Umxholo
- Yintoni inkwenkwe kamama?
- Uyibona njani inkwenkwe kamama
- Umyeni kunye noninazala-ukubeka imida
- 1. Thetha uze usete imida
- 2. Zijolise kuwe njengomfazi nomama kubantwana bakho
- 3. Veza iimvakalelo zakho kumyeni wakho kodwa zenze kakuhle
- 4. Umonde ongakumbi yinto oya kuyidinga
Uyazingca ngomyeni wakho kuba uyathandeka kwaye uyacinga, ndingasathethi ke ngenene elijikeleze amanenekazi.
Uyayazi indlela yokuhlonela kunye nokuthetha izinto ezilungileyo ezithandekayo kwabasetyhini.
Uyabamba kwaye uqinisekile ukuba unomona ngabahlobo bakho-de uqonde ukuba kutheni enje. Emva kweenyanga ezininzi etshatile, ekugqibeleni uyabona ukuba kutheni enobunene kwaye ethabathekisa- utshatele kwinkwenkwe kamama!
Ngoku wenza ntoni?
Yintoni inkwenkwe kamama?
Uyinkwenkwe kamama onje! Sele ulivile eli binzana amaxesha ngamaxesha kodwa uyichaza njani ukuba iyintoni intsingiselo yenkwenkwe yomama?
Inkwenkwe kamama ngumntwana oliliso likamama wakhe kodwa kuyo yonke le minyaka, le ntsingiselo itshintshile yindoda esele ikhule ngokugqibeleleyo exhomekeke kunina nokuba sele emdala.
Ngelixa usenokucinga ukuba ayinabungozi okanye ibonisa nje ukuba indoda ayizimelanga, inokubangela isoyikiso kungekuphela nje ngokuqola kwayo kodwa kwanaxa sele inosapho olulolwayo.
Indoda esele indala ngokwaneleyo ukuba ingazithathela izigqibo kodwa iqhubeke ivumele umama wayo ukuba athathe izigqibo zokugqibela nokuba sele enosapho ngokuqinisekileyo uphakathi kwamadoda aneengxaki zomama.
Ukujongana nenkwenkwe kamama akukho lula!
Uninzi lwabafazi abatshatileyo omnye banokufunga ngento yokuba kunzima ukujongana nendoda engenakwenza nto ngaphandle kokugqibela komama wayo.
Uyibona njani inkwenkwe kamama
Wazi njani imiqondiso yenkwenkwe kamama emadodeni akhule ngokupheleleyo?
Ekuqaleni, awunakuqonda ukuba umntu othandana naye okanye umntu othandana naye yinkwenkwe kamama eqinisekisiweyo.Ngapha koko, banokudlula nje ngomntu oswiti ngenene noomama babo kwaye bakweli nqanaba lokuthandana, ngekhe uqaphela nayiphi na imiqondiso.
Nje ukuba utshatile, eli lixesha lokuba uzibuze nje ukuba ujongana njani nenkwenkwe yomama.
Iimpawu ziya kuqala ukubonisa, kwaye Nazi ezinye zeempawu zokuba utshatile kwinkwenkwe kamama.
- Isicelo sikaMama sesona siphambili kuye. Ngaba umyeni wakho uxakeke kakhulu kuwe kodwa uhlala efumaneka xa kubiza umama wakhe? Ngaba umyeni wakho uhlala ehamba naye xa esiya kwivenkile ethengisa ukutya, ehlawula amatyala, naxa kufuneka eye kwagqirha?
- Ngaba uhlala ubona ukuba umyeni wakho uxakeke yifowuni yakhe kodwa akadlali ngothando ngamanye amantombazana, eneneni Ukuthetha nomama wakhe, Njengokuba ngaphezu kwesinye ngosuku!
- Wenze ntoni xa umyeni wakho ukhetha usapho lwakhe phezu kwakho nabantwana bakho? Ukuba uziva ukuba le yinto ekufuneka ucinge ngayo, ke utshatile kwindoda enokuthi ikhethe umama wayo kunosapho lwayo.
