyo ezihlangana nazo ngexesha elithile ebomini babo.
Imithetho esayilwayo kunye nolunye uxanduva alunqumami ukunceda ukunciphisa imeko. Ukuya ngaphezulu nangaphaya koxanduva oluqhelekileyo lwemihla ngemihla lomtshato, ikhondo lomsebenzi, nokuba ngumzali kuyadinisa emzimbeni, ngokwengqondo nangokweemvakalelo.
Ngaphandle kwazo zonke izifundo ezibanga indlela abafazi abanobukrelekrele obuphezulu beemvakalelo kunamadoda ephepheni, abafazi bathambekele ekubeni boyike kwaye bayenze mandundu imeko rhoqo kwimeko zentlekele. Nawuphi na umntu otshatileyo kunye nelungu lesebe lezomlilo uyayazi loo nto.
Emtshatweni, mabini kuphela amaqela (ngesiqhelo), indoda nomfazi. Ukufumana kwakhona imeko yemeko kubalulekile ukuba ubuncinci kuwe unokugcina imeko ezolileyo kwaye unqande iimpazamo ezinokuthintelwa ngelixa usabela kwimeko zoxinzelelo oluphezulu. Umyeni unokubamba kwaye alawule umfazi othukileyo, kodwa kungenjalo. Kuya kuba nzima kuye nawuphina umntu wasetyhini ukuba ayinqande indoda yakhe ngaphandle konzakala.
Kungenxa yoko le nto ngokubhekisele kubukrelekrele beemvakalelo emtshatweni, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umyeni okrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo abe yinxalenye yentshukumo yomtshato.
Ukuba ngumyeni okrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo
Indoda ekrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo ikwangumyeni ophakamileyo okrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo. Indlela asabela ngayo umntu kwiimeko ezifanayo iyafana. Imida yokunyamezela kwabo kunye nokuqina kwengqondo kusebenza kwiindidi ezithile ezifanayo ebhodini. Kuthetha ukuba kukwimo yomntu ukuhlala ezolile kwinqanawa ezika, baya kuba njalo nakumtshato osilelayo.
Ngelishwa, akukho seti yemigangatho echaza ezo ndidi. Ichaphazeleka kakhulu ngamaxabiso obuqu. Kungenxa yokuba umntu uyakuthatha ukuphathwa gadalala ngabazali nasebantwaneni, oko akuthethi ukuba bayakwamkela indlela efanayo yokuziphatha kubantu abangabaziyo.
Kukwenzeka into enye nangenye indlela, kuba bengazukuncedisa ukuphanga okuqhubekayo, oko akuthethi ukuba abayi kusabela ukuba ixhoba liyintombi yabo.
Ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo bunentsimbi ezininzi, iifrills, kunye nemlozi kule mihla kodwa ibiyinto ebisoloko iyiyo, "ubabalo phantsi komlilo."
Yiyo loo nto izizukulwana ezidlulileyo, besithumela abantwana abanengxaki kwizikolo zomkhosi.
Namhlanje, sineendidi zonke zeendibano zocweyo ezitsha "ezifundisa" ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo. Ngokwenyani, ifundisa ithiyori yobukrelekrele bemvakalelo, kodwa ayifundisi ngokwenene ukuba umntu unokukrelekrele njani ngokwasemphefumlweni.
I-EQ okanye kunokuba ubabalo phantsi komlilo lufundwe kuphela ngamava. Ukomelela kwengqondo luphawu lomlinganiswa oluphuhliswa ngokunkqonkqoza nzima kwaye alufundwanga kwiincwadi okanye koomasifundisane.
Ukuba ufuna ngenene ukufunda ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo, joyina isebe lomlilo lamavolontiya okanye amanye amashishini anokukubeka kwimeko zoxinzelelo okanye ezinokuba yingozi.
Ungajongana njani nomntu onengqondo ephantsi ngokweemvakalelo
Ingxaki yabantu abane-EQ esezantsi bayenza mandundu imeko ngezenzo zabo, ukungasebenzi, okanye ukukhwina / ukukhwaza. Ukuba ungumntu okhalazayo kwaye ukhalaze kakhulu, luphawu olucacileyo lwe-EQ esezantsi.
Kulula ukungahoyi abantu abaphantsi be-EQ kwiimeko ezininzi, kodwa xa ujongana nomntu okrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo kunye nobudlelwane, iba ngumdlalo webhola owahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. Umzekelo, ukutshata no-nagger bubudlelwane obunetyhefu kwaye abunampilo.
Into yokugqibela ofuna ukuyenza kukubaphendula ngezizathu kunye nezikhalazo (ngaphandle kokuba uligqwetha). Iya kunyuka kuphela ibe kukhuphiswano lwe-pissing ekhwaza umdlalo kwaye ungasombululi nto.
Ukuba nasiphi na isisombululo sinokufunyanwa, ubuncinci elinye iqela kufuneka lihlale lizolile kwaye linengqondo. Yiba nomonde wokubalinda ukuba bagqibe isikhalazo sabo. Okukhona usiphendula, kokukhona usongeza amafutha kumlilo. Khumbula ukuba wonke umntu unomda ngokomzimba. Akukho mntu unokugcina imeko ixesha elide, kuyadinisa. Kumosha amandla abo, kwaye uqiniseke ngokulondoloza okwakho.
Nje ukuba amandla abo asetyenziswe, abo bagcina amandla abo ngokusesikweni ngokuchitha ixesha banokuxoxa kwaye benze ngezisombululo.
Umtshato nomyeni okrelekrele ngokwasemphefumlweni
Ukuba nentsika eyomeleleyo yenkxaso kulo naluphi na usapho yinto ebaluleke kakhulu. Nakwiintsapho ezilinganayo, indoda kufuneka ithathe inyathelo lokuba yintsika engagungqiyo. Indoda ekrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo yahlukile ekubeni yindoda engakhathaliyo ngokweemvakalelo. Oko akuthethi ukuba awunaluvelwano okanye ungayiqondi kwaphela indlela avakalelwa ngayo omnye umntu kusapho lwakho. Ithetha kuphela ukuba ngaphandle kwayo yonke into, indoda yendlu inayo yonke into ikunye.
Abafazi, nkqu nenkululeko-yanamhlanje yobudala yabasetyhini iyawaxabisa amadoda omeleleyo ngokweemvakalelo kunye nabayeni abanengqondo ngokweemvakalelo. Kwakhona, kufuneka sahlule ngokucacileyo ukuba semandleni ngokweemvakalelo. Umntu ongenalwazelelelo akanako ukufunda imeko kwaye akazukukhathazeka ngokuqonda iimvakalelo zabanye abantu ngaphambi kokuba enze ukhetho lwabo.
Indoda eyomeleleyo ngokweemvakalelo inika umfazi kunye nalo lonke usapho inkululeko engakumbi yokwenza izinto ngobuntu babo.
Izigqibo ezinobulumko kunye nengqiqo ziya kuhlala zikhokelela ngaphandle kokuguqula usapho lwakho lube ziirobhothi njengemikhosi yasemkhosini.
Indoda ekrelekrele ngokwasemphefumlweni inokukhokelela kwaye ikhusele usapho olulungelelaniswe kakuhle kuwo nawuphi na umngeni ebomini.