Umxholo
- # 1 Ukufowuna okanye ukuthumela imiyalezo rhoqo kusasa nasebusuku
- # 2 Ukucwangcisa ubusuku bosuku
- # 3 Soloko ubandakanya omnye nomnye
- # 4 Nika ingqalelo yakho eyahlukileyo
- # 5 Thumela izipho
- # 6 Lawula ulindelo lwakho
Sonke besikhona- kwaye siyazi ukuba ubudlelwane bemigama emide akukho lula. Abo basindayo kufuneka babelane ngokuthembana okukhulu, ubudlelwane kunye nomonde. Kodwa kukho enye into uninzi lwentsebenziswano yexesha elide enokuthi ngokungalunganga ishiye, ukwabelana ngezinto zothando rhoqo.
Kubudlelwane obuninzi obuzinikeleyo, uthando lunikiwe. Kodwa ngaba intsebenziswano yexesha elide ikhululekile kule mfuno? Into exakayo nangakumbi yindlela la maqabane ahamba ngayo ukuze ayenze.
Ubudlelwane beengcali ezinikezela ngeengcebiso zothando kubudlelwane obude obude bujonga ukuthandana njengeyona nto ibalulekileyo, eneneni, kuba ezi zibini kufuneka zisebenze nzima ngakumbi kuthando kunalezo zisebenzisanayo.
Ke ukuba ufuna ukwazi ukuba ungathandana njani kubudlelwane obude? Okanye ungasondelelana njani kubudlelwane obude? Eli nqaku libonelela izimvo zothando kubudlelwane obude kunye neengcebiso malunga nendlela yokuvuselela uthando ubudlelwane obukude.
# 1 Ukufowuna okanye ukuthumela imiyalezo rhoqo kusasa nasebusuku
Njengokuba isibini esiqhelekileyo sinokuvuka kunye, nawe kufanelekile ngokusemandleni akho xa uhlala ngokwahlukeneyo. Oku kuyaya nakwizibini ezishiye iziqu ezimfutshane ukuba elinye lihamba.
Ukwenza njalo kwakha ukuthembana kwaye kushiya indawo yokungazithembi kungene; kuba ukuphindana kokutshintshiselana “ngeentsasa ezilungileyo” ekuphumeni kubonakala mihla le.
Ubusuku kuxa izinto zisenokuba nzima kakhulu; isizungu, uloyiko, kunye nokungaqiniseki kwakho kungaqala ukungena njengoko uphoswa bubukho bomntu omthandayo. Kodwa, ungathatha induduzo kwinto elandelayo elungileyo; incoko elungileyo ebusuku ngaphambi kokuba ukukhanya kuphume.
Kuyo nayiphi na ubudlelwane obude bomtshato, Ukuthumela imiyalezo ngefowuni okanye ukufowunela iqabane lakho rhoqo kusasa nasebusuku kungabenza baqonde ukuba ucinga ngabo nto leyo eya kubanika intuthuzelo naxa bekude kuwe.
Ukufunda okuhambelana: Ingcebiso ngonxibelelwano kubudlelwane obude
# 2 Ukucwangcisa ubusuku bosuku
Ukungakwazi ukubonana kunye nokuchitha ixesha elisemgangathweni omnye komnye yeyona nto inzima kuyo nayiphi na ubudlelwane obude. Ukudala iinkumbulo ezimnandi kunye nothando yile nto inceda nabuphi na ubudlelwane ukuba businde kuxinzelelo lwexesha. Ke ngoko kubalulekile ukusebenzisa onke amathuba.
Ke, kuxhomekeke kwindlela enihlangana ngayo, ukucwangcisa elo xesha kubaluleke kakhulu iingcebiso zobudlelwane obude. Shiya nantoni na kuluhlu ofuna ngokwenene ukulwenza.
Qinisekisa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba obunye bobusuku ngexesha lotyelelo lwakho bubusuku bomhla; Ithetha ukuba loo mini okanye ngorhatya- okanye zombini- zigcinelwe nina nobabini kuphela. Ukuba awukwazi ukuba nobusuku bomhla; okanye ukutyelelwa kunqabile; cwangcisa enye nokuba yeyiphi eza kujongeka yahlukile.
Umzekelo; yenza ixesha ngokucwangcisa ukuhlala unxibelelana ngalo lonke usuku oluthile. Ukongeza koku, cwangcisa ukubiza ngaphezulu nge-Skype ngokuhlwa.
