Umxholo
- Ubomi emva komtshato-ibali likaTom noLori
- Izinto zokutshintsha xa utshata
- Sukujonga ukungafezeki kweqabane lakho
- Bala iintsikelelo zakho
- Yeka ukuthelekisa ngaphambi nasemva komtshato
Utshintsho emva komtshato alunakuphepheka. Nokuba umazi kangakanani umlingane wakho, ubudlelwane bakho emva komtshato buya kwahluka kunangaphambili. Olunye utshintsho emtshatweni lulunge kwaye ezinye zinokukwenza uzibuze ukuba kutheni abantu betshata!
Kuba ubomi emva komtshato buza kutshintsha, sonke kufuneka sizame ukwamkela utshintsho emva komtshato ngobunono kwaye sivuleleke ekwamkeleni iqabane lethu kunye ne-idiosyncrasies yabo.
Xa sithetha ngayo, umtshato utshintsha njani, Izibane zangoLwesihlanu ebusuku zinokuba yeyona nto iphosakeleyo yomtshato ukubonisa kutsha nje kumabonwakude.
Kuluhlu lweveki nganye, iimvakalelo zibeka kubudlelwane phakathi komqeqeshi wedolophu encinci kunye nenkosikazi yakhe emxhasayo nanjengoko ecela umngeni kuye ngeendlela ezininzi.
Endaweni yesiqhelo somtshato-bhanyabhanya ojikelezayo njengolwaphulo-mthetho, umlutha, okanye iimfihlo, Izibane zangoLwesihlanu zangoLwesihlanu zilawulwa yimilinganiselo yokwenene yobudlelwane.
Esi sibini sifumana umlo oqhelekileyo, izinto ezingenamsebenzi zokuxolisa kunye neempazamo kunye noxolelwaniso olu luphawu lothando oluhlala luhleli.
Isithsaba sewayini kunye neentyatyambo sinika indlela kubomi bomtshato kanye xa i "I Dos" ivakalisiwe.
Ubomi emva komtshato-ibali likaTom noLori
Xa uTom noLori babethandana, wayelishiya igumbi aye "kupasa irhasi". Bathetha ngomkhwa wakhe ngenye ingokuhlwa, kwaye uLori wahleka le mishini ukuba angaze ahambe phambi kwakhe. Wamxelela ukuba ubukhulu bakhe buvakala bungeyonyani kwaye bubukrelekrele.
Ubomi bomtshato buzaliswe ziinyani. Umntu owakhe wachitha iiyure phambi kwesipili, okwangoku, uyakubona unezitshi, uyazi ukuba unomoya wokuphefumla, kunye neminye imikhwa efihliweyo.
Umtshato omninzi usetyenziswa kukungaguquguquki. Ukuphakama nokuphakama kuya kuphazamisa imeko yesiqhelo.
Iimuvi zithetha ngendlela yesiqhelo emtshatweni. Bayenza kumakhaya amsulwa apho iinwele zihlala zigqibelele, kwaye incoko igcwele ngobukrelekrele. Iimuvi zenza izinto zilunge:
1) imizila ekhululekile
2) ubumbano lwabazali
3) ukungavisisani okukhathazayo
Lo ngumtshato wokwenene. Ikhadi elinye ukusuka kumtshato wasemtshatweni alisoloko libonisa inyani. Iiveki, iinyanga- kwaye ngamanye amaxesha iminyaka- zigcwele ziintlungu kunye nothando ngelixa abanye bengekho.
Ngamanye amaxesha unqwenela nantoni na ngaphandle kwesiqhelo. Emva koko, ukonwaba kuyabonakala, kwaye ufumanisa ukuba uziva unostalgic yesiqhelo.
ULori ujongene nomtshato "ophakamileyo" ngoku - kodwa ngenxa yezizathu ezingalindelekanga.
Kule minyaka mithathu idlulileyo kugcwele imiceli mngeni. Iminyaka emithathu yesikolo somthetho, ukwehla kwengeniso, ukuhamba okuninzi, kunye nosana olutsha.
Amava avavanya into awayeyithatha njengomanyano olomeleleyo. ULori noTim baphumelela. Rhoqo eyona ndawo ilungileyo yomtshato yinkimbinkimbi.
Umntu ufumanisa ukuba bangabakho emtshatweni aze azibonakalise. Bayathandana ngotshintsho kunye nokukhula.
