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Kwiminyaka emihlanu edlulileyo, njengokuba uqhawulo-mtshato lwagqitywa, indoda yabhala amagama malunga nomtshato awayemhle kakhulu kangangokuba umyalezo wakhe wachukumisa iintliziyo zamawaka, njengoko wawusasazeka.
Umyalezo odlulisa umxube wetyhefu wothando, ukuzisola kunye nobulumko obufunyenwe emva kweempazamo zakhe yayinokuqondwa ngabantu abaninzi, akunamsebenzi nokuba uyindoda, ulibhinqa, utshatile, uqhawule umtshato okanye awukaze utshate loo mazwi Ubuntu buxhumene kwaye ngethemba lokusindisa imitshato embalwa nayo.
Okwangoku, kwiminyaka emihlanu kamva, amazwi angenasiphelo kaGerald Rogers malunga nendlela yokugcina umtshato owonwabileyo kwaye usempilweni ngokwembono yendoda ethathwe kukuzisola namava akhe iseyinyani.
Nazi ezinye ze iziqwenga zeengcebiso ezivela kwinqaku lokuqala
Ungayifunda ingxelo yoqobo epheleleyo apha, kwaye nangona eli nqaku lalibhalwe ngamadoda engqondweni, sikhethe ezinye zeengcebiso ezifanelekileyo kubo bobabini abatshatileyo.
Ungaze uyeke ukuthandana. Ungaze uyeke ukuthandana, ungaze ulithathe kancinci eli bhinqa. Xa wawumcela ukuba akutshate, wathembisa ukuba uya kuba yindoda eya kuthi eyakhe intliziyo kwaye ayikhusele ngokuqatha. Obu bobona buncwane bubalulekileyo nobungcwele obakha baphathiswa bona. Wakhetha wena. Ungaze uyilibale loo nto, kwaye ungaze wonqene uthando lwakho.
Ewe Ewe! Uninzi lomtshato luyawa okanye luqhekeke phakathi kuba baqala ukuthatha ubudlelwane ngokungakhathali okanye ukuxuba umbono womtshato kunye nolwalamano lwabo konke kwimbiza enye. Xa eneneni umtshato uyimveliso yesi sibini sinobudlelwane kunye, kwaye ayisayi kuhlala ukuba ubudlelwane abukhathalelwanga ukwahlukana nomtshato.
Yiba sisidenge, ungazicingeli kakubi. Hleka. Kwaye umhlekise. Ukuhleka kwenza yonke enye into ibe lula
Ubomi bunzima, yenza umzamo wokubonwabela kunye ukuze nikwazi ukuhambisa umendo omnye komnye. Oku kuphezulu kuluhlu lwethu kuba yindawo etyeshelwa rhoqo kodwa inokuba yeyona nto igcina isibini sihlangene.
Xolela kwangoko kwaye ujonge kwikamva kunokuthwala ubunzima bexesha elidlulileyo. Sukuvumela imbali yakho ikubambe. Ukubambelela kwiimpazamo zexesha elidlulileyo ozenzayo kufana neankile enzima emtshatweni wakho kwaye kuya kukunqanda. Uxolelo yinkululeko. Yinqumle i-ankile kwaye uhlale ukhetha uthando.
Kulula kakhulu ukubamba ingqumbo, kodwa kulula nokuyeka izinto zihambe, kunzima ukubonisa uthando xa ungakwazi ukuxolela. Ngaba uyafuna ukuchitha umtshato wakho kwimeko yezikhumbuzo rhoqo kunye nokukhumbuza ngeempazamo zakho zangaphambili? Kuyangxolana omnye komnye kwaye kuthintela umtshato.
Wela eluthandweni kwakhona kwaye rhoqo kwaye kaninzi. Uya kuhlala utshintsha. Aningafani nabantu enaninabo xa nitshata, kwaye kwiminyaka emihlanu anisayi kuba ngulo mntu unjalo namhlanje. Utshintsho luza kuza, kwaye kuloo nto, kuya kufuneka ukhethe kwakhona yonke imihla. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ahlale nawe, kwaye ukuba awuyikhathalelanga intliziyo yakhe, angayinika omnye umntu loo ntliziyo okanye akutywine ngokupheleleyo, kwaye ngekhe ube nakho ukuyifumana kwakhona. Soloko ulwela ukuphumelela uthando lwakhe njengoko wenzayo xa wawuthandana naye.
Ukuba le ayisiyondlela yokwenza ukuba amaqabane omabini azive efunwa, ayadingeka kwaye axhaswe ngokweemvakalelo asazi ukuba yintoni. Xa uthandana, uyancoma iimpawu ezintle kwiqabane lakho, kwaye ngothando wamkela okanye uyeke ezo mpawu ungazithandiyo.
Ukubanyanzela ukuba baphile ngokwendalo kunye nokuqonda ngobulumko ukuba ngaphandle kweziphene sonke singangxama. Ke kutheni le nto emva kokuchitha iminyaka embalwa kunye singekhe sisebenzise le ndlela inethemba lokuba neqabane lethu.
Siqinisekile ukuba abo batshatayo abenza inqaku lokuziqhela bethandana bahlala bengaqhawuli mtshato- ngapha koko, kutheni benjalo?
Thatha uxanduva olupheleleyo ngeemvakalelo zakho: ayingomsebenzi womfazi wakho ukukonwabisa, kwaye akanako ukukwenza ube lusizi. Unoxanduva lokufumana ulonwabo lwakho, kwaye ngaloo nto, uvuyo lwakho luya kuphuphuma kubudlelwane bakho nothando lwakho.
Le yinto esinokuyifunda sonke ukuba sitshatile okanye sitshatile. Sonke kufuneka sifunde ukuthatha uxanduva ngokupheleleyo kwiimvakalelo zethu, kwaye ukuba besinokuyilawula le nto, BONKE ubudlelwane bethu buya kuphucuka, kwaye siqale ukubeka ezinye iidemon zethu ukuze ziphumle nto leyo eya kusenza sonwabe kwaye sibe sempilweni yonke indlela!
Khusela eyakho intliziyo Kanye njengokuba uzibophelele ekubeni ngumkhuseli wentliziyo yakhe, kufuneka uyilinde eyakho ngokujonga okufanayo.Zithande ngokupheleleyo, ulithande ilizwe ngokukhululekileyo, kodwa kukho indawo ekhethekileyo entliziyweni yakho apho kungekho mntu kufuneka angene ngaphandle komfazi wakho. Gcina eso sithuba sihlala sikulungele ukumamkela kwaye umngenise ngaphakathi, kwaye ungavumi ukuvumela nabani na okanye enye into ingene apho.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba sizithande ukuba ndingakhwaza oku kuphahla lwendlu bendiya kuthi, kuphela kwendlela yokukhusela intliziyo yakho kuphela xa sinokuzithanda sinokulufumana ngokwenyani uthando kumaqabane ethu nakwindalo iphela. Inzulu njengoko inokuba njalo, kuyinyani!
Asinakucebisa ngokufunda inqaku elipheleleyo ngokwaneleyo-umxholo ubuguqula ngokwenyani ubomi.