Umxholo
- Kutheni ibalulekile nje?
- Ungawenza njani amaphupha ngokudibeneyo anokukusondeza?
- 1. Ncokola ngamaphupha akho
- 2. Yenza amaphupha acace kwaye abe yinyani
- 3. Yenza isicwangciso esineenkcukacha, namaxesha amisiweyo onokuthi uqale ngawo
Ukuphupha kunye njengesiqabane kunokuba yenye yezona ncoko zonwabisayo nezikhuthazayo onokuthi ube nazo! Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, yayingeyonxalenye inkulu yento oyenzayo ukuqala kwakho ukuhamba kunye?
Ukuphupha usapho lwakho lwexesha elizayo, intshukumo yomsebenzi, ikamva lendlu, okanye nantoni na kwixa elizayo inokunceda ukuphakamisa uxinzelelo lwanamhlanje.
Ukuphupha kunye yenye yeendlela apho uqinisekisa ukuzibophelela kwakho komnye nomnye nakwikamva. Ukuba awukwazi ukuphupha ngekamva, awuyi kuba nekamva kunye. Khawuyicinge loo nto!
Ukuphupha kunye kufuna ukuba usebenzise ukucinga kwakho, uqikelele, kwaye ujonge iindlela zokuba ubomi bakho ekwabelwana ngabo buya kutshintsha njani, bukhule kwaye bunzulu njengoko iminyaka idlula.
Kutheni ibalulekile nje?
Kuya kukunceda uhlale uvulelekile kuwe kunye neqabane lakho ngokubonakalayo, ngokweemvakalelo nangokomoya. Iya kukunceda ukuba uqikelele malunga nezinto ezinokwenzeka. Unokuzama kunye nemibono malunga nemisebenzi kunye nokuzibophelela okubalulekileyo kuwe. Kwangelo xesha, uya kube umanyanisa umbono wekamva lakho njengesibini.
Ungawenza njani amaphupha ngokudibeneyo anokukusondeza?
Xa uphupha kunye, niyakhula kunye, hayi ukwahlukana, kuba nobabini nihamba niya kwikamva elinye. Zintathu iindlela ezilula kodwa eziyimfuneko zokwenza oku.
1. Ncokola ngamaphupha akho
Ngokuthetha, unokumba nzulu ngokuba kutheni amaphupha athile ebaluleke kangaka kuwe. Mhlawumbi ukukhula kosapho lwakho kwafuduka kakhulu, kwaye kuhlala kuqeshwa. Ukulungiselela wena ukuthenga indlu kunye nokuhlala kwindawo okhetha kuyo iphezulu kakhulu kwizinto zakho eziphambili. Kodwa mhlawumbi iqabane lakho belisoloko "linamathele" kwidolophu encinci ebengenakulinda ukuba lihambe, kwaye iphupha lakhe kukuhamba ngaphandle "kokuxinana" kobunini. Niyavumelana nobabini ngaloo nto? Okanye ngaba ufuna ukufumana umhlaba ophakathi olungiselela zombini iimfuno zakho?
Uya kujonga kwakhona amaxabiso. Uya kucinga ngamathuba akho omsebenzi. Uya kucinga ngezinye iindawo ezinjengempilo, abantwana, ubumoya, ezemali, ukuhamba, njl.
2. Yenza amaphupha acace kwaye abe yinyani
Iimpawu zinamathela kwingqondo yakho ngcono kunamagama. Zoba, yenza ikholaji, yenza inkcazo ecacileyo malunga nendlela yokufikelela kwiphupha lakho, fumana imifanekiso. Nokuba kuthatha ntoni ukwenza amaphupha akho aphile ngokusemandleni akho.
Ngaba ufuna ukuthenga indlu kunye? Qalisa ukukhangela kwiimarike ezikungqongileyo. Cinga ngokuthintela
isibheno kunye nomsebenzi omninzi enizimisele ukuwenza eyadini. Thetha malunga noluphi uhlobo lwezakhiwo onokuzifuna. Qokelela imifanekiso yeendawo ezinokubakho, khangela iisampulu zemibala yepeyinti, ube nomfanekiso wendlu yakho yamaphupha kwenye indawo apho unokuyibona yonke imihla.
Ngoku, enye into kukufuna indlu, enye eyahluke ngokupheleleyo kukufumana indawo efanayo kunye nokucinga ngomsebenzi obandakanyekayo ekugcineni indlu. Nobabini ninokuyithanda indlu endala ene “character”. Elo iya kuba liphupha eliqaqambileyo. Kodwa ukuba akukho namnye kuni oluncedo kwaphela, kuyakufuneka ukuba nibe nenxaxheba ekuqeshweni kwabantu ukuze banincede kulondolozo lwendlu endala. Ingayinxalenye yokwenyani leyo.
3. Yenza isicwangciso esineenkcukacha, namaxesha amisiweyo onokuthi uqale ngawo
Umzekelo, ukuba elinye lamaphupha akho kukuhamba ngesikhephe kwikhefu lakho lonyaka olandelayo, ungajongi nje ukuba yeyiphi inqanawa, uhambo, kunye nomgaqo wokuhamba ngenqanawa ofuna wona, kodwa kwakhona, qalisa ukugcina isixa esimiselweyo yonke itsheki yomvuzo. Uya kumangaliswa yindlela ukuncama ngayo into encinci kunokukunceda ugcine.
Isibini endisaziyo sasihlala sifuna iholide eYurophu, kodwa ndaziva ngathi abanakuze babenakho. Besithetha ngayo kwaye, ndiqaphele ukuba bobabini bayatshaya, ndibabuze ukuba bachitha malini na kwicuba rhoqo ngenyanga. Senze izibalo, kwaye bothuka bakufumanisa ukuba into abayichithela kwimidiza ingaphezulu kunokwanela uhambo lwabo lwamaphupha. Oko kwabanika amandla okuyeka ukutshaya, endaweni yoko baqale ukugcina loo mali. Kunyaka emva koko bandithumelela ikhadi elivela e-Italiya, apho babebanexesha lobomi babo!
Amaphupha akho afuna iintshukumo ukuze abe yinyani. Qala ukuphupha kunye neqabane lakho namhlanje!