- Xa usenza izigqibo ezinkulu, umyeni wakho kubandakanya uluvo lukamama wakhe.
- Eyakho Umazala undwendwelo rhoqo kwaye wenza utshintsho aluthandayo ekhayeni lakho.
- Ngaba umyeni wakho okanye isoka elidala lihlala lihleli thelekisa wena nomama wakhe? Ngaba uyakuxelela ukuba i-steak yakho yahluke njani kwindlela umama wakhe ayenza ngayo?
- "Umamazala wam wenza ngathi utshatile nomyeni wam," ukuba uzibone sowuthetha la mazwi ngeyona ndlela, utshatile nenkwenkwe kamama.
- Okokugqibela, uhlala kufutshane nekhaya likamama wakhe okanye enyanisweni uhlala naye.
Umyeni kunye noninazala-ukubeka imida
Ukuba awukatshatanga kodwa sele uthandana kakhulu, uya kuthi, ewe, ufuna ukwazi ukuba ungajongana njani nenkwenkwe yenkwenkwe kamama kwaye wenze ingongoma.
Awufuni kuziva ngathi ulivili lesithathu apha, akunjalo?
Nangona kunjalo, owona mbuzo ulapha ngulo, ngaphambi kokuba iingxaki zomyeni kunye nomamazala ziphume esandleni, sifuna ukwazi ukuba ungayitshintsha njani inkwenkwe kamama kwaye Mfumanele umntu azenzele yena kunye nawe - usapho lwakhe.
Uninzi lwabasetyhini banokucinga ukuba ukumvumela ukuba akhethe kwaye amkhathaze malunga nendlela anokuyeka ngayo ukuba yinkwenkwe yomama, kodwa le ayisiyiyo eyona ndlela ifanelekileyo kuba oku kuya kubangela ukuba i-ego yakhe yenzakale, uya kwenzakala namagama Ndithetha kwaye ndiza kwakha uxinzelelo kunye nenzondo.
Kananjalo, umama wakhe uya kufumanisa, oko kuya kubangela ingxaki ngakumbi.
1. Thetha uze usete imida
Yazisa umyeni wakho ukuba uyayiqonda kwaye uyakuyihlonipha imbophelelo yakhe kunye nomama wakhe kodwa kuya kufuneka alungelelanise wena nabantwana ukuba unayo.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uhlale umamazala wakho njengomyeni wakho. Endaweni yokuba bafuna ukutya kunye okanye bafuna ukuphuma, ungala ngokuzithoba.
2. Zijolise kuwe njengomfazi nomama kubantwana bakho
Endleleni, thetha nomyeni wakho malunga nokuba kufuneka abeke imida njani njengoko le ilikhaya lakho hayi indawo yoomama.
Ukunciphisa umda kulawulo lwakho kwikhaya lakho kuya kukhulula kunye nokuvula amehlo ukuba uyinkosikazi yekhaya lakho.
3. Veza iimvakalelo zakho kumyeni wakho kodwa zenze kakuhle
Musa ukuba ngumntu ombi kule meko.
Unokuba nobuhlobo kunyokozala kwaye uthethe ngokukhulisa iintsapho. Unokuthetha nomyeni wakho ngokuthelekisa kwaye ayonto intle ukuyenza loo nto - kwakhona yenza ezi zinto kakuhle.
4. Umonde ongakumbi yinto oya kuyidinga
Kanye njengegama lenkwenkwe kamama, kunokubonakala ngathi indoda yakho iseyinkwenkwana ethanda kakhulu kwaye ixhomekeke kunina. Le yinto oza kuyitshintsha ngokuthe ngcembe kodwa uyenze kancinci.
A Inkwenkwe kamama ayisiyonto imbi leyo, enyanisweni, iyamenza abe nemfesane kwaye ahloniphe abantu.
Ngamanye amaxesha ngamanye amaxesha, ingcinga yokuba nokhuphiswano lokumhoya, ukungqubana phakathi komfazi nomama womthetho kuya kuba luxinzelelo kakhulu kodwa iseyinto onokusebenza kuyo ngokuqinisekileyo-emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ulusapho.