Ukomelela. Ligama elithetha nje "impilo" kwaye ukuba ubunokufunda amanye amanqaku akutshanje ngemeko yomzimba yabantu abahlala eMelika kuphela, ungafumanisa ukuba abantu abadala aba-2 kwaba-3 bathathwa njengabatyebileyo okanye abatyebe kakhulu . Into eyothusayo malunga nokutyeba kakhulu kunokubangela imiba yentliziyo, isifo seswekile kunye nezinye izinto ezininzi ezixhalabisa impilo.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ngumntu ophilileyo akubandakanyi nje ukuba kwimeko ephezulu yomzimba. Thatha umtshato wakho, umzekelo. Kugqibele nini ukuthatha umzuzu wokucinga ngendlela esempilweni ngayo? Kuba ingxelo ingama-40-50% yemitshato yaseMelika iphela kuqhawulo-mtshato, kubalulekile ukuba wenze konke okusemandleni ukugcina umtshato wakho ukhuselekile, wonwabile kwaye ulungile.
Ukuba ungathanda iingcebiso zomtshato ezimbalwa ezinokugcina wena kunye neyakho kwimeko yomtshato, nazi izinto ezintlanu eziqinisekisiweyo:
1) Nxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo
Ngaphandle kwemicimbi yezemali kunye nolwalamano, enye yezona zinto zibangela uqhawulo mtshato kukunxibelelana okungalunganga. Ukuze abantu ababini bakwazi ukuxhasana ngokufanelekileyo, bobabini baya kufuneka badlulise iimvakalelo zabo kunye neemfuno zabo kwaye bamamele kwinto ethethwa liqabane labo. Indoda esisilumko yakha yathi "Abantu bayatshintsha balibale ukuxelelana." Esi sesinye sezizathu eziphambili zoqhawulo mtshato (uqhawulo mtshato lwabadala). Ziziphumo zeminyaka yabantu abahlala kwindlu enye kodwa bengadibani ncam. Ukuba ufuna ukuba nomtshato ophilileyo, unxibelelwano ngoyena ndoqo.
2) Iingcebiso ngesibini
Ngelishwa, kuyaqhubeka ukubakho ukubekwa ibala malunga nokucebisa ngomtshato. Nangona kunjalo, yeyona nto intle onokuyenza emtshatweni wakho. Kukho izifundo ezininzi ezibonisa ukuba izibini ezibona umcebisi okanye ugqirha, ubuncinci amaxesha ambalwa ngonyaka, zinempumelelo enkulu kakhulu kunezibini ezingazenziyo. Ukubona ingcali efanelekileyo kukutyalomali okusebenzayo kwimanyano yakho kuba banokubonelela ngeengcebiso kunye nokuqonda malunga nendlela yokwenza umtshato wakho ubengcono.
3) Ulwalamano olusondeleyo
Nantsi into onokufumanisa ukuba iyamangalisa. Kuxelwe ukuba phakathi kwe-15 ukuya kwi-20 yepesenti yemitshato ithathwa ngokuba ayinasondo. Oku kuthetha ukuba izibini ezikwazo zilala kuphela amaxesha ali-10 (okanye ngaphantsi) ngonyaka. Ngaphandle kwenani elingenakubalwa lezibonelelo zomzimba eziza nokuzibandakanya kubomi obuqhubekayo ngokwesondo (kubandakanya ukunciphisa uxinzelelo, ukutshisa iikhalori kunye nokukhuthaza amajoni akho omzimba), ukusondelelana rhoqo kukonyusa unxibelelwano lwakho lweemvakalelo kunye nolomoya. Kuyanceda ukuba uzimanye ngakumbi neqabane lakho elisoloko liluncedo.
4) imihla yesiqhelo (kunye neeholide)
Enye into ebalulekileyo ekufuneka uyigcine engqondweni xa kuziwa kumgangatho womtshato lelokuba ixesha lomgangatho liphambili. Oko kwathethi, ngazo zonke iimfuno ezenzekayo xa kuziwa emsebenzini, abantwana nayo yonke into enokubakho kucwangciso lwakho, ixesha elisemgangathweni yinto ekufuneka uzimisele ukuyenza. Cwangcisa imihla yeveki. Ubuncinane kanye ngonyaka, yiya eholideyini (ngaphandle kwamanye amalungu osapho okanye abahlobo). Zombini ezi zinto ziya kukunika ithuba lokungaphazanyiswa zizinto eziqhubekayo ecaleni kwakho. Ngale ndlela, unokujonga kuphela komnye nomnye. Isibini ngasinye siyayidinga. Zonke izibini kufanelekile nazo.
5) Ukucwangcisela ixesha elizayo
Ukuba ubuza isibini esitshatileyo iminyaka engama-30 okanye nangaphezulu ngento abazisolayo ngayo xa kufikwa kwiminyaka yabo embalwa yokuqala yomtshato, banokuthi banqwenela ukuba bathathe ixesha elinomdla ngakumbi xa kufikwa kumba wokucwangcisela ikamva labo. Uxinzelelo lwezezimali lunokwenza inani lokwenyani kuwo nawuphi na umtshato. Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuseta iinjongo xa kuziwa ekuphumeni ematyaleni, ukuseka iakhawunti yokonga kunye nokulungiselela umhlala phantsi. Okukhona ucwangcisa okungaphambili, kokukhona uya kuhlala uzinzile kwaye unqabisekile. Ukucwangcisela ikamva ngokuqinisekileyo yenye yezona zinto zibalaseleyo onokuzenza ukugcina umtshato wakho wonwabile, usempilweni kwaye ulunge ngokupheleleyo.
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