Umxholo
- Baphathe ngentlonelo abantu owawusakuba zizihlobo zakho, kodwa musa ukuba ngumsingathi womnyango
- Nyaniseka kubantwana bakho
- Ncuma, uncume, uncume
- Iimeko ezinzima zingenakuphepheka
Uluntu lwemveli lulindele ukuba sibe kunye neqabane elinye ebomini, kodwa ngelishwa, akunjalo kubantu abaninzi. Ukutshata kwakhona kunokubangela iimeko ezingathandekiyo.
Singabakhi bolonwabo lwethu. Sithathela ingqalelo amasiko anje ngemitshato elungiselelwe abantu ukuba iphelelwe lixesha. Kodwa ukukhetha iqabane lakho lobomi ayisiyonto ingenangqondo, kukho amaxesha apho siqonda ukuba senze impazamo, saqhawula umtshato, saphinda satshata.
Uqhawulo mtshato ayisosizathu sodwa sokuphinda utshate, ngamanye amaxesha abantu abatshatileyo bayafa bashiye amaqabane abo ngasemva. Amaxabiso okufa kwabantu baseMelika umzekelo, bacaba ukusukela kwiminyaka eli-15 ukuya kwengama-64. Leyo yinkcukacha-manani ekhangayo ekhutshwe yiCDC. Kuthetha ukuba abantu baseMelika abakwiminyaka yokufa bafa kwinqanaba elifanayo nokuba bangakanani na ubudala.
Nokuba siyintoni na isizathu, ukutshata kwakhona kukuzikhethela. Lilungelo nelungelo lakhe nabani na. Kodwa ukungenelela koluntu kungena endleleni. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokuyiphatha ngesitayile.
Baphathe ngentlonelo abantu owawusakuba zizihlobo zakho, kodwa musa ukuba ngumsingathi womnyango
Kungenxa yokuba ulunqamle ngokusemthethweni ulwalamano lwakho ne ex yakho, lonto ayithethi ukuba iibhondi ezidalwe nabazali bakho ziqhawukile. Cinga ngendlela abakuphathe ngayo ngaphambili, kwaye uyisebenzise njengetemplate yangoku.
Ukuba bebekukhohlakele ngaphambili, ungabahoyi. Ngaphandle kokuba kukho umyalelo wenkundla, unokubaphatha njengongabonakaliyo. Akukho sidingo sokwenza ukungqubana okutsha nezihlobo zakho zangaphambili, ungazikhathazi ngokuchitha usuku lwakho ngenxa yazo.
Akukho sidingo sokutshintsha izangqa zentlalo ukunqanda umntu wakho wakudala okanye izihlobo zabo, kodwa lukhetho lomntu ngamnye.
Intlebendwane ixhaphaza kwaye ixhaphake kwiindawo ezincinci xa umntu eqhawula umtshato. Abantu banomdla wokuthetha ngabanye abantu abakhoyo. Yintlungu, kwaye ukuba unetyala loku, yeka le ndlela yokuziphatha.
Ukuba babenobabalo kuwe kwixa elidlulileyo, qhubeka nobudlelwane bakho. Ukuba bayajika baba nobutshaba, qonda ukuba ayilotyala lakho. Bathatha icala lesihlobo sabo kwaye kuyaqondakala. Cela uxolo uhambe.
Ukuba uzifumana ukwimeko apho kufuneka ujongane nezihlobo zedala lakho, ungaze ucaphuke. Shiya okoko ubona izinto zinobutshaba. Awunasibophelelo sokukhwela ii-whims zabo.
Nyaniseka kubantwana bakho
Baxelele inyani, ilula kanjalo. Chaza imeko entsha kaninzi de baqonde. Sukuba neentloni kukhetho olwenzileyo. Nabantwana bakho baya kuhlala nayo.
Kungcono ukuba wena nabantwana bakho nibe kwiphepha elinye kuzo zonke iimeko. Ukuxoka ebantwaneni kuya kubangela ukuba baphulukane nentembelo yakho kuwe, kwaye kwimeko enzima baya kuphinda baxoke komnye umntu bakwenze ubonakale njengesidenge.