Uya kuthi emva koko utshintshisane ngento oyithengileyo uyinxibe ngobusuku bakho obukhethekileyo, yeyiphi imovie okanye umboniso oza kuwubukela “kunye,” kunye nento ojolise ukuyithatha okanye uyiphekele isidlo sangokuhlwa; yeyiphi oya kuthi uzenze ngathi yeyababini.
Ungalibali ukuthumela imiyalezo okanye uthayiphe omnye komnye izimvo zakho xa ubukele umboniso wekhebula ngexesha langempela.
Ukufunda okuhambelana: Iindlela zothando malunga nendlela yokuthandana phakathi kobudlelwane obude
# 3 Soloko ubandakanya omnye nomnye
Kuyo nayiphi na ubudlelwane bomgama omde, Ukugcina ukwazisana ngeentsuku zakho kuya kukugcina nisondelelene.
Ukuhlaziya rhoqo iqabane lakho, kunye nokuthumela izicatshulwa zemifanekiso yeziganeko zosuku; Yonke into esuka kumhlaba wendlela ukusuka ekutyeni ukusuka ekutyeni- ayisiyothando kuphela kodwa inokunika uluvo lokuba "ubekhona" kunye nomntu omthandayo.
Oku kuyakubaluleka kamva xa uxoxa ngeziganeko zangaphambili; uya kuba neenkumbulo ngokungathi "ubukho" kunye neqabane lakho - ngekhe akufune ukukuzalisa.
# 4 Nika ingqalelo yakho eyahlukileyo
Inye kuphela into onokuyenza ngokuzazi, kulula kwaye iya kwenza umahluko omkhulu kumgangatho wonxibelelwano lwakho, kukunikela ingqalelo kwiqabane lakho xa usefowunini.
Le yingcebiso engabalulekanga kodwa ebaluleke kakhulu kubudlelwane obude. Ngokuhlala nje uthethe neqabane lakho, ungenzi umsebenzi wasekhaya okanye enye into, ngaxeshanye, uya kuba nakho ukulungela ukumamela kakuhle, kwaye unike iimpendulo ezibuthathaka, ezinengcinga.
Uyakumangaliswa yindlela owenza ngayo lo mzamo wokukhulisa ngokwenyani umgangatho wonxibelelwano.
Ukufunda okuhambelana: Iindlela ezi-5 onokuthi ulungiselele ubuDlelwane obuMde
# 5 Thumela izipho
Ukuthumela amanqaku eqabane lakho, iileta zothando, iitrinki kunye nezipho ukumazisa ukuba ucinga ngazo kukuthandana kwaye kuya kwamkelwa kakuhle. Yongeza uburharha ekunikeni kwakho izipho kungaze kukwenzakalise, ukuba iqabane lakho lithanda umdlalo.
Ewe kunjalo, ukuthandana yinto enzima ukugcina kuyo ubudlelwane obude; kodwa akufuneki ityeshelwe.
Njengokwenzeka kubudlelwane bemveli, izibini ezihlala ngokwahlukeneyo ziyabanjiswa kukuxakeka nobomi bazo; kwaye ezo "butterflies zebhabhathane" zinokuphela ngokuhamba kwexesha.
# 6 Lawula ulindelo lwakho
Okulindeleyo kwiqabane lakho kunye nolwalamano lwakho zezona zinto zibalulekileyo kulwalamano lwakho eziguqukayo okanye ezitshintshayo xa ukude ngokwasemzimbeni neqabane lakho.
Nokuba ungathandana kangakanani okanye ukuba ubudlelwane bakho bomelele kangakanani, ukulawula ulindelo lwakho yeyona nto iphambili yokugcina ingqumbo nomsindo ungabikho.
Wena neqabane lakho kufuneka nibeke imigaqo ethile yokuqinisekisa ukuba xa omnye wenu engakwazi ukufezekisa ulindelo lomnye, awuyivumeli loo nto ukuba yonakalise ubudlelwane benu.
Ngokuchasene noko, jonga umgama njengethuba lokulinganisa ngokwenene amandla olwalamano lwakho. Umgama okude neqabane lakho uyakuvumela ukuba uzibandakanye nolunye ubudlelwane kwaye uqokelele umbono ngakumbi ebomini okanye ukwenza abahlobo abatsha.
Ukubambelela kwimithetho yothando, kunye nokwenza ukuthandana eyona nto iphambili kubudlelwane bakho kuya kugcina izinto zilungile. Landela ezi zinto zilandelayo iingcebiso zobudlelwane obude eya kugcina ubudlelwane bakho buhamba kakuhle.
Ukufunda okuhambelana: Ukulawula ubudlelwane obude