Umxholo
- Kuqala, ngaba ixesha lakho lokwahlula ixesha lam lahluliweyo?
- Kwaye kwelinye icala lesiphelo
- Ke wonke umntu unexesha lakhe lokuthandana kunye nengcaciso “yokuzahlula”
- Kunzima ukwenza ngokubanzi, kodwa ukuthandana nomntu owahluliweyo kwahlukile
- Kwaye awufuni ukuba yingcali yengqondo engahlawulwayo
- Qinisekisa ukuba eli lixesha elifanelekileyo
- Kwaye ngokufanayo
- I-Telltale isayina ukuba ngoku ayiloxesha elifanelekileyo lokuba uthandane nomntu osandula ukwahlukana
- Okokugqibela, ufanele ukhangele ntoni?
Ukuthandana. Ngaba ngekhe kumangalise ukuba yonke imihla ibingalibaleki, amaxesha amnandi okuzaliswa kovuyo olusulungekileyo achithwe nomntu osincedisileyo wasincoma, kwaye engenampahla ihamba nayo?
Hah! Kwindalo efanelekileyo, qiniseka.
Kodwa inyani yokuthandana yenye into ngenene. Kukho zonke iintlobo zeentlanzi elwandle, njengoko isitsho loo bromide indala, kodwa makhe sijonge kolunye lweentlobo zabantu, hayi iintlanzi! : Indoda okanye umfazi osandula ukwahlukana oye wangena echibini lokuthandana okanye elwandle, ukugqiba, kube kanye, intetho yakudala.
Kuqala, ngaba ixesha lakho lokwahlula ixesha lam lahluliweyo?
Wonke umntu unewotshi yakhe yangaphakathi elawula ukuhamba kwexesha.
U-Aurora Wisson, oneminyaka engama-25 ubudala, wahlukana nobuhle bakhe obude, u-Judd, kwiinyanga ezintathu ezidlulileyo. “Kubonakala ngathi ibiyinto yobomi eyadlulayo, kodwa ndiyazi ukuba ibinqabile nangaliphi na ixesha. Andikulungelanga ukungena kwakhona kwilizwe lokuthandana.
Abahlobo bam bazama ukundicwangcisa ngalo lonke ixesha, kodwa ndisalhlaza. Ndidinga ixesha lokwenza yonke into kwaye ndiqonde eyona nto iphambili phambi kokuba ndithandane. ” Ke, i-Aurora ayinakuba lukhetho olufanelekileyo lomhla ngeli xesha kwaye uyayazi.
Kwaye kwelinye icala lesiphelo
ULarry, oneminyaka engama-45 ubudala, wagxothwa nguRosalie, awayesele eneenyanga ezintandathu embona. “Ngokuqinisekileyo, ndandikhutshiwe, kodwa andifuni kumosha elinye ixesha ngokucinga ngobume bam obutsha njengomntu ongatshatanga. Ndiphume ngobusuku emva kokuba uRosalie endinike i 'ol heave-ho, kwaye bendinomhla kunye ne-gal eyahlukileyo rhoqo ngolwesiHlanu nangoMgqibelo ebusuku.
Andizicingi nokucinga ngokwam njengokwahlulwa kutsha nje, kwaye sekusele iiveki ezintathu ngoku.
Uyazi ukuba i-adage endala malunga nehashe? Ukuba uyawa, uzisuse uthuli, kwaye unyuke ubuye ngqo kwihashe.
Ndim lowo!" Ngokuqinisekileyo uLarry akazange athandabuze ukubuyela ekuthandaneni, kodwa amaqabane kaLarry anokuqonda ukuba unomdla kakhulu.
Ke wonke umntu unexesha lakhe lokuthandana kunye nengcaciso “yokuzahlula”
Kulungile, ulungele ukuphuma kwilizwe lokuthandana. Kwaye lo mntu unomdla osandula ukuthandana naye ukuxelela ukuba usandula ukwahlukana. Zeziphi ezinye zezinto omele uziqwalasele? Njani le meko ukuthandana yahlukile kunolunye ulwalamano ekusenokwenzeka ukuba wawukhe wakulo?
