Umxholo
- Yintoni ukumamela ngokuzikhusela
- Izizathu ezibangela ukumamela ngokuzikhusela
- Imizekelo yokuziphendulela yokumamela
- Ungakuphelisa njani ukumamela ngokuzikhusela
- Jongana nokuziphatha
- Lawula umsindo wakho kwaye uyazi ukuba akukho ngozi ikhawulezileyo
- Hlaziya imeko kwaye ubuze imibuzo ukuba iyafuneka
- Ziqhelanise nezakhono ezifanelekileyo zonxibelelwano
Sisenokungaqhelani nekota kodwa sinesabelo sabantu abanezakhono zokumamela.
Ngaba wakha wakwimeko apho amagqabantshintshi amsulwa okanye amagama athathwe kakubi kwaye agqwethwa ngumntu? Apho uluvo oluhle luye lwajijwa ukuba lube nentsingiselo efihliweyo ebangele ukuba umntu akhathazeke okanye abe nomsindo?
Hayi, khange wenze nto igwenxa apha. Ngapha koko, ubunokujongana nomntu ophulaphula ngokuzikhusela. Ukuba uqhelene nale meko okanye nakuwuphi na umcimbi, ucinga ukuba unokuba wenza ukumamela ngokuzikhusela, emva koko ufunde.
Yintoni ukumamela ngokuzikhusela
Yintoni ukumamela ngokuzikhusela?
Ukumamela ngokuzikhuselakuxa umntu ethatha uluvo olungenatyala njengohlaselo lobuqu kuye.
Inkcazo yokumamela ekhuselayo ijikeleze umntu onokudala ukubonakala okungalunganga kumagqabantshintshi kunye neempendulo kuye nabani na.
Kwenzeka xa umntu ezama ukufumana isiphoso kwizimvo ezilula nezimsulwa okanye iingxelo ezivela emntwini kwaye akubone njengokuhlaselwa buqu, ukugxekwa ngokungathanga ngqo kunye nokubangela ukuba alwe nto leyo ebangela ukuba umntu owamkeleyo acaphuke kwaye azikhusele. .
Izizathu ezibangela ukumamela ngokuzikhusela
Njengoko ngoku sikwazi ukuchaza ukumamela ngokuzikhusela, ngokuqinisekileyo sifuna ukwazi ukuba kutheni kukho abantu abenza oku. Ukumamela ngokuzikhusela lolunye uphawu lwezakhono zokumamela eziphantsi ezinokubangela ukuba naluphi na ulwalamano lube neengxaki. Ngaba unokucinga ukuba utshatile nomntu ozithatha kakubi iingxelo zakho nezimvo zakho ezibangela umlo kunye nokungaqondani?
Kuvela phi ukuzikhusela kwaye kutheni kunzima ukuyeka?
Ngokuzenzekelayo, umntu ophendula ngokuzikhusela ngenxa yesongelo esibonakalayo. Nangona kunjalo, ngokumamela ngokuzikhusela, umntu unokuvele anike ingxelo engenatyala okanye isiqhulo kodwa elinye icala livile into ebangela ukuba umphulaphuli azikhusele. Umphulaphuli apha ubonakalisa ngokucacileyo indlela engafanelekanga yokumamela kwaye ubonakalisa kuphela indlela yokuziphatha enzima yokuzikhusela.
Ukuba umntu akanazakhono zonxibelelwano zingalunganga kwaye ubonakalisa iimpawu zokuzikhusela, oku kunokuba sisiphumo sengqondo, imvakalelo, imiba yobuntu okanye ukuphazamiseka okuye kwenzeka ngexesha lamava adlulileyo ebanike ukuziva belahliwe, kubonisa ukuba phantsi Inzima, ibonisa ukuzithemba okuphantsi, kwaye nanjengophawu lwe-narcissism.
Imizekelo yokuziphendulela yokumamela
Kunzima ukujongana nabantu abagxile ekuphulaphuleni ngokuzikhusela.
Ngapha koko, oku kunokubangela ukuba abantu bayeke ukunxibelelana okanye barhoxe kubudlelwane babo okanye kubuhlobo ngenxa yetyhefu yobudlelwane. Makhe sijonge eminye yeyona mizekelo mihle yokuzikhusela.
Umntu okhuselayo uyakwenza ingqiqo egqwethekileyo malunga nazo zonke iingxelo ezingezizo ezomntu. Umntu angabeka into malunga nokuziphatha emsebenzini kunye nabantu abonqenayo, enokuthi ibe luluvo oluthembekileyo okanye ingxelo kodwa kumphulaphuli okhuselayo, olu luhlaselo lomntu kwisithethi. Oku kunokubangela umsindo nentiyo kwaye kunokubangela umlo.
