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Kule minyaka ilishumi idlulileyo ukuqonda kuye kwatshintsha ukusuka kwindlela yokwenza yokomoya ukuya kwindawo eyamkelekileyo eqhelekileyo, eyaziwayo kuye nabani na ofuna ukuphucula ubomi babo kunye nokuba sempilweni. Kodwa ngaba ukugxila kwengqondo kungasikhokelela ekubeni siphoswe yenye into, into enkulu kwaye ibandakanya konke ... njengokuqonda?
UGary Douglas, inkokheli yokucinga, umbhali, kunye nomseki woFikeleleko lokuFikelela ukholelwa njalo. Apha uthetha ngumahluko phakathi kwengqondo kunye nokwazisa kunye nokubaluleka kokuzazi ngokwakho kubudlelwane. Ukwabelana ngendlela ukufikelela elwazini kusivumela ngayo ukuba sifikelele kumathuba angenasiphelo ebomini bethu, nakubudlelwane bethu.
UErica: Ke, Gary, ukutolikwa kwakho kwengqondo yahluke kancinane kuleyo ibanjwe lihlabathi ngokubanzi- ungasixelela ngakumbi malunga noku?
UGary Douglas: Ngokuqinisekileyo, ndinako. Okokuqala, yazi ukuba andizelanga kugweba ubukrelekrele okanye ndibize nabani na ozenzayo 'njengezingalunganga'. Ndikumema nje ukuba ubuze, ngaba ukukhathazeka kungathintela? Kwenzeka ukuba ndicinge ukuba kunjalo-kodwa akufuneki.
Omnye umda wokuqonda kwengqondo kukwigama ngokwalo. Ngokwenza ingqondo, ugxininiso kukusebenzisa ingqondo ukunikela ingqalelo kuyo yonke into kwindalo yethu. Ngokombono wam, oku kusithintela ngeendlela ezimbini.
Eyokuqala kukuba ingqondo ihlala isivumela ukuba siqonde kwaye sinamava kwinto esele siyazi. Ngokwenkcazo eyedwa, sisithintelo eso.
Okwesibini kukuba ingqondo isebenza kwisigwebo-ngamanye amagama, kulungile kakhulu ekuqondeni okulungileyo nokubi okanye okuhle nokubi. Isigcina sikwimeko engapheliyo yokuzama ukuziva, ukucinga, ukwenza okanye ukuba yinto elungileyo okanye ungenzi into ephosakeleyo.
Ayilulo ukhetho oluyinyani kwaye ayisiniki ukufikelela kuwo onke amandla ethu. Ukwazisa yinto esivumela ukuba sifikelele kuwo onke amandla.
UErica: Ukuqonda kusivumela njani ukuba sifikelele kuwo onke amandla owathetha ngawo ngaphambili?
UGary Douglas: Ukwaziswa sisakhono sendalo sonke ekufuneka sibekho kuzo zonke iinkcukacha zomzuzwana ngelixa sazi ngokupheleleyo ngokusingqongileyo. Yisithuba sokuba kunokuba ibe yinto esiyenzayo. Xa usazi ukuba uza kwenza yonke into ngaphandle kokuba usike naliphi na icandelo lakho eliyinyani kuwe.
Ngokubalulekileyo, ekwaziseni, akukho sigwebo. Yonke into ikhona, kwaye akukho nto igwetywayo. Nje ukuba usebenze kuyo yonke into yindawo nje enomdla yokujonga amathuba anokufumaneka. Ukukhetha indalo kwaye eso sisitshixo senkululeko wonke umntu anayo kodwa akukho mntu ufuna ukwazi ukuba banakho.
UErica: Ukuqonda kudibana njani nobudlelwane? Ngaba inokuziphucula?