Kunzima ukwenza ngokubanzi, kodwa ukuthandana nomntu owahluliweyo kwahlukile
Into ongayifuniyo kukuzibandakanya ngokwasemphefumlweni nalo mntu, kodwa emva koko ufumane okwexeshana okanye okubi ngakumbi, kamva kakhulu kuneloo mntu wayesexhonyiwe ngokweemvakalelo kuloo mntu wayehlukene naye.
Lo ngumahluko obalulekileyo, ke kuya kufuneka uvavanye ukuba kunjalo na ngokukhawuleza. Thetha phandle kuba awufuni ukuchitha ixesha lakho kwaye awufuni ukwenzakala.
Kwaye awufuni ukuba yingcali yengqondo engahlawulwayo
Ngaphandle kokuba uyakonwabela ukumamela umntu othile kwi-on drone kwaye malunga nokuba yintoni engahambanga kakuhle kulwalamano lwangaphambili lomntu, kuya kufuneka ngobuchule ufikelele kwisivumelwano kwasekuqaleni ukuba ubudlelwane bangaphambili abuyonto inkulu kwincoko.
Ngokuqinisekileyo ayisi kuwe ukuba uncede ekufumaneni i-ins kunye nokuphuma kwembali apho ubungenanxaxheba khona. Isenokuba yinto nje encinci, kodwa abanye abantu bayimpahla.
Qinisekisa ukuba eli lixesha elifanelekileyo
Ukuba umntu oqala ukuthandana naye ubonakala ephazamisekile, edandathekile, enganikeli ngqalelo, uhlala ekhangela ifowuni yakhe, kukhuselekile ukucinga ukuba usisidenge okanye akalungelanga uthandane okwangoku.
Zisindise ngexesha eliya kumthatha ukuba ayifumanise le nyani, kwaye uhambe kakuhle.
Kwaye ngokufanayo
Ukuba uziva ukuba eli lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuba ubuye umva kodwa usanda kwahlukana, yazi ngaphambili, ukuba ungumntu osandula ukwahlukana. Ngokuqinisekileyo eli lixesha apho ukunyaniseka kungumgaqo-nkqubo olungileyo. Ukuba ulindele okanye unethemba lokuba ubudlelwane obutsha buza kusebenza, kuya kufuneka ube nesiseko esomeleleyo esakhelwe kwintembeko, ukuqala.
I-Telltale isayina ukuba ngoku ayiloxesha elifanelekileyo lokuba uthandane nomntu osandula ukwahlukana
- Ubonakala ephazamiseka xa nikunye. Ngobukrelekrele okanye hayi ngokujonga umnxeba ngobukrwada, ukujonga okukude kuvela rhoqo: ezi zizinto zokuba lo mntu akakulungelanga ukubuyela kumdlalo.
- Xa niphumile kunye, uthatha uhambo olungaphezulu kwesiqhelo ukuya kwigumbi lokuhlambela, emotweni, okanye naphina ngaphandle kwamehlo. Enye iflegi ebomvu yayiya kuthi ukuba iziphethe njengeegusha, ikhawuleze okanye iphazamiseke xa ubabuza ukuba bebesenza ntoni okanye bebephi.
Ukuhlangulwa ngoku ukuze uzigcinele uxinzelelo.
Okokugqibela, ufanele ukhangele ntoni?
Ukuhambelana, isimilo, uburharha, ukuthembeka, ububele, kunye nokuhambelana: ezi zezinye zeempawu ezibalulekileyo uninzi lwabantu abanokuthanda ukuba nazo kwiqabane.
Qaphela ukuba zonke ezi zithathwa njengeempawu zangaphakathi.
Ngelixa indoda entle okanye intle yomfazi iyathandeka kwinkoliso yethu, ijongeka ngathi iyaphela ngexesha. Ukuba ukuyo ixesha elide, cinga ngononophelo malunga neenjongo zakho zexesha elide kubudlelwane. Ezo njongo zinokufezekiswa nomntu olinikiweyo ixesha, kwaye ukuqala ngomntu owahluliweyo kwaye ukulungele ukuqhubela phambili ebomini kungangqina ukuba yinto elungileyo.