Umxholo
Ukufumana uncedo lokoyisa imiceli mngeni yeemvakalelo umntu aqubisana nazo emva kokuqhawula umtshato akukho lula njengokufumana iphepha lokubhala uncedo. Nokuba uyazi ukuba ukwahlukana ne ex yakho linyathelo elungileyo olithathileyo, ngamanye amaxesha ungamkhumbula, okanye uve isizungu.
Eyona nto i-ex yakho ikwanayo okanye iya kuziva ngale ndlela akukho zindlela zimbini ngayo. Kuqhelekile, kodwa kuya kufuneka ujongane neemvakalelo zakho kwaye uqhubeke nobomi kuba iphelile phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho.
Kule posi, uya kufunda ngendlela yokujongana nemicimbi yeemvakalelo ezivelayo emva komtshato.
1. Musa ukudlala ityala
Eyona ndlela ilula yokuzibambisa ngokweemvakalelo emva koqhawulo-mtshato kukusola umntu wakho wakudala kulwalamano olungaphumelelanga. Usenokucinga ukuba iqabane lakho langaphambili likhangeleka ngathi lilibi ukuba noxolo lwengqondo, kodwa usenokuba wenza impazamo enkulu ngokwenza njalo.
Kubudlelwane obubandakanya abantu abadala bobabini, la maqela mabini anendima ekufuneka eyidlalile ukuze isebenze. Ke, ukuba ubudlelwane bakho abuphumelelanga, sukuzama ukubeka ityala komnye umntu. Nawe ngekhe ubeke umzamo omkhulu wokuyenza isebenze. Okanye mhlawumbi uyenzile, kodwa izinto azisebenzi; ayinamsebenzi, awunakugxeka umntu wakudala.
Ngexesha elizayo kunye nokuphepha ukuya kumava afanayo kubudlelwane obutsha, fumana ukuba usilele phi kwaye ulungise.
2. Funa inkxaso
Ukuya kuqhawulo mtshato kukodwa kunzima.
Kwaye ukuhlala kude nosapho kunye nabahlobo ngeli xesha kubi kakhulu. Uya kudinga inkxaso yabahlobo kunye nezihlobo ukuze udlule kweli nqanaba lobomi bakho. Into kukuqinisekisa kwabo ukuba wenze ukhetho oluchanekileyo, kwaye amagama athambileyo aya kukunceda ufumane imeko ngokukhawuleza.
Ukuba uziva kukho isidingo sokufuna unyango ukuze ugqithe kwiimvakalelo kunye noxinzelelo onokuba uhlangabezana nalo ngeli xesha, yenza njalo.
3. Hlala usempilweni kwaye womelele
Awungekhe uqhawule umtshato kwaye uphathwe yimpilo enkenenkene ngenxa yokungakhathali, zombini ngaxeshanye. Nokuba unabantwana okanye awubakhathaleli, kuya kufuneka ukhathalele impilo yakho.
Qonda ukuba uqhawulo-mtshato ayisosiphelo sehlabathi. Ngexesha, uyakufumana umntu oza kongeza ixabiso ebomini bakho. Zinyamekele ngokutya ukutya okusempilweni, kunye nokuzilolonga rhoqo.
Akudingeki nokuba ube noxinzelelo ngeli xesha lobomi bakho. Gxila kwizinto ezifanelekileyo kwaye ufumane ukulala ngokwaneleyo ubusuku nemini.
Isiphelo
Ukwahlukana nomntu omthandayo kunzima ukoyisa. Kungathatha ixesha ukuba amanxeba ashiyekileyo kuqhawulo-mtshato aphile ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa ubomi buyaqhubeka, ke kuya kufuneka uqhubeke nobomi.
Kufuneka ubekwimo entle ukuze wamkele umntu olandelayo oza kuza ebomini bakho. Qonda ukuba uqhawulo-mtshato ayisosiphelo sehlabathi. La manyathelo angentla anokukunceda woyise iimvakalelo ezibakho emva koqhawulo-mtshato. Zisebenzise ukudlula iimvakalelo zakho kwaye ube ngcono kuwe.