Umxholo
Siyakhawuleza ukujonga ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kwe-porn kokubini kwisimo esinye nangakumbi kubudlelwane.
Ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesini kunye neziyobisi. Ngelixa kungenabumsulwa ngokupheleleyo (esiza kujonga kamva), ngaba iphonografi ingabonelela ngeqonga abantu abaninzi ekufuneka beligcinile elona nxalenye lincinci lokugqibela kubo kwabelwana ngalo kwaye kuqhelekile?
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Imfihlo
Njengengcali yezonyango, ndibona ukubonakaliswa kokufumanisa iqabane lakho "kwi-pornography". Ngelixa iimvakalelo ezahlukileyo ezijikeleze lo mbandela zahlukile kwisibini ngasinye, ezinye imixholo eqhelekileyo iyabonakala. Eyona nto iphazamisayo kukuziva ungcatshwa ngenxa yemfihlo. Kwimanyano yabhengezwa njengendawo ekwabelwana ngayo, kwaoluvo lokuhlola kunye nolonwabo luyathandabuzeka, ukuba aluvumelekanga! Ukukhutshelwa ngaphandle iqabane elinye eliziva kwilizwe labucala lomnye kuhlala kungamkelekanga.
Nokuba kunganjani na, ukwenza iinxalenye zabucala kuzisebenzele injongo kuwo wonke umjikelo wobomi. Ewe, kufuneka siyikhuphe le nto ngoku xa sele umdala, kodwa masiqale siqonde indlela yokuziphatha eyimfihlakalo. Sifuna kuphela ukungqina abantwana abancinci bedlala ukuze babone ukuyilwa kweendawo ezifihlakeleyo kunye nabahlobo bokucinga. Isisiseko kuphuhliso kunye nokuzikhethela, sivumela abantwana bethu ukuba babe nobuchule. Ngokuqinisekileyo sonke siyalukhumbula njengolutsha olufikisayo imincili yokushiywa yodwa endlwini ngenjikalanga, sikhululekile ukuba sizame njengoko sasinqwenela. Ndihlala ndiva kubaxumi ukuba bayayikhumbula imvakalelo ebuhlungu njengabantu abadala, xa usapho lwabo luphuma kwaye bashiyeka bodwa kwizixhobo zabo. Isidingo "sokwenza into embi" siyavela nangoku! Ndithi "imbi" ngokukhululekileyo, kunoko kukwenza into engaqhelekanga; into engavunyelwanga ngabazali okanye luluntu.
Ngoba? Lo mnqweno ulindeleyo wokuphonononga kunye nokufumanisa okuthile malunga nokuzimela okungalungelanga ukujongwa luluntu. Ithuba lokuvumela enye indawo yethu ukuba ivele, ngaphandle kwesigwebo. Wowu. Kunjani ukuba nomtsalane. Ukuba mdala, kukodwa, kuyindawo evulekileyo yengxoxo. Sikhetha iindlela zethu zokuphila, kwaye simisela imigaqo kunye neenkqubo njengoko sibona kufanelekile. Sibhalisela iindima eziphambili kwaye senza konke okusemandleni ukuthobela uxanduva. Amaqhekeza ngamaqhekeza, simka kuloo nto uCarl Jung ayibiza ngokuba yiAnima yethu. Umsebenzi obalulekileyo we psyche kukudibanisa ubuye nebali lethu lasekuqaleni. Wonke umntu unebali elahlukileyo lokuba ngoobani ngenene. Uninzi lomsebenzi wam weklinikhi kukufika kule nto. Kwinkqubo yokukhula, siphulukana nokunxibelelana neminqweno yethu esingokwemvelo. Izidingo zokuqala zityunyuzwa kwangoko kwaye ziphinde zenziwe ngokutsha ngokwentlalo. Kukuyilwa kuphela apho sinokubuyela kwiimfuno zethu zokwenyani. Izinto ezinzulu ezintle, kwaye andithethi ukuba masisebenzise iphonografi ukuze siphinde sinxibelelane nathi, kodwa andinakukunceda kodwa ndiqaphele ukuqhuba okusuka kwinyani kuye kumnandi. Kwaye uyazibuza ukuba yintoni, ngaphandle kokucacileyo, ekule fantasy?
Ndinemibuzo emininzi kwizibini eziza nalo mbandela wokusetyenziswa kwe-porn njengokungcatsha. Okokuqala nokuphambili kukulungela ukuqonda.
- Yintoni eyenzekayo xa ujonga iphonografi?
- Ngaba kukho umxholo osisiseko senkanuko?
- Ngaba unomdla wokwazi ukuba inokuba yintoni kunye nokubaluleka kwayo kwiqabane lakho?
Ngelixa kulula kwaye ulinga ukuphosa itawuli kwaye uyibhalele ekugqwethweni, ayisiyonxalenye yokuzibophelela ekuqondeni ilizwe lakho langaphakathi lomlingane? Kwaye, ngaba iqabane elonileyo likulungele ukuthetha malunga noku, likulungele ukuvumela ukungena kweli hlabathi, lihlazo ecaleni? Awunguwo umsebenzi olula, njengoko kuninzi ukuhlazeka okubandakanyekileyo kuninzi.