UGary Douglas: Ngokuqinisekileyo. Xa ukwazisa, uphelelwe ngumgwebo. Awunawo umnqweno ovuthayo wokuba ulungile malunga nantoni na. Endaweni yoko, ukhetha ukuba nembono enomdla ngayo yonke into. Ngaphandle kwesigwebo ufumana ukucaca kunye nemvakalelo yokukhululeka ngamaxesha engxabano.
Ke kutheni kubalulekile ukuzazi kubalulekile kubudlelwane? Ukuyeka ukugweba kunzima kwabanye, ngakumbi abo bangamakhoboka okulunga (okanye nokungalunganga) malunga nezinto.
Eyona nto iphambili yile: unokuba ulungile, okanye ungakhululeka. Loluphi ukhetho oluza kudala ngakumbi ikamva lakho? Loluphi ukhetho oluza kudala ulwalamano lwakho?
Olunye uxhaso lokwazisa olunokwenza kubudlelwane kukuba kukugcina okwangoku. Ixesha elidlulileyo alisenakubunyani obufanayo kwaye unokuba kunye neqabane lakho umzuzu ngomzuzu, ubakhethe umzuzwana ngumzuzu. Awukho apho ngaphandle komkhwa, okanye isiqhelo-kodwa ukhetho. Yiyo loo nto njengomntu kufuneka uphuhlise ukuzazi kwakho kwaye uphucule ubudlelwane bakho.
UErica: Singaluhlakulela njani ulwazi lwethu?
UGary Douglas: Inyathelo lokuQala kufuneka liyeke ukwahlulahlula ihlabathi libe lelungileyo nelibi, kwaye uqale ngokubona yonke into njengombono onomdla kwaye ubuze ukuba olu khetho ludala ntoni?
Ukuthetha, okanye ukucinga, umbono onomdla, ndinolu luvo kuzo zonke izigwebo ohlangana nazo-nokuba eso sigwebo sesakho okanye somnye umntu-siyakwenza ukuba ubekhona nento ekhawulezayo kunayo nayiphi na into endiyaziyo. Iya kukungenisa kweso sithuba sobukho apho ubona into efumanekayo kuwe nangawuphi na umzuzu. Kukukwazi oko.
Inyathelo lesibini lilula kakhulu xa unenyathelo lokuqala. Inyathelo lesibini kukuphila njengombuzo. Ngokwendalo oko kulula xa ungasenzi isigwebo kuba isigwebo simalunga neempendulo kunye nezigqibo.
UErica: Siphila njani njengombuzo?
UGary Douglas:Ukuphila njengombuzo kuthetha ukuba sikulungele ukujonga ukuba loluphi ukhetho lwethu oluza kudala, kude nayo nayiphi na imeko yokuba zilungile okanye zimbi kuthi. Kuxa siyeke ukwahlulahlula ukuba sivule umnyango wokhetho lokwenyani kunye nokuba kunokwenzeka.
Ziqhelanise nokujonga nayiphi na imeko ebomini bakho ngokwembono, Ukuba ndikhetha le nto, buya kuba njani ubomi bam (okanye ubudlelwane) kwiminyaka emihlanu? Okanye ishumi, okanye amashumi amabini?
Ukuphila njengombuzo kunokuba ngumbono ongaqhelekanga ukuze intloko yakho ijikeleze ... ke musa! Ukuba intloko yakho ibinokuyifumana yonke into ngeyenze njalo. Kulungele ukubuza kwaye ulibale ukuzama ukufumana iimpendulo.
Buza, ubone. Yizame ngoku:
Yintoni ongathanda ukuyenza ebomini bakho? Kwaye kubudlelwane bakho?
Yintoni enokwenzeka ukuba awukakhethi?
Zithini izinto onokuzithatha namhlanje ukudala ikamva onqwenela ukulifumana?
Libala ukugweba ukuba wenza ngokulungileyo. Akukho ziphumo zichanekileyo. Akukho ziphumo zingalunganga. Kukho nje umbuzo odala ukhetho. Ukukhetha ngowona mthombo wakho mkhulu, kwaye sesona sipho sikhulu siziswa lulwazi.