Umxholo
- Ukungathembeki emtshatweni kwaye kutheni kubuhlungu kangaka
- Iindidi zokungathembeki
- Kukuthini ukunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo?
- Yintoni intsingiselo yokuqhatha kubudlelwane?
Ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo, umtshato uyawohloka. Inokuba yeyokuqala impendulo kuye nabani na obuziweyo: "Kuthetha ntoni ukungathembeki emtshatweni?" Kodwa ngaba kunyanzelekile ukuba kube njalo?
Ukungathembeki kwiakhawunti ku-20-40% yoqhawulo-mtshato. Ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo emtshatweni kuthwala ubunzima obulinganayo. Nangona kunjalo, mininzi imizekelo yezibini eziphumelele kolu vavanyo.
Ke, sithi-emva kokungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo, umtshato usenokude uzinze ngakumbi. Makhe sibone ukuba njani.
Ukungathembeki emtshatweni kwaye kutheni kubuhlungu kangaka
Intsingiselo yokungathembeki emtshatweni, kwiimeko ezininzi, ilingana naleyo yenkanyamba edolophini. Itshabalalisa isakhiwo. Iphosa yonke into ijonge ezantsi.
Yonakalisa, kwaye ithatha ubomi nayo. Xa ujonga idolophu enjalo, yonke into onokuyibona yintshabalalo, iintlungu, isiphithiphithi.
Nangona kunjalo, masiqwalasele kwinto engabonakaliyo ngamehlo. Yinto enokwenzeka. Isakhono sokuphilisa kunye nokukhula ngokomelela- kunye!
Ukungathembeki kwalo naluphi na uhlobo kubuhlungu kakhulu kuba kukwaphula ukuthembana ekufuneka koyiswe. Uphulukana nokukhuseleka okuthuthuzelayo komtshato ongenamtshato.
Nangona kunjalo, ubunyani bezinto kukuba abantu bathwaliswe umthwalo wokukopa. Ukutshata nomntu omnye kuphela ingcinga eyakhiwe ngokwasentlalweni.
Ewe, abantu abaninzi emhlabeni jikelele bahlala bethembekile. Kodwa, lukhetho lokuziphatha kunye nokuziphatha. Kwaye ukhetho lusekwe kwimilinganiselo yezentlalo. Okuninzi ngakumbi kubalulekile ekuthetheni ngokungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo emtshatweni.
Iindidi zokungathembeki
Ukuhlela njani ukungathembeki? Abanye banokuthi ukunganyaniseki kwiqabane lakho kukungathembeki.
Abanye bathatha kuphela ubudlelwane obugcweleyo ngaphandle komtshato njengento yokuthandana, kubandakanya ukuthandana, ukuchitha ixesha kunye, kunye nokusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni. Eminye ilele kwindawo ethile phakathi. Nazi iintlobo ezithile eziqhelekileyo zokungathembeki:
- Ukungathembeki "okuqhelekileyo" - iqabane likhulisa ubudlelwane obuyimfihlo ngaphandle komtshato, kubandakanya ukusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni kwamanqanaba ahlukeneyo.
- Ukungathembeki okuphindaphindwayo- umntu okopela ngokuqhubekayo uqhubeka nokuzibandakanya nabanye abantu, kwaye iqabane eliqhathiweyo linokwazi malunga nabo okanye hayi.
- Ukungathembeki kwezemali -ukophula ukuthembana kwalo naluphi na uhlobo olujikeleze iimali ezibeka emngciphekweni ubudlelwane.
- Ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo - umtshato uphantsi kwengozi ngomnye okanye omabini amaqabane ahlakulela uthando komnye umntu.
Kukuthini ukunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo?
Yintoni ukukopa ngokweemvakalelo kubudlelwane? Kuxa iqabane liphuhlisa iimvakalelo zothando komnye umntu. Kwiimeko ezininzi, sithetha ngokukhohlisa ngokweemvakalelo xa kungekho kunxibelelana komzimba.
Nangona kunjalo, imicimbi yeemvakalelo iye ikhule ibe ngamatyala “okungaqhelekanga” okungathembeki, nto leyo edla ngokubangela ukuba abonakale esoyikisa.
Ngaba ukukrexeza kwimicimbi yomoya? Kukungathembeki kweemvakalelo okwenzayo emtshatweni kuhlala kufana nakweyiphi na into eyenzayo.
Ingakumbi ukuba iinkolelo zakho malunga nokubaluleka kokuthembeka emtshatweni ziqinile.
Abanye banokude bathi ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo kuyenzakalisa nangakumbi kunokuba omnye wabatshati wabandakanyeka nomnye umntu ngenxa yezizathu zesondo.
Abasetyhini ngabona basesichengeni sokwenzakala ngenxa yokuba amadoda abo ebaqhatha.
Amadoda ayindawo ngakumbi kwaye ayonzakala ngakumbi ngabafazi bawo abelana ngesondo namanye amadoda. Uphononongo olwenziwe ngo-2013 luveze ukuba amadoda aziva ekhathazekile xa amaqabane abo ethembekile ngokweemvakalelo xa kuthelekiswa nokungathembeki emzimbeni.
Yintoni intsingiselo yokuqhatha kubudlelwane?
Ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo, umtshato unokupheliswa okanye ukhule womelele. Uphi umgca? Yintoni eyenza umahluko? Kunzima ukukhomba ngokuthe ngqo into enye eya kuthi incam isikali.
Abantu banezinto ezininzi, kwaye nobudlelwane bunjalo. Nangona kunjalo, kukho Izinto ezimbalwa ekufuneka uziqwalasele ukuba ujongene nokungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo emtshatweni wakho kodwa unqwenela ukuwusindisa.
- Ukwamkelwa
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kulo naluphi na ulwalamano kufuneka ibe kukwamkelwa komnye umntu kunye nenyani enjalo. Ithetha ntoni le nto? Satshata sinomnqweno weentsomi.
Kodwa, nkqu neentsomi zine villains. Indima yomntu okhohlakeleyo kukufundisa iqhawe ukuba loyise imiqobo, ube ngumntu ongcono, kwaye ulwele injongo elungileyo. Ke, yamkele inyani yokuba akukho mntu ugqibeleleyo. Ngcono nangoku-ukuba sonke sigqibelele kukungafezeki.
Ukuba ufuna ukuba ngumlinganiswa obalaseleyo, kuya kufuneka ufunde ukwamkela umbono weqabane lakho (kunye naye nabani na), ubuthathaka kunye nokusilela kwabo.
- Ukuhambelana kwemilinganiselo
Kungumqondo okhohlakeleyo ukuqonda, kodwa isizathu sokuba senzakaliswe kukungathembeki sanyanzelwa kuthi. Kukho iinkcubeko apho ukungathembeki kungavunyelwanga, kungagwetywa.
Kwiinkcubeko ezo, abantu abenzakaliswa yiyo. Ke, oku kuthetha ukuba ekuphela kwesizathu sokuba wenzakale kukuba ukhulele kuluntu oluthile. Ngaba ikunika inkululeko yokucinga, akunjalo?
- Ukunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo kunokuba ngumqondiso
Yisebenzise ukuqonda ukuba lifuneka ntoni iqabane lakho kodwa lingafumani kuwe. Thatha ulawulo kubudlelwane bakho kwaye usebenzise esi siganeko ukukhula njengesibini. Inokwenziwa, siyathembisa!