Kuya kufuneka ndibuze isibini ukuba simise eli candelo kancinci. Kwimeko ekhuselekileyo yokungabikho komgwebo, sinokujonga iimpendulo kwimibuzo eyoyikisayo yenkundla yabucala yezesondo.
Olunye uluvo oluqhelekileyo ngumxholo othi "Andilunganga ngokwaneleyo". Uluvo lokuba iqabane lakho likubonile ngathi alonelisi kwaye lifuna ngcono nangakumbi. Ukuba ndingalinceda iqabane elonzakeleyo ukuba lidlule kule mida yokuthintela kunye nokulahlekisa, sisendleleni eya ebanzi. Nangona kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuziva ngale ndlela, kuninzi ngakumbi okungaphantsi kolwazi olukhokelela kule ndlela yokukhuthaza. Oku yeyona nto inzima ukuvela kuyo, kwaye inento yokwenza nemida kunye ne-ego. Omnye akanako ukuthatha uxanduva olupheleleyo ngemicimbi yomnye.
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Ke nantsi icaveat. Ngelixa imfihlo inokuthi igcine ubuqu, ubudlelwane bodwa abuvumeli ukuba kube yimfihlo. Ilunge kakhulu. Ukufumana ezinye iindlela zokugcina ukubaluleka komntu ngamnye kubalulekile kubudlelwane obusempilweni, ke ngoko akukho mntu uziva ngathi badibana kwinqanawa enye.
Ababini bafuna, kwaye kufuneka, babe nomdla ohlukileyo. Yahlula imfihlo. Ngaba oku kuthetha ukuba iphonografi kufuneka ilahlekelwe? Ngokuqinisekileyo akunjalo. Kodwa ke iyafuna ukubhengezwa, okanye nokuba kungcono, kwabelwane ngayo. Izibini ezivulekileyo malunga ne-porn kunye ne-masturbation, zixinzezelekile. Nokuba ubuhlobo buqale njani na, kuye kufike ixesha apho sizinza khona ngesiqhelo. Ngesondo nangenye indlela. Oku kudala ukhuseleko kunye nokukhuseleka esiqhutywa kuko. Ah, isipho nesiqalekiso! Ngelixa uninzi lusemngciphekweni wesipho esixabisekileyo esiye sasihlakulela ngokuya ngaphandle kukhuthazo lwangaphandle, okanye ngokuthe ngqo kwi-fling eshushu, ngaba ikhona indlela yokubamba imvulophu kwesi sipho, kwimeko engamanyala? Usebenzisa amabali akho ekwabelwana ngawo weemfuno zokuqala kunye namacala ezithunzi, izibini zinakho ukudala imenyu entsha yesondo. Ixesha lokuzisa iphonografi ngaphandle kwezithunzi; yenze ibe yinxalenye yendawo entsha yokwabelana ngesondo.
Kunini kakhulu kwaye yintoni imigibe?
Yonke into esiyicwangcisayo engqondweni ineziphumo zayo. Qiniseka ukuba utshintsha ijelo! Sine-neuroplastic. Ubuchopho bethu buqeqesha ngokukhawuleza ukukhanyisa kwimowudi ethile kwaye ukuphindaphinda kuqinisa amandla ayo. Kubalulekile ukuba nezinye iindlela zokuvuka, kunye ne-orgasm. Ngenxa yoononophala, abantu bahlambalaza ngakumbi kunye nokwenza uthando olusondeleyo kuba ngumzabalazo kwabaninzi. Abantu abadala abancinci ngokumangalisayo baxela imiba ye-ED ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo. Ewe, oku kunokuhambelana nokugqithisa ngokugqithiseleyo kunye nokuhlaziya i-masturbation. Ukucwangciswa kuxinzelelo oluphezulu lwesitayile sokuphulula amalungu esini kuya kunciphisa amandla okugcina inkanuko ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo. Ndiva iindidi ezahlukeneyo zeengxaki, ukungakwazi ukufikelela kuvuthondaba ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, ukuya kwi-ED iyonke ngaphandle komlomo okanye ukuvuselelwa ngesandla, ukuxhomekeka kwimithambo, kunye nokuqhubeka. Udidi olutsha lokuqonda isifo ngokuqinisekileyo lusondele. Imida ejikeleze ukusetyenziswa kwe-porn iyimfuneko, ke ngoko asilahlekelwa bubugcisa bokwenza uthando kwindawo enengqondo esidibanisa nomanyano lwethu. Kuya kufuneka sikwazi ukuxhasa ukugxila kulonwabo lomzimba kwindawo enengqondo, hayi eyenye yokuphazamiseka.
Ngelixa iphonografi ibonelela ngesiseko sedatha, ukugcwala kwayo kubangela ukuphazamiseka, ukulahleka kokugxila, kunye nokungakwazi ukufikelela kuvuthondaba. Isetyenziswe ngobulumko nangokwakhayo, inokuququzelela unxibelelwano nehlabathi lakho elikhethekileyo, kwaye ukwabelana ngoku kunye neqabane kuyabophelela. Ifuna ukuthembana kunye nokuba sesichengeni, zona kanye ezi zinto zisondeleyo! Ukusetyenziswa ngokungalumkanga, ngokuqinisekileyo kunokuba yingxaki.