Umxholo
- Kukuthini ukuthandana ngokweemvakalelo?
- Iimpawu zokukhohlisa ngokweemvakalelo
- Ukukopa ngokweemvakalelo kunemiphumela emibi
- Ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo
- Ukuthintela ukunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo
Ngaba uziva ngathi iqabane lakho liyathandana? Okanye, ngaba uyoyika ukuba uza kwenza ukungathembeki kwiqabane lakho?
Ewe, ubudlelwane kunye nemitshato ayisoloko iyintsomi njengoko kubonisiwe kwiimuvi okanye ezincwadini. Umsebenzi onzima, umzabalazo, kunye neinyembezi, kunye novuyo, uthando kunye nolwalamano olusondeleyo.
Lonke ulwalamano luhlukile. Iza nemiceli mngeni yayo, kwaye akukho simahla kwiingxaki.
Imizabalazo malunga nemicimbi yezemali, ukungabikho koqhakamshelwano kunye nokungavisisani, amaxabiso aphikisanayo, kunye noxinzelelo oluvela kwimithombo yangaphandle lunokuphazamisa ubudlelwane kwaye kuvavanye ukunyamezela.
Kodwa, ngaba oko kuthetha ukuba ukukopela kunye nemicimbi inokuba sisisombululo esinokubakho ukoyisa iingxaki zomtshato?
Xa besiva la magama, abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba abantu abakhohlisayo abanetyala okanye ukungathembeki kubhekisa kubudlelwane bomzimba okanye bezesondo nomntu ongatshatanga naye.
Ukukopa, nangona kunjalo, akuphelelanga kwimbonakalo yomzimba kuphela. Kukho into ebizwa ngokuba kukuthandana ngokweemvakalelo okanye ukukopela ngokweemvakalelo.
Kukuthini ukuthandana ngokweemvakalelo?
Cinga ngeendlela onxibelelana ngazo nomntu omthandayo. Ngaba uyabawola? Ngaba ubenzela izinto zobubele? Ukudumisa okanye ukukhuthaza, nokuba ayifuneki?
Iindlela obonisa ngazo uthando komnye wakho onokubonakala kufanelekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba zabelane nabanye.
Umzekelo, unokuzifumana uqhagamshela kumzali ngendlela efanayo nokunxibelelana neqabane lakho ngokuchitha ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye, ukwabelana ngezinto, ukuhambisa iimvakalelo, njalo njalo.
Iingozi ngokukhawuleza ziyavela ukuba akukho mida ibekiweyo kulowo ufumana olu hlobo lothando kunye nokunikwa ingqalelo kwelinye okanye omabini amaqabane.
Ukukopa ngokweemvakalelo akuxhomekeke kunxibelelwano lomzimba. Kukunika nokwamkela uthando oluvela komnye umntu ngaphandle kwezinto zakho ezibalulekileyo ngeendlela eziwela imida yobuhlobo obuqhelekileyo obuphilileyo.
Umlingane wakho kufuneka abe yedwa ovunyelwe kwiindawo ezinomdla kakhulu ebomini bakho. Ukuba uvumela omnye umntu ukuba achukumise ezo ndawo zentliziyo yakho kwaye ungabakho, unokuba ubambelela kumgca wokuthandana okanye ukukrexeza ngokweemvakalelo.
Kuqhelekile ke ukuba kungqinwe imicimbi yeemvakalelo emsebenzini kuba iofisi okanye indawo yokusebenzela yindawo ochitha kuyo uninzi lweeyure zakho zokuvuka.
Ke, kwezi meko, xa ufika ekhaya, udiniwe kakhulu ukuba ungachitha ixesha elinomgangatho kunye neqabane lakho. Ngolo hlobo utyekele ekungeneleni kumjikelo ongapheliyo wokungoneliseki ekhaya kunye nokufuna ukwaneliseka ngokweemvakalelo emsebenzini okanye ngaphandle.
Iimpawu zokukhohlisa ngokweemvakalelo
Ukuthandana ngokweemvakalelo akusoloko kubonakala kufana. Kukho imiqondiso eyahlukeneyo kunye nezigaba zemicimbi yeemvakalelo.
Iimpawu zokukopa ngokweemvakalelo zixhomekeke kumanqanaba emicimbi yeemvakalelo.
Abanye babelana ngamaphupha abo kunye neminqweno yabo. Abanye babelana ngentlungu yabo kunye nokuzisola. Abanye banxibelelana nomntu ngeendlela abangazange bakwazi ukunxibelelana namaqabane abo.
Unokuzibuza ukuba kutheni amadoda enemicimbi yeemvakalelo? Kwaye, kunjalo, nabafazi?
Ngokusisiseko, akukho sibini sifezekileyo; kuyakubakho iinkcukacha eziphosiweyo kunye neendawo zangaphakathi ezingakhathalelwanga. Ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo kwenzeka xa umntu evumela omnye umntu ukuba azalise loo nto.
Ukuba awukwazi ukunxibelelana neqabane lakho kwaye uye kwelinye ukuze wabelane ngeziganeko zobomi bakho, usenokuzibandakanya nokungathembeki.
Akuqhelekanga ukuba izibini zifuna unxibelelwano ngaphandle kwendibaniselwano, kodwa xa abanye bethathe indawo yokwazi iimfihlo zakho, unokufumana enye ebalulekileyo ngaphandle ujonge ngaphakathi.
