Umxholo
- 1. Uyayazi indlela yokuzikhathalela kakuhle
- 2. Unako ukubeka iimfuno zabanye abantu ngaphambi kwezakho
- 3. Ukhululekile ekutshintsheni indlela ophila ngayo
- 4. Ungumntu onenkathalo
- 5. Unenkqubo yenkxaso ekhoyo
- 6. Unalo igumbi entliziyweni nasengqondweni yakho
- 7. Uqala ukuqaphela iintsana kuyo yonke indawo
Ukwenza isigqibo sokuba nomntwana kunokuba yinto eyoyikisayo. Ndiyathetha, ungaqiniseka njani ukuba ukulungele?
Ngokuqinisekileyo ayisiyombandela yokufikelela kubudala obuthile okanye ukuba ube nexesha elithile emva komtshato wakho, ingumbandela wobume bengqondo.
Ukuba ubeka ingqalelo ngokusondeleyo kwiingcinga kunye nezenzo zakho, unokufumana isalathiso sokuba ulungile okanye awukulungelanga. Ewe kuyothusa ekuqaleni kwaye ngekhe uqiniseke ukuba ulungile. Kodwa njengayo nayiphi na into ebalulekileyo ebomini, abantu abaninzi baye badlula kuyo kwaye basinda. Ngaphandle koko, masijongane nayo, ukuba nosana yenye yezona zinto zimangalisayo ebomini.
Ke, nantsi imiqondiso esixhenxe enokukunceda ubone ukuba ukulungele na ukufumana umntwana.
1. Uyayazi indlela yokuzikhathalela kakuhle
Enye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo zokuba ngumkhathaleli kukwazi ukuzikhathalela kuqala. Phambi kokuba uxanduva lokukhathalela omnye umntu, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba uyazikhathalela. Usana ludinga abazali abazinzileyo nabasempilweni (ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo). Nokuba ujonge njani, akukho mathandabuzo ukuba ukukhathalela umntwana ngumsebenzi omkhulu. Ukungabikho kokulala, ukubamba umntwana wakho kunye nokondla kunokuba nzima kakhulu emva kwethutyana. Ke ngoko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ubume obuhle kwaye uphile ubomi obusempilweni. Ukuphumla nanini na unakho kunye nokutya okusempilweni kudlala indima ebalulekileyo, ngakumbi kumama.
2. Unako ukubeka iimfuno zabanye abantu ngaphambi kwezakho
Ngaba ungazicingeli? Ngaba ungancama into oyifunayo ngokwenene ngenxa yomnye umntu?
Ukuba iimpendulo zale mibuzo ngu "ewe" oqinileyo, unako ukubeka iimfuno zabanye abantu ngaphambi kwezakho. Ukuba nomntwana kuthetha ukuba ngamanye amaxesha kuya kufuneka unikezele ngeemfuno zakho kunye neemfuno zakho ukulungiselela umntwana wakho. Umntwana wakho uba yeyona nto iphambili kuye. Kubantu abaninzi, oku kuyenzeka ngokwendalo, ngaphandle kokuthatha isigqibo sokubeka umntwana wakho kuqala. Wonke umzali ufuna okona kulungileyo kubantwana bakhe.
3. Ukhululekile ekutshintsheni indlela ophila ngayo
Ukuba ngumzali kukunika imvakalelo yolonwabo kunye nokwoneliseka. Kodwa kukwathetha ukuba kufuneka uncame ezinye zezinto ozithathe kancinci kubomi bakho bangaphambi kokuba ngumntwana. Ukulala kade, ukuphuma kwebhulabhu, okanye uhambo oluzenzekelayo zezinye zezinto ekuya kufuneka uzincame (ubuncinci kwiminyaka yokuqala yobuzali).
Umbuzo ngulo, Ngaba ukulungele ukuncama imikhwa yakudala ngenxa yemitsha?
