Umxholo
- Oku kuhamba ngenye indlela ejikeleze
- Ungalibali ukuba utshata nolunye usapho
- Nobabini kufuneka niyenze isebenze
- Yilungele imimangaliso
Elinye lawona maxesha abalulekileyo esiba nawo ebomini bethu kuxa sitshata, kodwa leliphi elona xesha lilungileyo nelikhuselekileyo lokutshata?
Ayothusi into yokuba iminyaka oza kutshata ngayo inokuhlala ikho ixesha lokuqhawuka komtshato wakho. Inkolelo yokuba ukutshata kwangethuba kuya kukhokelela kuqhawulo mtshato kwangoko kuye kwafundwa ziingcali kwezentlalo kule minyaka idlulileyo, kwaye ingxelo eyenziwe nguMbutho weNtsebenziswano yezoQoqosho kunye nophuhliso iyakuqinisekisa oku.
Abantu abatshatileyo abagqibe ekubeni “babophe ngeqhina lomtshato” ngaphezulu kweminyaka engama-25 banethuba elingaphantsi ngama-50% lokuqhawula umtshato, xa kuthelekiswa nezibini ezitshata zikwiminyaka engama-20 ubudala.
Ukusuka kwimbono yezemali, oku kungqina ukuba kusengqiqweni ngokupheleleyo ngenxa yobulumko bemisebenzi, izibini esele zifumene iwonga lobungcali ziye zaphumelela ekufumaneni nasekuzinzeni imali.
Amaqabane amancinci kwaye anamava amancinci awanqabisekanga malunga noqikelelo lwekamva lawo, mayingabi lawoubudlelwane apho benza khona.
Ulutsha kunye nabantu abancinci abakwiminyaka engama-20 ubudala bahlala begxekwa ziintsapho zabo kunye neendawo zangaphakathi zentlalo ngesigqibo esikhulu abaza kusenza ebomini babo. Oku kunokubabeka uxinzelelo olukhulu ekuhlaleni, kwaye kudityaniswe nokungaqiniseki ngokuba usemncinci kwaye ungenamava, amaxesha ngamaxesha umtshato uya kukhokelela kuqhawulo mtshato kule minyaka ilandelayo.
Oku kuhamba ngenye indlela ejikeleze
Uphononongo olwenziwe yingcali kwezentlalo uNicholas H. Wolfinger lubonakalisile ukuba izibini ezitshata emva kwexesha kakhulu, zingaphaya kweminyaka engama-35, nazo zihlala zohlukana ngaphambi kwexesha.
Abantu abalinda ixesha elide kunokwenzeka ukuba bathambekele ekusileleni emtshatweni wabo kuba sele bechazelwe kunxibelelwano olubi lwasentlalweni, kwaye ngenxa yoko bengakwazi ukujongana namaqabane abo ixesha elide kunye nokudala iingxabano zomtshato.
Ngenxa yokuba ubudlelwane nabantu babanzima, akukho mpendulo ikhonkrithi ngokuqinisekileyo kumbuzo.
Iminyaka ekucetyiswa ukuba amadoda atshate ngayo ingama-32 eminyaka kwaye abafazi baneminyaka engama-28, kodwa oku kuxhomekeke kwizinto ezininzi eziguqukayo, ezibandakanya inqanaba lokuqonda nokukhathalela amaqabane analo omnye komnye kunye nenqanaba lomsebenzi.
Ezinye zezinto esizicebisa ukuba wazi kwaye wazi ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isigqibo sokwenza inyathelo lokugqibela elikhulu zezi:
Ungalibali ukuba utshata nolunye usapho
Xa uthathe isigqibo sokudibanisa ubomi bakho nomnye uya kufumana ilifa losapho lwabo.
Oko kuthetha ukuba kuya kufuneka ujongane nemicimbi yabo, uxinzelelo kunye noxanduva olutsha oluya kumiselwa kuwe ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi. Nangona oku kunokuba yintsikelelo kwaye ufumane abathandekayo abatsha abasoloko bekwicala lakho, inokuthi ihambe kwakhona. Kukho amawaka ezigidi zabantu abatshatileyo abaqhawule umtshato ngenxa yabakhwenyana babo.
Nobabini kufuneka niyenze isebenze
Awuwedwa emtshatweni.
Cinga ngobuhlobo njengesixhobo, kwaye wena neqabane lakho nizizikhwebu ezikwenza ukuba zihambe.
Ukuba enye yezikhwebu ivinjiwe kwaye ayijiki, akukho nto iya kusebenza. Unxibelelwano ludlala indima ebalulekileyo emtshatweni. Ukuqonda iqabane lakho kunye neemvakalelo zakhe kunye nembono yakhe ngendlela yendalo, inkathalo kunye nothando ngundoqo wezinto eziza kusebenza njengoko usiya ecaleni kwabo kule minyaka idlulileyo.
Yilungele imimangaliso
Awusoze umazi umntu ngokupheleleyo, kwaye ukuba ucinga ngokuchitha ubomi bakho bonke kunye neqabane lakho, kuya kufuneka ulungele ukumangaliswa.
Uninzi lwazo lunokuba luhle kwaye lungalindelekanga, kodwa ezinye ziya kuthi zingqine kwinto onokuyilindela. Kulungile, kuba ubomi abenziwanga lulonwabo kuphela, kodwa kuya kufuneka wazi ukuba kuyakufuneka ufunde ukumelana nokonwaba ezinye zeziphene onokuthi uzibone kwiqabane lakho ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Umtshato ngamava amangalisayo, kwaye sicinga ukuba kuya kufuneka usithathele ingqalelo yonke into ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isigqibo sokwenza inyathelo elikhulu kwaye ubophe ukholo lwakho kunye neqabane lakho lobomi.