Ngaba Uxinekile kumda woMda woBuntu boBudlelwane boMtshato?

Umxholo

• Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu obunemida
• Ndithandana nomntu oneBPD
• Umjikelo wobudlelwane be-BPD
• 1. Ibangela
• 2. Ngokwala
• 3. Uloyiko kunye namathandabuzo
• 4. Ukuzahlula
• 5. Ukuphindaphinda komjikelo - inqaku
• Ukusinda kumjikelo wobudlelwane be-BPD

Ubuchaza njani ubudlelwane obunetyhefu? Ngaba xa umntu onaye ezele kukungazithembi, umona okanye izityholo ezingenasihlahla? Kuthekani ukuba umntu omthandayo unemeko ekhethekileyo efana ne-BPD, uthando lwakho lungatyhala kude kangakanani kunye nomjikelo wobudlelwane bomda wokungahambelani nobuntu?

Kwaye, umelana njani nengxaki yeqabane lakho?

Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu obunemida

Abo ababekho Ufumene i-BPD okanye ukuphazamiseka komda wobuntu kuhlala kuhleli ukulwa idabi. Bahlala benazo amanqanaba aphezulu oxinzelelo kwaye umsindo ukuba nabo abanako ukuyicacisa. Banga ukucaphuka msinya Ngezenzo zabanye abantu, amazwi, kunye hlala uloyiko rhoqo. Luloyiko lweengcinga eziphindaphindayo zeendlela ezibuhlungu, uloyiko lokushiywa, kunye nolunye uloyiko oluza kuthi ekugqibeleni lubacinezele.

Uninzi lwabantu abanale ngxaki, qala ukubonisa iimpawu njengolutsha kwaye kuxhomekeke kwimeko-bume yabo, kunokuba nzima okanye kuphuculwe kubomi babo babadala. I-BPD kunye nobudlelwane budibene kakhulu kuba sonke sinobudlelwane, inokuba lusapho, izihlobo, kunye neqabane lakho.

Inkqubo ye- elona candelo linzima Ukuba nobudlelwane nomntu one-BPD yindlela onokuthi ngayo kugcinwe ubudlelwane obunempilo. Kukho into esiyibiza ngokuba ngumda wobudlelwane bomda wokungahambelani nobuntu kwaye yile nto siyibiza ngokuba ngumjikelo wobudlelwane obujikeleze ingxaki yomntu kunye nendlela abaluphatha ngayo unxibelelwano.

Yiphethini kwabo banomda wobuntu obunemida kunye nobudlelwane kodwa kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba ayilotyala labo kwaye abayibangelanga.

Ndithandana nomntu oneBPD

Abantu abanamava okuthandana nomntu oneBPD banokuyichaza njenge Uhlobo lwe-roller-coaster yobudlelwane ngenxa yomjikelo wobudlelwane bokungahambelani nobuntu kodwa ayenzeki ukuyenza isebenze.

Ukuthanda umntu oneBPD ingayiyo nzima ekuqaleni, Isiphithiphithi nangona kunjalo njengalo naluphi na olunye uhlobo lothando nolwalamano, kuhleli entle.

Ukuthanda umntu onengxaki yomda wobuntu kusenokungabonakali njengokukhetha okuhle kodwa sonke siyazi ukuba asikwazi kulawula uthando kunye nokuba sithandana nabani. Ukuqhelana nesi sifo ngokuqinisekileyo nceda nabani na nguba ni u ndikubudlelwane nomntu ophethwe yi-BPD.

Inani libonisa ukuba ukungahambi kakuhle komda kubasetyhini kunokwahluka kumadoda ngokwempembelelo kubudlelwane. Izifundo zifumanise ukuba abasetyhini abanolwalamano phakathi komda wokungahambelani nobuntu banamathuba amakhulu okuba nolwalamano lwexesha elifutshane kwaye ke amathuba okulinda alindelekile.

Umntu ngamnye one-BPD unemiceli mngeni eyahlukeneyo ukoyisa kwaye kuxhomekeke kuthi, lowo ukhethe ukuba nabo ukubanceda baphumelele amadabi abo kodwa amaxesha ngamaxesha, nathi sizifumana sibambekile kumjikelo wobudlelwane be-BPD.

Umjikelo wobudlelwane be-BPD

Ukuba eli lixesha lokuqala lokuva malunga nomjikelo wobudlelwane bokungahambelani nobuntu, eli ke lithuba lakho lokuba uqhelane nalo.

Ukuthandana nomntu ngobuntu obunemida buya kuthanda amava ezinye iipateni ngezantsi kodwa ayinguye wonke umntu oya kuthi. Ke, kuya kuthi ukuba siphaphele ukunceda amaqabane ethu.