Sukuyila imeko eza kwenza ukuba abantwana bakho bamthiye umntu wakho wakudala. Banokubeka ngaphezulu loo meko kwiqabane lakho elitsha kwaye bayithwale loo ntiyo bade babe badala.
Ukuba abantwana bayakutyhola okanye balithiyile iqabane lakho elitsha. Emva koko kuya kufuneka uyifunxe, ube ngumntu omkhulu, kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukubonwabisa.
Lumka ungagqithisi imali kwaye ubaguqule benze i-brats ezonakeleyo. Kuxhomekeka kwindlela yokujongana nokusetyenziswa komntwana, kuya kufuneka ube nomonde kwaye uqiniseke ukuba awuyi kunyusa ingxaki. Musa ukoyika ukubonisa imvakalelo yakho yokwenene phambi kwabo.
Wena kunye neqabane lakho elitsha kufuneka nixhasane, banokuba nabo abantwana kumtshato wabo wangaphambili. Xoxa ngamalungiselelo nendlela yokusingatha iimeko njengoko zisiza. Iingxaki zabantwana bomtshato wesibini ziyanda njengoko ixesha lihamba, ngoko sombulula kwangoko kwaye ngokufuthi kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Ukuphulukana nomsindo wakho phambi kwabantwana kuya kunceda ekwandiseni indelelo yakho kukhetho lwakho. Ukuba ufuna ukukhupha, yenze ngasese neqabane lakho elitsha.
Ncuma, uncume, uncume
Lingafika ixesha apho kuya kufuneka ukuba wazise iqabane lakho elitsha kwi ex yakho. Isenokuba yenye indlela, unokuzifumana ukwimeko apho kuya kufuneka udibane neqabane lakho elitsha. Iyaqondakala into yokuba onke amaqela achaphazelekayo aya kuba neemvakalelo ezingafaniyo ngale meko.
Inye kuphela indlela yokusingatha le meko, nokuba kwenzeka ntoni na ngaphambili, uncume.
Kufuneka uthembeke ebantwaneni, akunyanzelekanga ukuba ubephambi kwabantu abadala.
Musa ukuzithelekisa nomlingane wakho omtsha. Vumela abanye bachithe ixesha labo ngemidlalo yengqondo. Ukuqhubeka nobomi bakho yile nto yokuphinda utshate. Oko abanye abantu bacinga ukuba akubalulekanga kangako, ekuphela kwento ebalulekileyo kukuba nobudlelwane kuluntu kunye ne-ex yakho kunye / neqabane lakho elitsha.
Awunakuba nalo naluphi na uhlobo lobudlelwane obuhlonelanayo kunye nobutshaba. Ukwenza imicimbi engakumbi nge-ex yakho okanye usapho lwayo alunamveliso. Akukho ngqiqweni ekudaleni iingxaki nomntu osele umkile. Ncuma kwaye uqhubeke. Ukhetho lwenziwe, kwaye uhlala ngalo.
Iimeko ezinzima zingenakuphepheka
Zininzi ezinye iimeko ezinokubakho nabahlobo, usapho, abantu bakudala, kunye nabantu ongabaziyo abanokuthi babangele iimeko ezinzima. Yinto ekuya kufuneka uphile nayo ngokukhetha ukutshata kwakhona. Khumbula ukuba ukuphinda utshate ayisiyonto uneentloni ngayo nokuba abantu bathini, bubomi bakho kwaye ayingobabo.
Kulumkele abantu abane "Ngcwele kunawe sengqondo", ngabo baphume endleleni yabo ukuba uzive umbi ngokukhetha ukutshata kwakhona.
Ke qiniseka ukuba uhlala uzolile. Hlala uzolile kwaye uncume. Musa ukunyusa imeko nangayiphi na indlela, utsho into, nantoni na eya kubanika into yokuhleba ngayo. Into yokugqibela oyifunayo kukugcina izinto zinomdla kubo.
Usapho, ngakumbi abantwana, ngabo ekufuneka ubakhathalele ngokwenene. Ngabo kuphela abafanelwe lixesha lakho kunye nomzamo. Ngabo abo ubomi babo buchaphazelekileyo kuba uthathe isigqibo sokutshata omnye umntu. Kuya kufuneka bafunde ukujongana neemeko zabo ezinzima, imeko obenzele yona, kwaye abanakukwazi ukuyiphatha.