Umtshato unokuvelisa okona kulungileyo-kwaye kubi kakhulu. Kuthatha ukuzimisela, ukusebenza; ngamanye amaxesha umtshato awunangxaki.
Umtshato unika umntu iqabane ixesha elide. Imalunga neenguqulelo zesiqhelo nezingalindelekanga. Isondele, iyazihlukanisa, iyakhathaza kwaye inomvuzo.
Yintoni etshintsha xa utshata
Kucacile ukuba xa utshatile, izinto ezininzi zisetelwe ukutshintsha kubudlelwane. Into obuyithanda ngaphambili malunga neqabane lakho ngoku inokuqhuba amantongomane kwaye ke kunokuba yinyani kwiqabane lakho.
Kodwa, umbuzo usaqhubeka ukuba kwenzeka ntoni xa utshata kwaye yintoni etshintsha emva komtshato. Kananjalo, ukuba izibini bezikade zihlala kubudlelwane bokuhlala ixesha elide, uninzi lwazo luxeliwe ukulingana emva komtshato.
Umtshato udibanisa imiphefumlo emibini ngendlela ethi 'umntu ngamnye' anyanzelwe ukuba athathe isihlalo sangasemva.
Ukuba ubuntu yinto ephambili kuwe, kuya kufuneka uphinde ucinge ngokutshata.
Ngelixa nihlala kunye ngaphambi komtshato, unokukhusela ubuntu bakho. Nangona uthandana, awunabutyala bokwabelana ngemali yakho kwaye uphendule ngayo yonke into encinci.
Kodwa, emtshatweni, isibini kufuneka sabelane ngemali, ikhaya, imikhwa, izinto abazithandayo nabangazithandiyo ngaphandle kokubelana ngebhedi kunjalo.
Kananjalo umtshato luhlobo lwesiqinisekiso esifihlakeleyo sokuba aba bantu babophelelekile ukuba bahlale omnye nomnye ubomi babo bonke, nangona kunjalo, uqhawulo-mtshato aluyonto ingaqhelekanga.
Le mvakalelo yokuqonda inokukwenza ukuba ulithathe kancinci iqabane lakho. Kwaye ngokungazi, uyayeka ukwenza iinzame ekwenzeni ubudlelwane bakho busebenze. Kungenxa yoko le nto ubudlelwane butshintsha emva komtshato.
Izinto zokutshintsha xa utshata
Ngoku, ekubeni sisazi ukuba kutheni kwaye zitshintsha njani izinto emva komtshato, masitshintshe ukugxila ekuphuculeni nasekulondolozeni ubudlelwane emva komtshato.
Sukujonga ukungafezeki kweqabane lakho
Izibini ezininzi ziyakhalaza ukuba umyeni utshintshile emva komtshato okanye umzimba wabasetyhini uyatshintsha emva komtshato.
Njengoko sisazi ukuba ekuphela kwento eqhubekayo ebomini 'kukutshintsha', ke ungaze uphambane nembonakalo yangaphandle. Umzimba womntu uyatshabalala kwaye unokutshintsha kangangexesha elithile. Yamkele ngobabalo nangothando!
Bala iintsikelelo zakho
Endaweni yokukhanyisa ngezinto eziguqukayo xa utshata, kutheni ungazibali iintsikelelo esitshatileyo?
Soloko uzama ukujonga izinto ezintle zeqabane lakho. Ewe kunjalo, akukho lula kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba uqhelisela ithemba ngokungaguquguqukiyo.
Yeka ukuthelekisa ngaphambi nasemva komtshato
Cinga isigaba ngasinye sobomi bakho njengesahluko esizimeleyo. Ukuqhubela phambili ebomini kwaye uqokelele amava amatsha, kuya kufuneka uye kwisahluko esilandelayo, ngokushiya isahluko esidala ebomini bakho.
Ngesahluko esitsha, kuza amava amatsha. Kwaye ukonwabela ngokupheleleyo, kuya kufuneka uyeke ukuthelekisa eyakho kunye neyangoku. Zombini azinakufana.
Ke, yiya kwingxoxo evuselelayo 'yamadoda ngaphambi nasemva komtshato' kunye 'nabafazi ngaphambi nasemva komtshato'. Kufuneka sifunde ukujonga owona mfanekiso mkhulu.
Ukuba senza umzamo, sinokufumana uninzi lwemiba yolwalamano lwethu ukuba sonwabe malunga kwaye sigcine umtshato wethu ngokujolisa kokuhle kwaye sizitshintshe ngokulungileyo.