Umxholo
- Qaphela ukuba kukuphi ukungakhathali ozisa kona emtshatweni
- Vula iindlela zonxibelelwano
- Vumela ukulindela okungenakwenzeka
- Chithani ixesha nikunye
- Nobabini niye kugqirha
- Yiya kwi-Therapist yomtshato
- Thetha ngokulindelweyo ngexesha lokuzalwa nasemva koko
Ngaphandle kwesiganeko esonwabisayo sokukhulelwa, ngelishwa, ukwahlukana komtshato ngexesha lokukhulelwa kuqheleke kakhulu. Kodwa, ukwahlula ngexesha lokukhulelwa kunokuba lusizi kumlingane ophethe umntwana.
Ukuba ngumama akuyondlwan 'iyanetha. Umzimba womfazi kufuneka enze utshintsho oluninzi lwehomoni oluchaphazela impilo yakhe yengqondo kunye nokuba sempilweni.
Inokuba nzima kakhulu kumfazi ukuba ukhulelwe kwaye umtshato uyawa. Kwaye ukuba owasetyhini kufuneka ahlukane ngokwasemthethweni ngexesha lokukhulelwa, ukubandezeleka kwakhe akunakulinganiswa!
Kodwa, umbuzo usahleli, kutheni le nto into yokuba 'umtshato uqhawuke xa ukhulelwe' uqhelekile?
Izibini ziwela kumgibe wolindelo olungafezekiswanga kunye neeroller coasters ezisusa ukugxila kumthwalo wovuyo, kwaye endaweni yoko ziye kwimicimbi emibi.
Ungakuvumeli oku kwenzeke kuwe! Unako, ngandlela zonke, ukugcina ubudlelwane bakho buqhekeka ngelixa ukhulelwe, ukuba ubeka umzamo wakho onyanisekileyo wokugcina umtshato wakho.
Ke ukuba ucinga malunga nendlela yokuthintela ukwahlukana kwaye ugcine umtshato wakho, ungakhathazeki. Nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa zokukunceda ukunqanda ukwahlukana komtshato ngexesha lokukhulelwa.
Qaphela ukuba kukuphi ukungakhathali ozisa kona emtshatweni
Ihlala iyimpazamo yomnye umntu-ubuncinci yile nto wonke umntu acinga ngayo. Kunzima ukubona ukuba zeziphi izinto ezingathandekiyo esizisa emtshatweni, kodwa kubalulekile ukwenza njalo.
Kuba ngenene, kuthatha ezimbini ukuya kwi-tango. Oko kuthetha ukuthini, ukuba iqabane lakho linomsindo okanye linomsindo, kunokubakho isizathu.
Mhlawumbi umfazi ophethe umntwana akahlangabezani neemfuno zabo okanye ubabandakanya kuzo naziphi na izinto ezonwabisayo zomntwana.
Mhlawumbi ukukrokra kwakhe kuyalicima iqabane lakhe. Bobabini banetyala lokungakhathali, ke bobabini abantu kufuneka bayibone loo nto.
Yikhathalele kwakamsinyane kunakwelixa elizayo, kuba ukungakhathaleli okude kungena ngaphakathi, kunokwenzeka ukuba bobabini okanye bobabini banokuthi okanye benze into abanokuzisola ngayo.
Oku kunokukhokelela kwiimvakalelo ezibuhlungu kwaye ekugqibeleni, ukwahlukana ngexesha lokukhulelwa, eli lixesha apho isibini kufanele ukuba sihlangane.
Vula iindlela zonxibelelwano
Xa izibini ziyeka ukuthetha, ngakumbi ngexesha lokukhulelwa, izinto zinokuya emazantsi ngokukhawuleza.
Ukuba omnye okanye nobabini niyayoyika ukuba ngabazali kodwa ningathethi ngayo, iimvakalelo zinokwakha kwaye zibonakalise ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
Nika ingqalelo indlela omnye umntu enza ngayo kwaye mhlawumbi uziva, kwaye ubuze imibuzo. Thetha ngezinto ezikukhathazayo. Qiniseka ukuba unceda omnye umntu ukuba azive ekhululekile ukuthetha ngayo nantoni na, nokuba nexhala malunga nosana okanye ukukhulelwa.
Ke, ukunqanda ukwahlukana ngelixa ukhulelwe, vula imizila yonxibelelwano ukuze nibe kunye njengesibini kwaye niphile eli nqanaba lokukhulelwa ngokonwaba kunye.
Vumela ukulindela okungenakwenzeka
Ngokukodwa kubazali bokuqala, izibini zinokuba nembono egwenxa malunga nokuba ukukhulelwa nokuba nomntwana kunjani.
