Umxholo
Eyona nkxalabo ibaluleke kakhulu ngelixa ucinga ngokwahlukana nomyeni wakho lolokhuseleko lwakho. Ukuba unesizathu sokucinga ukuba umyeni wakho angasabela ngokuthetha okanye ngokuhlukumeza ngokwasemzimbeni, kunyanzelekile ukuba ube nenkxaso (kwaye nangokomthetho) ulwakhiwo olukhoyo.
Inyathelo 1: Qinisekisa ukhuseleko lwakho
Amanyathelo athile anokusebenza kukunxibelelana nemibutho yobundlobongela basekhaya kunye neenombolo zoncedo okanye ukuthetha nokunyanzeliswa komthetho wasekhaya ukufaka isithintelo.
Enye yeendlela eziluncedo abantu abazithathayo nangona kunjalo, kukuhlala nomhlobo osondeleyo okanye ilungu losapho ukuba unokukhetha. Ndiyabakhuthaza aba bafazi ukuba bazise abo babathandayo ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni, ukuba abakakwenzi oko. Ndiyazi ukuba oku kulula kakhulu kunokwenza, kodwa ngenene ibalulekile loo nto.
Ngale nto ithethwayo, ezona zinto ziluncedo ngokwahlukana zilungile ngqo phambili.
Inyathelo 2: Funda
Kubalulekile ukuba ujonge indlela ukwahlukana noqhawulo-mtshato olusebenza ngayo kwimeko yakho.
Ngokubanzi, zimbini iindlela ezahlulayo, ezisesikweni nezisesikweni. Ukwahlukana ngokusesikweni kubandakanya ukwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni apho amagqwetha aqeshwa khona ukuze enze isivumelwano sokwahlukana. Esi sivumelwano siza kwahlula kwaye sichaze amalungelo noxanduva lweqabane ngalinye njengamalungiselelo endlu, ukunakekelwa kwabantwana, ezemali, ukuhlawulwa kwamatyala, njl.
Olu khetho lubiza imali, ngenxa yoko kunokuba yimfuneko ukuba ugcine okanye ucele uncedo kumhlobo okanye ilungu losapho.
Imali isisithintelo sokwenyani esigcina abasetyhini kubudlelwane obungonwabisiyo kunye nolwalamano olungenampilo. Nangona kunjalo, iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba ingqondo yomntu yakhelwe iingcinga zoyilo kunye namaxesha e-ha. Akukho ngaphandle koku, ke nokuba awucingi ukuba ubukrelekrele kangako, usenamandla okwakhelwa ngaphakathi kweengcinga zokuyila kunye nokuqonda. Intsingiselo, umbono omkhulu wokuba ungayifumana njani imali, enye into ebichazwe apha ngasentla, soloko inamandla ukuphumelela.
Enye indlela yokwahlukana kukwahlukana okungacwangciswanga apho iinkundla zingabandakanyekanga khona. Oku kunokwenziwa kwaye kusayinwe ngawo omabini amaqabane. Kwakhona, ukuba sele ukutshatile okunomtshato ophakamileyo, oku kusenokungabi lukhetho olufanelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ibe ngamava am ukuba ngamanye amaxesha abantu banokukothusa.
Ndinomthengi omnye ukuya kumyeni wakhe kwaye nditsho nje ngokulula "andisafuni kuphinda ndibuhlungu". Ngokwenyani uvumile ngokwahlulwa kwaye ibintle kakhulu into abakhe bayithetha ngayo. Wawakhupha amaphepha, bohlukana, ekugqibeleni baqhawula umtshato.
Isibonelelo sokwahlukana ngokungekho sikweni kukuba ayizukubhatala imali ephezulu kangaka. Icala elibi kukuba ayinakunyanzeliswa ziinkundla, ke ukuba kukho ulwaphulo lwesi sivumelwano liqabane lakho, akukho nto ingako ungayenzayo.
Inyathelo 3: Qinisekisa ukucaca
Kwabafazi abathile (okanye amadoda), kucacile ukuba ukwahlukana yeyona nto bayifunayo. Abanye baya emva naphambili iminyaka bezibuza ukuba sisiphi isisombululo esifanelekileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha baziva benethemba kwaye ngamanye amaxesha bacinga ukuba "Kutheni ndingamshiyanga lo mntu ngokukhawuleza?".
Akukho ndlela ichanekileyo okanye engalunganga yokufikelela kwesi sigqibo.
Nangona kunjalo, ndifuna ukwenza le ngcaciso. Abafazi abaninzi endithetha nabo bangena emtshatweni bebona amandla kubayeni babo botshintsho.
Ke ngoko, bakholelwe lonke elixesha ukuba banokutshintsha umyeni wabo. Ngoku, anditsho ukuba utshintsho alunakwenzeka kuye wonke umntu. Ngokuqinisekileyo kunjalo.
Kwaye ... ayisiyonto onokuze ulawule, unyanzele okanye ukhuthaze omnye umntu ukuba ayenze.
Utshintsho lwenene kunye noluhlala luhleli, luhlala luvela ngaphakathi ngaphakathi kumntu ngamnye. Intsingiselo, umntu kufuneka abone okanye aqonde into entsha ngaye kunye nendlela ahambelana ngayo nehlabathi ukuze isenzo sabo sitshintshe ngokusisigxina. Wonke umntu unokuziphatha kuphela ngokusekwe kumgangatho wokucinga (owaziyo okanye ongazi nto) abanalo ngalo mzuzu.
Ke ngoko, kuyanceda ukubona ukuba umyeni wakho akatshintshi, ayibonisi ukuba uyakuthanda na okanye hayi. Ukuziphatha sisiphumo, ayisiso isizathu.
Ke, ndiza kukushiya nale nto. Isiqinisekiso onaso, yindlela iqabane lakho elisebenza ngayo ngoku. Utshintsho lunokwenzeka, kodwa alunakuphepheka.
Ekupheleni kosuku nangona kunjalo, nokuba kubi kangakanani na, uhlala unamandla okuzinza kunye nengcinga entsha. Ndiyakukhuthaza ukuba uvumele oko kukukhokele ngexesha lokuvela kobudlelwane bakho.