1. Ibangela

Abantu abanemida yomda wobuntu bathanda ubudlelwane bazi xa besentlungwini. Baninzi kakhulu kwi zilungele iimvakalelo zabo, enyanisweni, incinci kakhulu ukuba nasiphi na isiganeko esibangela iintlungu kunye nokwenzakala, siba sisoyikeka.

Ngokudabukisayo, oku akunakuphepheka, sonke siyalimala kodwa ekubeni i-BPD kunye nobudlelwane buxhunyiwe, esi siganeko sibuhlungu sinokubangela umjikelo womntu one-BPD.

2. Ngokwala

Abantu abaninzi malunga nabantu abaneBPD andiqondi ncam kwenzekani. Abanye banokuthi batyhafile okanye yonke into iqhelekile, njalo njalo.

Kodwa endaweni yokunceda umntu oneBPD, inene ibanyanzela ukuba nabo bakhanyele yeemvakalelo zabo zokwenyani ezibuyisa ingqumbo kunye nentlungu engakumbi.

3. Uloyiko kunye namathandabuzo

Ukuba i Umntu oneBPD wenzakele kwaye endaweni yokujongana nomcimbi, zabo amaqabane anakho nje shiya ubudlelwane okanye wenze mandundu imeko ngezenzo ezenzakalisayo okanye ngamazwi.

Oku kungakhokelela kulwalamano lomda wobuntu ubudlelwane bokuthandana buphele, ngelishwa, hayi ngoxolo.

4. Ukuzahlula

Nabani na ngubani owenzakalayo luthando baneempendulo ezahlukeneyo, yintoni enye xa umntu eneBPD?

Ngaba unokucinga nje ukuba zinjani iintlungu abazivayo ekugqibeleni eziza kula manqanaba obudlelwane be-BPD apho umntu efuna nje ukwahlulahlula kuye wonke umntu?

Ukwala, ukushiya, kunye Ukuphelelwa kukuthemba ngu Intshabalalo kuye nabani na kakhulu ngakumbi emntwini ngeBPD.

Iziphumo zalo mjikelo wobudlelwane bomda wokungahambelani nobuntu zinokubakho ukusuka kuxinzelelo, umsindo, inzondo, impindezelo, kwaye ngelishwa nokuzenzakalisa. Ukudideka, iintlungu, nomsindo zonke ezo zinto zinzima kakhulu kulo mntu kwaye zinokukhokelela kwizenzo esizoyikayo sonke.

5. Ukuphindaphinda komjikelo - inqaku

Isizathu sokuba oku kubizwe ngokuba ngumjikelo kungenxa yothando oluhlala luhamba ngendlela yalo.

Nokuba angade abe kude kangakanani umntu, uthando kunye nobudlelwane buya kuhlala buhleli. Kancinci ukuthembela kwakhona, kancinci ukufunda ukuthanda uncumo kwakhona esinye isiqalo sokungahambi kakuhle komda wobuntu ubudlelwane.

Uthando lukhanyiso olutsha lwethemba lolonwabo.

Kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa kukho omnye umsitho obuhlungu? Emva koko, umjikelo uqala kwakhona.

Ukusinda kumjikelo wobudlelwane be-BPD

Ngaba uyazibona uhlala kubudlelwane nomntu oneBPD? Ngaba unokucinga ukuba wophula intliziyo yomntu ngenxa nje yokuba eneBPD?

Yimeko enzima, ayisiyiyo eyokubandezeleka komjikelo wobudlelwane bomntu ophakathi komda kodwa kunye nawe.

Uzohlala okanye uza kuhamba? Impendulo ixhomekeke kuwe kodwa eyona nto ilungileyo kukuzama konke okusemandleni akho kuqala. Zama okusemandleni akho ukuba ubekhona kuloo mntu, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, uyamthanda, akunjalo?

1. Qala ngokuzibophelela okufanelekileyo - Vumelana ngokwemigaqo kwaye ungxamise ukuzibophelela.
2. Fumana Therapist efanelekileyo wena kunye neqabane lakho - Fumana uphononongo, khangela izicwangciso zonyango, kunye nayo nayiphi na into ebonakaliswe ukuba iyanceda.
3. Gxila - Gxila kulawulo lwe-BPD kunye nokuthatha amayeza kunyango lweempawu ezithile.
4. Isibhedlele - Kwimeko apho ukuzenzakalisa okanye utyekelo lokuzibulala, ukufuneka esibhedlele kungafuneka.
5. Inkxaso evela kusapho nakubahlobo iyakhuthazwa- Ukubafundisa ngesi sifo kuya kunceda kakhulu.

Abantu abane-BPD bafana nje nam nawe. Ngapha koko, zilungile, zinemfesane, kwaye zinothando kwaye ziyakwazi ukulawula umjikelo wobudlelwane bomda wokungahambelani nobuntu, nje kufuneke u Unomntu ukuya ubekhona kubo.