Umxholo
- Ukucingela sisiphumo sokungahoywa
- Ukuqikelela kubangela ukuba kungabikho unxibelelwano phakathi kwamaqabane
- Beka ibhulorho yonxibelelwano
Xa ubomi busibonisa ngezinto eziza kuqala ezikhuphisanayo kunye noxanduva, ukusebenza konxibelelwano emtshatweni kuhlala kuyinto yokuqala kubudlelwane obuchaphazelekayo.
Kumzamo wokonga ixesha kunye nokwenza izinto ezininzi, ngokwendalo sixhomekeke koko kuchaziweyo kunokuba sichaze xa kufikwa kumlingane wethu. Oku kunokukhokelela kukungaqondani kunye nelahleko enkulu yamandla.
Kukangaphi udlala into engqondweni yakho kwaye ucinga ngesiphumo?
Ukuqikelela kukungcakaza ngokwengqondo nangokweemvakalelo okuhlala kuphelisa ukucoca imali yakho yeemvakalelo.
Ukucingela sisiphumo sokungahoywa
Yimpendulo yokungabikho kokucaca, iimpendulo, unxibelelwano olucacileyo okanye mhlawumbi, ukungahoywa okucocekileyo. Akukho nanye kwezo zinto, eyinxalenye yolwalamano olusebenzayo, ehlonipha indawo phakathi kokubuza kunye neempendulo.
Ukucinga ngokuqhelileyo luluvo olwenziweyo olusekwe kulwazi olulinganiselweyo malunga nomdla oshiye ungaphendulwanga. Xa ucinga, uthatha isigqibo esinokuthi sichaphazele imeko yakho yeemvakalelo, yomzimba kunye nengqondo.
Uyaziqinisekisa ukuba banokuyithemba intuition yakho (imvakalelo-esiswini) ebangelwa ikakhulu ngamava akho angaphambili.
Ukuqikelela kubangela ukuba kungabikho unxibelelwano phakathi kwamaqabane
Inkolelo eqhelekileyo ibonakala ngathi kukulungiselela ingqondo kwisiphumo esibi kuya kuthi kusikhusele ngandlela ithile ekonzakalisweni okanye kude kusinike ingalo ephezulu.
Ukuqikelela kubangela ukuba kungabikho unxibelelwano phakathi kwawo onke amaqela achaphazelekayo. Ngoku, ukuqikelela kunokuba yinto elungileyo okanye engalunganga. Kodwa ubukhulu becala, ingqondo iya kuthatha okungafunekiyo ngaphezulu kokufunwayo, ukudala indawo ekhuselekileyo kwimeko yengozi okanye iintlungu.
Nangona kungaphakathi kwendalo yomntu ukwenza ukuqhankqalaza amaxesha ngamaxesha, xa kufikwa kumandla omtshato kunye nobudlelwane bexesha elide, oko kungakhokelela kwinzondo kunye nokudakumba okushiya omabini amaqela eziva engaqondwa.
Nayi imizekelo embalwa yeengcinga eziqhelekileyo ezenziweyo phakathi kwezibini ezikhokelela kunxunguphalo:
"Ndicinge ukuba uzakulanda abantwana.", "Bendicinga ukuba uzakufuna ukuphuma ngobubusuku." Ndicinga ukuba uyandiva.
Ngoku, makhe sijonge kwinto esinokuthi sithathe indawo yokucinga.
Beka ibhulorho yonxibelelwano
Indawo yokuqala ofuna ukuxhomekeka kuyo sisibindi sakho sokubuza imibuzo. Kukucinga nje ukuba zingaphi izihlandlo isenzo esilula sokubuza singakhathalelwanga kwaye saxothwa kuba ingqondo yomntu ixakekile isakha uthotho lweziganeko eziyingozi nezingalunganga ekujongeni indlela yokhuselo.
Ngokucela ukuba sibeke ibhulorho yonxibelelwano, ngakumbi, xa ingagwetyelwanga ngokwasemphefumlweni ekhokelela kunaniselwano ngolwazi.
Luphawu lobukrelekrele, ukuzihlonipha, kunye nokuzithemba okungaphakathi kukwamkela ulwazi olunikezelwa liqabane lakho ukwenza isigqibo esifanelekileyo ngayo nayiphi na imeko. Ke sihamba njani ngokubuza imibuzo okanye ukuhlakulela umonde wokulinda iimpendulo?
Imeko yokuma kwezentlalo yinto enkulu ebantwini abenza uqikelelo malunga neenjongo okanye indlela abaziphatha ngayo.
Ingqondo ngamandla aphembelelwa mihla le kukuqonda okuzimeleyo, izimo zengqondo, iimvakalelo, kunye nobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu.
Ke ngoko, yinxalenye yomtshato osempilweni nohlala uvela, xa unokujongana nawe kwaye uthathe uluhlu lwemo yakho yengqondo ukuqinisekisa ukuba iimpembelelo zakho zangaphandle azikhokeleli ekucingeni onokuthi ukwenze.
Kubalulekile kulo naluphi na ubudlelwane kubantu ukuba bazibuze kuqala le mibuzo isixhenxe ilandelayo:
- Ngaba iingcinga endizenzayo zisekwe kumava am adlulileyo kunye noko ndikubonile kusenzeka kum?
- Ndive ntoni ngabahlobo bam abasenyongweni malunga nokuphanda into engaziwayo?
- Injani imeko yam ngoku? Ngaba ndilambile, ndinomsindo, ndindedwa kwaye / okanye ndidiniwe?
- Ngaba ndinembali yokuyekiswa kunye nolindelo olungafezekiswanga kubudlelwane bam?
- Yintoni endiyoyika kakhulu kubudlelwane bam?
- Loluphi uhlobo lwemigangatho endinalo kulwalamano lwam?
- Ngaba ndiyazisile imigangatho yam neqabane lam?
Indlela oyiphendula ngayo le mibuzo ichonga ukulungela kwakho kunye nokuzimisela ukuphucula ukuphucula uhlobo lwencoko eyahlukileyo kunye neqabane lakho kunye nokuvumela indawo kunye nexesha lokukuva.
Njengoko uVoltaire esitsho ngeyona ndlela: Ayisiyompendulo oyinike yona, kodwa imibuzo oyibuzayo.
Luphawu lomtshato osisiseko sokubeka isiseko sokuthembana kunye neendlela ezivulekileyo phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho.