Umxholo
- Ukudumisa yinto abayifunayo ngalo lonke ixesha
- Uvakalelo olugqithisileyo lokuzithanda
- Ukuziva ukongama
- Bazibaxa izinto abaziphumezileyo
- Ijolise kubuhle nakwigunya
- Ubuqhetseba kwindalo
- Utyekelo lokuba nomona
- Andikwazi ukwamkela ukugxekwa
I-Narcissism ligama lesiGrike elibandakanya ukuzithanda komntu kunye nokubonakala komzimba. Yimeko yokuzithanda kakhulu.
Ukongeza, umntu ongu-narcissist uzicingela yedwa; akudingeki ukuba babe bahle ukuze bakholelwe ukuba kunjalo. Endaweni yoko, baqinisekile ngokwabo ukuba bahle kwaye bangaphezulu kwabanye. Ukujongana ne-narcissist kuya kuba nzima ukuba awunako ukukhomba ezi nyani kubo. Nangona kunokuba lula ukutsho kunokuba kwenziwe, nangona kunjalo, yinto ekufuneka yenziwe.
Iimpawu zobuntu bomntu owenza i-narcissist
Xa uthando lwakho lufikelela kwinqanaba eligqithisileyo, emva koko i-narcissism iyatshintsha ibe kukuphazamiseka kubuntu. Umntu ophethwe sesi sifo usebenza ngokungathandekiyo, kwaye isimo sengqondo kunye nokuziphatha kwaloo mntu akunakuthathwa njengesiqhelo. Iimpawu ezithile zabantu abanjalo zivelisa isimilo, ukuba sichongiwe, sinokukunceda ukuba ujongane narcissist.
Nazi ezinye zeendlela zokuziphatha eziboniswe ngumntu obhinqileyo oxoxwa ngezantsi. Ukuba ufuna ukwazi indlela yokuphatha i-narcissist, funda ku:
Ukudumisa yinto abayifunayo ngalo lonke ixesha
Ukulambela kwabo indumiso akupheli. Kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, le ndumiso yeyabo kuphela, kwaye abafuni mntu ulindele okufanayo kubo.
Njengokuba kunjalo, ukuba ngamanye amaxesha abayiva intliziyo efanayo yokuphumelela ukuncoma emva koko bayacaphuka kwaye bayadana.
Kwangelo xesha, uphando lukwabonakalisile ukuba ukuncoma okugqithileyo kungakhokelela kubuchwephesha kubantwana.
Uvakalelo olugqithisileyo lokuzithanda
Abayiqondi inyani yokuba abanye banentliziyo kwaye wonke umntu unexabiso elithile. AmaNarcissist akaze azive abanye; ngenene bafuna ukuba baphathwe njengabongamileyo kunabanye.
Ukuziva ukongama
Nokuba sele bephumelele nantoni na okanye abanayo ingqiqo ethile yokuphakama okusoloko ibajikelezile.
Bafuna ngokwabo ukuba babonwa njengabakwizikhundla eziphambili kunabo bonke abanye abantu.
Bazibaxa izinto abaziphumezileyo
Ngapha koko, ukuba banetalente yento ebavumele nokuba bafeze le nto bayinqwenelayo; ke ezi zinto ziphunyeziweyo zihlala zibaxiwe ngabantu abenza izinto ezingezizo.
Ijolise kubuhle nakwigunya
Ukuzixakekisa ngeengcinga ngobuhle, amandla, ubukrelekrele, iqabane lobomi elifanelekileyo lelinye uphawu olubalulekileyo lwabantu abanjalo. Kunokuba nzima ukuqaphela ngamanye amaxesha kuba abantu abaninzi bayatsaleleka kwezi zinto kodwa abantu abanamava okujongana narcissist bayazi ukuba ukuzixakekisa kwabo kukwinqanaba elahlukileyo kwaphela.
Ubuqhetseba kwindalo
Bakhohlisa izinto kwaye bacinge ngeendlela ezikhohlisayo zokufumana le nto bayifunayo. Ngaphaya koko, banokusebenzisa abanye abantu, babe nembeko kwaye babe nobubele ekwamkeleni ukuthanda kwabo. Ngapha koko, uphononongo olwenziwe yiDyunivesithi yaseAlabama luye lwabonisa ukuba abo bantu banokuzama ngobuchule ukwenza nokuba amaqabane abo abe nomona.
Utyekelo lokuba nomona
Bahlala bebamonela abanye kwaye bacinga ukuba abanye bayabamonela njengoko zizinto ezigqibeleleyo ezinobuhle obunengqondo. Oku kwenza ukuba ukujongana ne-narcissist kube nzima kakhulu kuba becinga ukuba abantu bazimisele nje ukubabonisa xa bekhomba utyekelo lwabo lwe-narcissistic.
Andikwazi ukwamkela ukugxekwa
Okokugqibela, basabela kulo naluphi na uhlobo lokugxekwa ngokuchasene nokuzikhukhumalisa okugqithisileyo (jonga olu phononongo lunomdla oluthetha ngokunxulumene nokugxekwa kunye ne-narcissism).
Ngaba uyazi ukuba kukho enye ingxaki exelisa zombini i-narcissism kunye ne-borderline disorder personality. Jonga le vidiyo ukuze wazi ukufana nokwahluka:
Ujongana njani narcissist
Kunzima kakhulu ukujongana ne-narcissist kuba abayamkeli into abahlangabezana nayo, sisiphazamiso sobuntu. Kwakhona, xa beceliwe ukuba batyelele ugqirha, banokuphendula ngomsindo ngenxa yokuba ithemba ngokuqinisekileyo liyabenzakalisa ukuzithemba kwabo. Inokude ikhokelele, ngamanye amaxesha, ekuphathweni gadalala okunokuthatha umthwalo kwiqabane okanye kufutshane.
Emva koko wenzeni? Ungabenza njani baqonde ukuba babonakalisa iimpawu zobuntu zobuchwephesha?
Akunzima kakhulu. Okulandelayo zezinye iimfihlo ezisinceda ukuba sijongane ne-narcissist.
Yiba nembeko
Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba ungajongana njani nendoda ye-narcissist, utata, umama, umfazi, umhlobo okanye umntakwabo? Qala ngokuthetha nabo ngentlonelo endaweni yokuphendula ngomsindo. Mamela oko bacinga kwaye baziva kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe ufumane isisombululo kuko.
Ungaze ulwe okanye ubanyanzele ukuba benze nantoni na echasene nengqondo yabo.
Babuze
AmaNarcissist ahlala eyazi inkangeleko yawo, isimo sawo sengqondo, kunye nobuntu babo ngokubanzi, kodwa banokubonakala bengento kwabanye. Ke kubalulekile ukuba sibabuze imibuzo enje, 'Ngaba ukhe wacinga ukuba abanye abantu bangathini ngawe?', 'Ngaba awufuni ukwazi ukuba abanye baziva ntoni ngawe nokuziphatha kwakho okungaqhelekanga?', Okanye 'Ngaba ufuna ukujongeka ungafezekanga phambi kwabanye? '
Imibuzo enjalo ngokuqinisekileyo iya kubenza bazibuze malunga nokuziphatha kwabo. Kuba bahlala befuna ukujonga okuhle, baya kuzama ukubatshintsha, kodwa ngokuthe ngcembe.
Le yenye yeengcebiso ezisebenzayo zokuthetha narcissist.
Khetha 'HAYI' kwimibuzo yabo emininzi
Ngalo lonke ixesha abantu abanjalo befumana ukuvunywa kwento abayithethayo, bayaphanga ngakumbi okwenza ukuba umntu abe ngumlondolozi abe ngumsebenzi wokunyuka ngamanye amaxesha. Bakholelwa ekubeni kuphela zichanekile ngelixa abanye bechasene nabo. Umzekelo, ukuba umhlobo wakho, narcissist uthi, 'Ngaba awucingi ukuba ndinengqondo ngaphezu kogxa wethu?'
Eyona ndlela yokuphendula umntu kwi-narcissist kukuba impendulo yakho mayibe mbi. Kodwa ukongeza ekubeni uthi hayi, kuya kufuneka uchaze nesizathu ngelixa ujongene nobuntu obuthandayo. Zama ukweyisela umhlobo wakho ukuba abale iimpawu ezintle zabantu ababangqongileyo.
Phuhlisa uvelwano kwabanye
Ngelixa ujongene ne-narcissist, kufuneka ifundiswe kubo ukuba kulungile ukuba ngumntu oqhelekileyo. Uvelwano kwabanye luyimfuneko ekwakheni ubudlelwane kunye nabo.
Xa ubudlelwane kunye noogxa bakho, abahlobo okanye abantakwenu balungile, uziva ukhululekile ukuba kunye nabo. Oku kukuvumela ukuba wabelane ngeengcinga zakho.
Ukongeza koku, ukuqonda abanye kubalulekile; Umntu owenza iziyobisi kufuneka afunde ukuhamba ngezihlangu zomnye umntu.
Akukho ntloni ngokundwendwela ugqirha wezengqondo
Impendulo yokuba singobani ibonwa ngamehlo abanye. Singazicingela kakhulu kwaye sizicingele ukuba siyabuphika ubukho babantu abasingqongileyo. Yiyo loo nto, ukuba ufuna ukukhomba iimpawu zakho zobundlobongela, ndwendwela ugqirha wezengqondo onamava afanelekileyo ekujonganeni nengxaki yobuntu. Xoxa ngeengxaki zakho kwaye uzilahle.
Kananjalo, ukuba umntu omaziyo ubonakalisa le miqondiso ngazo zonke iindlela, bacebise ukuba bafumane uncedo kodwa bafumane impendulo eyiyo, soloko ukhumbula ukuba nembeko kwaye ungazikhuseli xa ujongene narcissist.