Okulindelweyo ukuba ngumama unokulindela ukuba iqabane lakhe lenze izinto ezithile okanye liqwalasele ngakumbi kuye, mhlawumbi ade athathe imisebenzi yasekhaya okanye azi ukuba enze ntoni xa eziva enesicaphucaphu.
Xa olo lindelo lungafezekiswanga, izibini zinokuziva zinomsindo okanye umsindo. Zama ukuba sengqiqweni ngakumbi kwaye uqaphele ukuba akukho namnye kuni okhe wehlelwa koku ngaphambili.
Vumela ukulindela okungenakwenzeka kwaye uqaphele ukuba ubudlelwane bomtshato ngamnye buhlukile, kwaye ukukhulelwa nganye kwahlukile. Yenze ibe yeyakho — kunye.
Chithani ixesha nikunye
Ngamanye amaxesha, kufuneka ushiye kuyo yonke kwaye ujonge omnye komnye.
Ukukhulelwa luxinzelelo. Kuninzi kakhulu ekufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo malunga nokwenzekayo emzimbeni womfazi, indlela umntwana akhula ngayo, nawo onke amathuba exesha elizayo.
Ukuba ujolisa kakhulu kuloo nto kwaye ungajongani, ulwalamano lwakho lomtshato luyasokola.
Ke cwangcisa ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza ukuze ube nokubakho omnye komnye, kude nomsebenzi kunye nolunye uxanduva. Phinda uqhagamshele kwaye ubuye uhlaziyiwe kwaye ulungelelanise ngakumbi ebomini bakho.
Abanye abantu bakubiza oku njenge 'babymoon' njengenyanga yasemva komtshato ngaphandle kokubaleka ngaphambi kokuba kufike usana. Eli ingalixesha elifanelekileyo lokunxibelelana kwakhona.
Nobabini niye kugqirha
Ngamanye amaxesha izibini ziyawa phakathi ngexesha lokukhulelwa kuba umfazi ophethe umntwana uziva elilolo ekukhulelweni, kwaye iqabane lakhe liziva lishiyiwe kuyo yonke into.
Enye indlela yokukuphepha oko kunye nokuzisa uvuyo ngakumbi kwiinyanga ezilithoba kukuba nobabini niye kugqirha abaninzi kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Oku kunceda umfazi ukuba azive exhaswa liqabane lakhe njengoko bechitha eli xesha likhethekileyo kunye, kwaye iqabane liziva lizibandakanye njengoko likwabonana nogqirha kwaye lithathe inxaxheba kulwazi ngendlela umntwana akhula ngayo.
Banokubuza imibuzo bobabini kwaye baxoxe ngezinto ezixhalabisayo kunye nokuba balindele ntoni na ngexesha lotyelelo ngokunjalo.
Yiya kwi-Therapist yomtshato
Ngenxa yoxinzelelo olongezelelekileyo lokukhulelwa, ngamanye amaxesha ukuzama nje ukubakhona ngakumbi omnye nomnye akwanelanga. Unokufuna uncedo lwangaphandle.
Kungekudala kunokuba kamva, hamba uye kubona ugqirha womtshato. Thetha malunga nokuqhubeka emtshatweni kunye nokuba ukhulelwe longeze ntoni kumxube.
Umcebisi uya kuninceda nobabini nilungise iimvakalelo zenu kwaye niqondane ngcono.
Thetha ngokulindelweyo ngexesha lokuzalwa nasemva koko
Ukuzalwa kunokuba lixesha lokonwaba, kodwa iimvakalelo ezibuhlungu zinokwenzeka ngokulula.
Iimvakalelo ziyanda, kwaye umntu ngamnye unokuba nolindelo olwahlukileyo malunga nendima yomnye nomnye. Xa ezo zinto zingafezekiswa, usuku lokuzalwa lusenokungabi lolulungileyo.
Ke ngokuqinisekileyo thetha malunga nento oyilindeleyo, kwaye into efunwa ngumntu ngamnye kuni, ukuphuma kuyo. Ukwahlukana nendoda ngelixa ukhulelwe kunokukwenzakalisa ebomini, ke yenza eyona migudu ilungileyo yokugcina ubudlelwane bakho buqhubeka.
Qhubeka nokuthetha ngeengcinga zakho malunga nokuba ngumzali, kunye nendlela oza kuthi uncede ngayo ekuncedeni ekukhathaleleni usana lwakho olusandul 'ukuzalwa.
Ukuba ngabazali yinto enomdla, kodwa ukukhulelwa ngokuqinisekileyo kuyabutshintsha ubudlelwane bomtshato. Qinisekisa ukuba kwezi nyanga zisithoba ukuza kunye kangangoko kunokwenzeka, endaweni yokwahlukana.
Ngokubakho kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba ujolise emtshatweni ngelixa ulindele umntwana wakho omtsha, unokuthintela ukwahlukana ngexesha lokukhulelwa.