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- Ukukhetha ukwamkelwa
- Ukwamkelwa yinxalenye engenamiqathango yothando olungenamiqathango
- Ufunda njani izakhono zokwamkela kubudlelwane?
- Ukwamkela umntu ngobuhlobo bakhe
Ababini abafuna iinkonzo zokucebisa bahlala becela uncedo ngezakhono zabo zonxibelelwano.
Ndibathumela ukuba baqale ukuphuhlisa izakhono zokwamkela kubudlelwane. Yintoni ekhulisa kwaye igcina ubudlelwane obusondeleyo bokufunda kukufunda ngokwamkela endaweni yomgwebo.
Uloyiko olusisiseko lokuba akukho kwanele "_______" kum yile nto iqhuba ukugweba, ukuhlazisa, ukugxeka nokugxeka ukuze uzame ukutshintsha isiqu sakho okanye esinye ukuze kubekho "_______" kum.
Le ndlela isukela uthando kude endaweni yokuyiphucula.
Uthando nokwamkelwa kubudlelwane kukhulisa ubude bexesha lobudlelwane kwaye kwakha ubudlelwane obomeleleyo obunokujongana nazo naziphi na izaqhwithi. Uthando lokwenene kukwamkela umntu njengoko enjalo.
Ukukhetha ukwamkelwa
Ukwamkela ngokwakho kunye nokwamkelwa liqabane lakho kukuphela kwemfazwe kwaye kukuphindisele ekubuyisaneni kwindawo yoxolo. Ukuzola kunye nokuzola kukuvumela ukuba uthethathethane notshintsho olufunekayo omnye komnye ngaphandle kokuziva uhlaselwe.
Le ndlela yokwamkela kunye nelawulayo yokunxibelelana ikwenza kube lula ukungabambi okanye ukugcina iimfihlo komnye nomnye. Ukubeka emngciphekweni ukuvumela into endiyenzayo ukuphatha into endiqhele ukuyenza kum, indibuyisele kwinyaniso yam esemngciphekweni endaweni yokuzikhusela.
Okukhona sizama ukuzamkela ngokwethu kumanqanaba anzulu kakhulu, somelele ngakumbi kwaye sikhuselekile siziva sinxulumene nokusuka kwindawo eyiyo, eyinyani nenesichengeni.
Ukwamkelwa yinxalenye engenamiqathango yothando olungenamiqathango
Ukwamkelwa kuya kuhambisa oko ijaji okanye umgxeki uzama ukukuzisa kuye kunye nolwalamano.
Inyathelo lokuqala kukuqala ngokwakho. Njengoko uziqhelanisa nokwamkela zonke iimvakalelo zakho kunye nawo onke amalungu akho ububini bokuzama ukubulala iindawo ezimbi zobuqu bakho kunye nokugxininisa, iinxalenye ezilungileyo zokuziyeka ziyeke ukwahlula isiqu sakho kubini kwaye uqale ukusebenzisa ukusebenzisana endaweni yokuba ngumchasi.
Umsebenzi weqela usebenza ngakumbi kunemigudu yomntu ngamnye. Ukuziqonda njengelungu leqela kuvumela intsebenziswano engakumbi kwaye imeko yokuphumelela inokwenzeka.
Ufunda njani izakhono zokwamkela kubudlelwane?
Nazi izisombululo ezintathu ezinokwenza ubudlelwane bakho bube buhle ngokwenene kwaye bancede ekwakheni ubudlelwane obomeleleyo.
1. Yizani nezisombululo kunye njengesibini
2. Ukuziqhelanisa nokuyeka izinto ezincinci
3. Yixabise ubuhle obunikelwa bubomi bemihla ngemihla
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Ukukhangela ezinye iingcebiso malunga nokuphuhlisa izakhono zokwamkela kubudlelwane? Nantsi indlela yokwamkela iqabane lakho ukuba ngoobani.
- Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ubhalise kwinkqubo efanayo yenkolelo njengeqabane lakho, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo unelungelo lokulandela inkqubo yexabiso lakho. Kodwa kufuneka bavume izimvo zabo kwaye bafunde ukungavumelani ngentlonipho.