Gcina ukhumbula, oko akuthethi ukuncama zonke izinto ezimnandi! Oko kuthetha ukuba kukwenza eminye imisebenzi enobubele yosapho kwaye mhlawumbi ucwangciso olongezelelweyo.
4. Ungumntu onenkathalo
Ukuba noxanduva kuthetha ukuba uqonde ukuba okwenzayo noko ukuthethayo kuya kuchaphazela ubomi bomntwana wakho (akukho xinzelelo apha).
Usana lwakho luya kuxelisa izenzo zakho kwaye luya kujonga kuwe. Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka unike ingqalelo eyongezelelweyo kwizenzo zakho nakumazwi akho.
Masijongane nayo, ukukhulisa umntwana kuyabiza. Ukuba noxanduva kukwaguqula ukuba ube nocwangco ebomini bakho, kwaye uzilungiselele umntwana ngokwezezimali. Ukuba imeko yakho yangoku yobomi iphila ngokuhlawulwa kwimivuzo, okanye unamatyala, kungcono ukuba ulinde de ufumane isenzo sakho kunye. Qala ucwangcise kwaye ugcine imali ukuze uqiniseke ukuba ulungele iindleko ezongezelelweyo.
5. Unenkqubo yenkxaso ekhoyo
Andizazi izibini ezininzi ezenze olu hambo lumangalisayo zodwa. Ukuba wena neqabane lakho ninamalungu osapho kunye nabahlobo abazimisele ukukunceda, awuzukuba noxinzelelo lokuba nomntwana kakhulu.
Ukuba nomntu osondeleyo ekunika iingcebiso ezintle kunokuba luncedo kwaye kuthobe. Ukuba ngumzali kufana nokukhwela kwi-roller coaster kunye nenkxaso evela kubathandekayo bakho inokwenza wonke umahluko. Yinto egcina uqinisekile, ukhuselekile kwaye ukhuselekile.
6. Unalo igumbi entliziyweni nasengqondweni yakho
Ukuba umsebenzi wakho unzima kakhulu, uneqela elikhulu labahlobo abaxineneyo kwaye usesigaba sokutshata kunye neqabane lakho, oko kunokuthetha ukuba okwangoku awunayo imithombo eyoneleyo yokutyala imali kusana.
Usana lufuna ingqalelo 24/7.Ukuba uziva ngathi ezinye izinto ebomini bakho zikugcina uxakeke ngokusisigxina, emva koko usenokungakulungeli oku kuzinikela.
Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, ukuba nosana kuyakutshintsha indlela ophila ngayo. Uya kuba nexesha elincinci lokudibana nabahlobo kunye nexesha elincinci ukuba wedwa kunye neqabane lakho. Ke, ukuba uziva ukuba awukakulungeli ukulalanisa kwezo zinto okwangoku, ayiloxesha elifanelekileyo.
7. Uqala ukuqaphela iintsana kuyo yonke indawo
Olu lolona phawu lucacileyo lukhoyo. Uqala ukubona iintsana naphi na apho uya khona. Uyabahoya kwaye bade babeke uncumo olungamampunge ebusweni bakho xa uhamba. Ukuba unabahlobo abasenyongweni okanye izalamane ezisandula ukuba nosana kwaye ufumanisa ukuba ubambe kwaye udlala nosana lwabo, ukuqonda kwakho kuzama ukukuxelela into-ulungele umntwana. Ukuba ufundile yonke le miqondiso kwaye waziva unolwazi lokuchongwa kunye nayo (okanye uninzi lwayo), ke unokulungela ukuthatha umtsi!
UPauline Plott
UPauline Plott ngu-blogger wase-London owaba ngumlingane wokuthandana emva kokufunda isayikholoji emva kwezothando zangoku kunye nokutyikitya iiwebhusayithi zokuthandana ngenjongo yolwalamano. Wabelana ngohlolo kunye nezimvo zakhe ku-www.DatingSpot.co.uk.