Umxholo
Umntu ngamnye unendlela yakhe yokujongana neemvakalelo zakhe kunye notshintsho ngokubanzi oluvela emva koqhawulo mtshato. Amadoda amaninzi akhalaza ngokuba abo babesakuba ngabafazi babo baziphatha ngeendlela ezingabakhathazi nje kuphela, kodwa zichaphazela nabo babangqongileyo. Kwaye xa kuziwa kwidrama yomfazi wangaphambili, iza ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Nokuba ngumfazi wangaphambili obangela idrama okanye uyayibangela ngokunxulumene naye.
Nokuba umthombo ngowakho okanye nguwe, kukho izinto ezithile ekufuneka wonke umntu okhe waqhawula umtshato aqhawule kuzo. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso:
Cacisa ukuba ubudlelwane buphelile
Oko akuthethi ngamagama kuphela. Nokuba yingcaciso ekufuneka uyinike umfazi wakho wangaphambili okanye wena kunye nabanye ukuze iqabane lakho langaphambili lingabinangxaki okwangoku, kufuneka licace gca kwaye kufuneka liqiniswe zizenzo.
Akwanelanga ukuthi ubudlelwane buphelile. Ukuziphatha kwakho kufuneka kugxininise kwinto enye. Indlela ovumela ngayo umfazi wakho wangaphambili ukuba aziphathe iyinxalenye yomda wokuziphatha kwakho. Umzekelo, ungayeka ukumfowunela, kodwa uhlala uphendula iminxeba yakhe kwaye umvumele ukuba enze into echaphazela kakubi ubomi bakho ayizukunceda nganto. Njengomtshato, uqhawulo-mtshato kufuneka luvele macala omabini. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kuthatha ngaphezulu kokutshintsha indlela ocinga nokuziphatha ngayo.
Yiba ngokungaguquguqukiyo
Esinye sezizathu zixhaphakileyo kwidrama yomfazi wangaphambili kukuba amadoda awazigqibi izinto ngokufanelekileyo okanye ashiye izinto kwindawo engwevu. Ngelixa kulungile kwaye kufanelekile ukuba umntu amkele ukuba kuhlala kukho indawo yeemeko zomhlaba ophakathi ebomini, kukho iimeko ezithile apho izinto ziza kuphela zimnyama okanye zimhlophe. Ukuba awufuni kunika isizathu sokuziphatha okungafunekiyo kumfazi wakho wangaphambili, kuya kufuneka uphinde uziphathe ngendlela engashiyi ndawo yokutolika.
Yiba nengqiqo, kodwa usebenzise
Oku kubalulekile ekusebenzisaneni kwakho nowayesakuba ngumfazi wakho. Ukuba uqhawulo-mtshato yayiyinto oyifunayo, kodwa ayingomfazi wakho, kuyacaca ukuba inqanaba lomkhosi liya kwahluka. Izinto ezifanayo ziyasebenza kwinzondo okanye ukuzisola okanye nayiphi na imvakalelo. Nangona kunjalo, awufanelanga ukuba uvumeleke ukuya kwinqanaba apho ukuqonda kunye nokuthathelwa ingqalelo kungasafani.
Ukuthatha ukuba isixa sokuzibaxa kakhulu kumfazi wakho asiveli kwinto oyenzileyo engalunganga ngaye, kubalulekile ukuba uthathe isigqibo malunga nenkqubo oza kujongana nayo. Amanyathelo angqongqo ngamanye amaxesha ayadingeka, kodwa ngokubanzi awathathwa kakuhle ngabanye kwaye angabinaso isiphumo esihle osifunayo.
Cinga ngale ndlela: Awufuni kungabinampucuko ngokungagcini unxibelelwano olusisiseko lomntu, ngakumbi ukuba wabelana ngomntwana kunye, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba ufuna ukuba azive ekhululekile ukuba anganyanzelwa nanini na okanye naphina apho athanda khona. . Kuya kufuneka unombono ocacileyo wento oyifunayo kwaye onokuyenza ngokunxulumene naye ngaphambi kokuba nantoni na iphume esandleni.
Khangela isizathu sayo yonke loo nto. Yonke inyundululu kunye nawo wonke umsitho unesizathu emva kwawo. Ngaphandle kokuba ujongane nomntu ongazinzanga ngokwasemphefumlweni, kulungile ukuba ucinge ukuba kufanele kubekho into ebangela yonke le nto unokuyilungisa. Kwaye ngelixa oku kunokuvakala ngathi kufuneka unxibelelane neqabane lakho langaphambili ngaphezulu kunokuba ungathanda, eneneni kufuna ukuhlangana okuncinci kakhulu njengoko kufuna ukucinga nokunyaniseka.
Nokuba yimali, uluvo lokuziva ungalunganga okanye isidingo sokugxeka omnye umntu ngokungonwabi, kumaxesha amaninzi amadoda awazazi “izizathu” ezimi ngasemva kwawo wonke umlo nedrama. Kwaye ukukhetha ukungayikhathaleli okanye ukuzijonga njengabakhululweyo kulo naliphi na ityala kuyo akuyicombululi imeko. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuthetha ngokuzolileyo omnye komnye kunye nokuzama ukusombulula iingxaki kunye nokuphendula imibuzo ebishiywe ingaphendulwanga kunokuzisa izibonelelo ezininzi kunokuba umntu unokukholelwa. Logama omnye umntu eziva unyanisekile, kuya kuba nzima kubo ukuba baqhubeke kwinqaku elifanayo njengangaphambili.
Zininzi iindlela zokujongana nemicimbi ekufuneka umntu ajongane nayo ngokunxulumene neqabane lakhe langaphambili kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu kukukhumbula ukuba umntu ngamnye unezinto zakhe ezizodwa kunye nezikhalazo kwaye kufuneka kujongwane nazo zilungele bonke.