- Ubudlelwane ngamava okuntywila kwaye kuya kufuneka ufunde wamkele iziphene neentsilelo zeqabane lakho ngokungathandabuzekiyo njengoko usamkela isimilo esihle.
- Sukunyanzelisa izimvo zakho kwiqabane lakho ukuba uzinyanzele ukuba zibe ngabantu ongathanda ukuba babe ngabo. Yiba ngumkhosi okhokelayo, sebenza kwindawo yomonde nobubele. Hlonipha iiyantlukwano zakho.
- Ukuba izigqibo zabo ziyakudida okanye ufumanisa ukungahambelani phakathi kweenjongo zakho kunye nabo, zama ukuqonda ukuba bavela phi. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ufike kowtow okanye uvumelane nabo, bathembele kubuchule babo bokwenza izigqibo.
- Yiba ngumntu okhulileyo kwaye ungayenzi impazamo yokuthelekisa okungalunganga. Eyona nto ibuhlungu onokuyenza kwiqabane lakho kukuthelekisa nabantu abakungqongileyo okanye abantu odibene nabo ngaphambili. Yamkela kwaye uxabise ubuntu beqabane lakho.
- Sukuphinda uphinde uphinde ukhonze izono zangaphambili zeqabane lakho kubo, usuku emva kosuku, kwisidlo sakusasa, isidlo sasemini okanye isidlo sangokuhlwa. Xolela, uyeke uqhubeke. Uxolelo aluthethi kukunyamezela ukuziphatha gadalala okanye ityhefu. Kodwa ukuba ukhethe ukuxolela enye ebalulekileyo kwaye batshintshele bhetele, sukuvumela iimpazamo zabo zangaphambili zichaze okwangoku.
- Phatha iqabane lakho njengomlingani wakho olinganayo. Yeka ukuthoba isidima okanye ukujongela phantsi iqabane lakho kwaye uzame ukwenza ubudlelwane obuhlala ixesha elide kunye neqabane lakho.
- Ngelixa kumnandi ukwenza izinto kunye, Yamkela ukuba nobabini niyakuba neminqweno eyahlukeneyo eniza kuyenza ngokobuqu. Ukuhlonipha iminqweno yomntu ngamnye kubudlelwane akunakuthethathethana kulwalamano lokonwaba.
Ukwamkela umntu ngobuhlobo bakhe
Uthando lwamkelwa kwaye uthanda umntu ngokupheleleyo nangokungenamibandela ukuba ngubani.
Kwindlela yokwenza ubudlelwane bomelele ngakumbi, ukwamkelwa okunamandla kubudlelwane kunokunceda ukukhulisa imbeko, uthando, inkathalo kunye nokukhula kubudlelwane. Eyona ndlela yokuphucula izakhono zokwamkela kubudlelwane kukuba neqhayiya ngamanqanaba omlingane wakho afezekisiweyo, amakhulu okanye amancinci.
Qaphela impumelelo yabo esidlangalaleni, yamkela ubunzima bohambo lwabo, kwaye ubancome ngobuntu babo, uncumo, ukucinga, imfesane, kunye nezinye izinto ezizenza zibaluleke.
Ngokungagxili kwiziphene zeqabane lakho kunye nokufunda ukuzamkela ukuba bangobani ubudlelwane uya kuzisa ulonwabo lokwenyani kwezona ntsuku zabo zibuthathaka, ubakhuthaze ukuba bakhule njengomntu ongcono.
Ukwamkela iziqu zethu, ukuziqhelisela ukuzenzela imfesane kunye nokubonisa umbulelo kwiqabane lakho ngokubakho ebomini bakho nokuba bangobani, kwaye abangoobani, kuya kuxhobisa ulwalamano lwakho. Khumbula ukuya kubudlelwane bakho njengobambiswano lokwenyani lwabantu abalinganayo.
Ndisebenza ne-EMDR, i-NLP, ukucamngca, ukuphefumla kunye nodliwanondlebe olukhuthazayo ukomeleza bobabini abantu ukuze ulwalamano luguquke ngokupheleleyo. Funda ukuzithanda kwaye endaweni yokuzama ukutshintsha omnye komnye, yamkele iqabane lakho ngendlela abayiyo.