Kwizibini ezitshatileyo, ezinobudlelwane nomntu ononxibelelwano olubi kwaye uhlala ekumamele ngokuzikhusela, kuya kuhlala kunxibelelana gwenxa, ukungaqondani, kwaye ekugqibeleni neengxoxo. Kunzima ukugcina ubudlelwane obuhle xa iqabane lakho lisebenzisa amagama akho ngokuchasene nawe. Ngapha koko, oku kuthathwa njengobudlelwane obunetyhefu.
Ukuhlekisa ngeSarcastic nako akusebenzeli abaphulaphuli abakhuselayo kuba baya kuhlala bethatha ngokungathí sina kwaye buqu. Ukuba umntu uqhula ejikeleza esithi iziqhulo ezihlekisayo zilungile kwaye ziyahlekisa kuninzi lwethu, umntu okhuselayo uya kucinga ukuba yingxelo yokwenyani ejolise kubo.
Oku kunokubangela ukuba lo mntu achaze ngokwenyani kwaye azikhusele ngokwakhe kumntu othe isiqhulo esingesiso esibi kuphela kodwa esisisibangela sokungaqondani.
Ungakuphelisa njani ukumamela ngokuzikhusela
Ukuziqonda kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ufuna ukuyeka umkhuba wokumamela ngokuzikhusela. Nje ukuba uyiqonde indlela eyityhefu ngayo okanye indlela enokubonakalisa ngayo ubudlelwane bakho, lixesha lokuba utshintshe. Xa ujongene nezilo zakho zangaphakathi, umonde kunye nokuzinikela kuyafuneka kuba ayisiyonkqubo inde kuphela kodwa luhambo oludinisayo ngokunjalo.
Kunzima ukutshintsha indlela ocinga ngayo kwaye kunzima ukuziqhelanisa nezakhono zonxibelelwano ezifanelekileyo xa uqhele ukumamela ngokuziphendulela ngakumbi xa izinto ezibangela zivela kumava adlulileyo.
Kusekho ithemba kubantu abasetyenziselwa ukumamela ngokuzikhusela. Ngaphandle kwonyango, kukho iindlela kunye nezenzo ezinokukunceda.
Jongana nokuziphatha
Njengokuba eli gama lisitsho, umntu ophulaphula ngokuzikhusela uyazikhusela. Ke, umntu makayazi ingcambu yokuzikhusela, izinto ezibangela kwaye ikakhulu ngunobangela. Lungisa umba kwaye ukwazi ukusebenzisa iindlela ezichanekileyo zokuphucula.
Lawula umsindo wakho kwaye uyazi ukuba akukho ngozi ikhawulezileyo
Cinga ngaphambi kokuba uthethe kwaye uphendule. Funda ukukuqonda oko kuthethwa nguloo mntu endaweni yokuvumela iimvakalelo zakho zikulawule.
Hlaziya imeko kwaye ubuze imibuzo ukuba iyafuneka
Kunye nezi zimbini, kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba ungazamkela njani iimpazamo kunye nokugxekwa, ukuze kuthi nakweyiphi na imeko uve into enokukuxhokonxa, uya kuba nakho ukulawula iimpembelelo zakho.
Ziqhelanise nezakhono ezifanelekileyo zonxibelelwano
Funda ukuziqhelanisa nezakhono zonxibelelwano ezifanelekileyo apho ukumamela kubalulekile njengokuthetha. Kunokuba nzima kodwa ukwazi ukukunyamezela oku kuphuhliso lwakho lobuqu.
Okokugqibela, cela uncedo ukuba luyafuneka kwaye wamkele unyango olunikezelwayo. Vumela i-Therapist ikuqonde kwaye yamkele ingxelo. Zibophelele kutshintsho olufunekayo kwaye uhlale ugxile. Khumbula ukuba utshintsho luza kuqala kuthi hayi nabanye abantu.
Ukumamela ngokuzikhuselayo kunokuba ngenxa yamava amabi adlulileyo kodwa asifuni kuphila ubomi bokuzikhusela kunye nokujonga abantu ukuba bathethe into ukuze sizikhusele ngayo. Izakhono zonxibelelwano ezilungileyo kunye nokuziphatha kunokuba nzima ekuqaleni kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo akunakwenzeka. Khumbula ukuba ukuthanda kwakho ukutshintsha ube ngcono kuya kukunceda uphile ubomi botshintsho oluqinisekileyo.