Bukela le vidiyo kwiimpazamo zobudlelwane obuqhelekileyo. Mhlawumbi, ungazijongi ezi mpazamo kubudlelwane bakho kwaye ufune intuthuzelo kwimeko yovakalelo endaweni yoko.
Ukukopa ngokweemvakalelo kunemiphumela emibi
Ngoku, ukuba uyazibuza, ngaba imicimbi yeemvakalelo ijika ibe luthando?
Ewe, ayinakubakho impendulo eqinisekileyo koku.
Uthando lunokwenzeka ukuba unamathele kubudlelwane obungenathemba, apho ungaboni ndlela yonwabisayo kunye nokuzaliseka.
Kwelinye icala, imicimbi yeemvakalelo kunye nokuthumela imiyalezo, nangona inokubonakala njengeyona ndlela ibhetele yokuhluthisa unxano lweemvakalelo ekuqaleni. Kodwa, oko kunokuba yinto yexeshana.
Kukho ukubakho kwemicimbi phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho ukuba inyuke, enokuthi isonjululwe ukuba ubunokugxila kuyo ngaphambi kokuzibandakanya kulwalamano lweemvakalelo.
Kukho izifundo ezingqubanayo malunga nokuba loluphi uhlobo lokungathembeki olunobungozi kulwalamano. Abanye baxela ukunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni nomnye umntu yinto iqabane okanye iqabane elingenakuze lilibale, kwaye omabini amaqela ahlupheke ngokulinganayo.
Abanye baye babonisa ukuba ukunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo kunzima kakhulu ukoyisa; Unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo phakathi kwabantu ababini abangazibandakanyi kubudlelwane obuvulekileyo kunokuba yingozi kulwalamano esele lukhona.
Ngokukopa ngokweemvakalelo kuza ukungathembani, ukuncipha konxibelelwano, kunye nokunxibelelana komzimba, kunye nokuthintela ukusondelelana.
Ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo
Ukuba uyazibonela ngokwakho, iimpawu zetyala emva kokukopela, kwaye uzibuze ukuba ungawugqitha njani umcimbi weemvakalelo, esona sisombululo sisigqibo sokukuyekisa kwangoko.
Ewe kubonakala ngathi kuyaxhalabisa ekuqaleni, kodwa xa usithathile isigqibo sakho, vele umise ngokupheleleyo kwimeko yakho yeemvakalelo. Yeka ukunxibelelana nomnye umntu kwaye uyeke ukwabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho ngaxeshanye.
Kwelinye icala, ukuba uziva ulixhoba lomtshato ovela kwiqabane lakho kwaye uzibuze ukuba ungaxolela njani ukukopela ngokweemvakalelo, elona nyathelo liphambili kukuthetha ngalo neqabane lakho.
Nxibelelana ngokukhululekileyo nangokunyaniseka neqabane lakho, kwaye ukuba uziva benetyala ngokwenza njalo, ayilotyala elikhulu ukuba uyohlwaye ubomi babo bonke.
Ukuthintela ukunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo
Ukwazi ifuthe lokunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo elinokuthi libe nalo, ukhe wayiqwalasela indlela onokuyiphepha ngayo kubudlelwane bakho?
Kukho amanyathelo okhuseleko umntu anokuwathatha ukuqinisekisa ukuba ubudlelwane babo bukhuselekile kolu hlobo lokukhohlisa.
Okokuqala, vula kwaye uthembeke kwiqabane lakho ngalo lonke ixesha!
Nokuba ucinga ukuba bubudenge ukutsho ukuba ngubani lo ubizelweyo okanye ngubani othumele imiyalezo kuFacebook, kukulungele ukuthetha ngayo neqabane lakho okanye iqabane lakho. Qaphela ukulawula nokuziphatha gwenxa, kodwa yazi ukuba ukunganyaniseki kunye nokufihla ulwazi akunandawo kubudlelwane obuphilileyo.
Okwesibini, khumbula ukuba ngubani othatha ixesha lakho elininzi. Ngaba uzifumanisa uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nomntu ongelilo iqabane lakho kwaye uqala ukuziva unxibelelwano olunzulu?
Yima uze ucinge ngayo!
Ukuguqula iindima kwaye uqwalasele indlela onokuyitolika ngayo olo hlobo lokuziphatha ukuba iqabane lakho belinxibelelana ngaphandle. Okwesithathu, yenza kwaye unamathele kwimida.
Akukho nto igwenxa okanye "isikolo esidala" malunga nokwenza imida nabanye.
Abahlobo besini esifanayo nesakho esibalulekileyo sinokuthi ngokuthe ngcembe ube ngumntu obaluleke ngakumbi ukuba uyayivumela yenzeke. Ke thabatha amanyathelo ngoku okuthathela ingqalelo 'ukuba kude kangakanani'; thetha ngayo kunye neqabane lakho okanye iqabane lakho ukuze uphucule okanye umisele imida efanelekileyo.
Imicimbi yenzeka; ezinye zimbi kunezinye. Uninzi alunakuze luvavanywe ngokukhohlisa ngokweemvakalelo; abanye banokungaze bafumane zintlungu zokufumana ukukopa.
Uthintelo lolona khuseleko lwakho lubalaseleyo - ukuba ufumanisa ukuba uyarhubuluza usondele emaphethelweni omda wakho, thatha inyathelo elikhulu umva kwaye uphinde uphonononge ezo zinto zibalulekileyo kuwe. Ungaya kude kakhulu, kodwa akukaze kube semva kwexesha ukuba uthathe inyathelo ubuye umva kwaye uqale ngokutsha.