Ukutshata kunokuba yeyona nto inomdla ebomini bakho. Lixesha lothando, lixesha lokuzilungiselela, lixesha lotshintsho, ixesha lokwenza into entsha, into ebolekiweyo, into eluhlaza Libali lothando elinesiphelo esonwabisayo kunye nesiqalo esitsha.
Xa utshata, utshintshela kwixesha elitsha, ixesha ongaliqhelanga, ixesha eliza kuzisa utshintsho oluninzi kunye nokungaqiniseki, ixesha apho kungakho amaxesha apho unokubuza isigqibo sakho, uzithandabuze, kwaye uzibuze ukuba uthathe isigqibo esifanelekileyo na; unokuba neenyawo ezibandayo, kwaye ufuna nokuphosa itawuli kwaye uyeke, kwaye oku kuyenzeka xa ulindelo onalo emtshatweni, aluhambelani nobunyani bomtshato. Kodwa kulungile, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuziva ngale ndlela kuba ukwindawo ebomini bakho, apho ungazange waya khona, kwaye ukuba kule ndawo kungoyikisa.
Kodwa, njengoko uqala ixesha lakho elitsha, isiqalo sakho esitsha, kunye nobomi bakho obutsha, ndifuna ukwabelana nawe, ezinye iiparele zobulumko ekufuneka ukhumbule:
- Ngalo lonke ixesha khumbula into ekutsaleleyo kumyeni wakho, khumbula umhla wakho wokuqala, khumbula iimvakalelo owawunazo xa wawudibana okokuqala, khumbula iingcinga ezazihamba engqondweni yakho emva komhla wokuqala, kwaye uhlale ukhumbula izinto ezikwenza uncume, naxa yena ayikho egumbini.
- Sukubanjwa kakhulu ngumsebenzi, de ungakhathalelani kunye nobudlelwane. Umtshato uthatha umsebenzi, kufuneka ubeke umsebenzi ofunekayo ukwakha umtshato owomeleleyo nohlala uhleli.
- Ngalo lonke ixesha khumbula ukuba umtshato ufuna ixesha nengqwalaselo. Ukuba uyayityeshela, iya kufa; kodwa ukuba uyayondla, iya kukhula yomelele kwaye yomelele mihla le.
- Sukulahla ukuzazi okanye ukuzazisa emtshatweni wakho. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba nenze yonke into kunye. Kusempilweni ukuba nezinto ozithandayo kunye nezinto onomdla kuzo.
- Soloko nichitha ixesha elisemgangathweni omnye nomnye, kwaye nizame ukwenza ixesha lokubonana, kwaye sukubeka izizathu zokuba kutheni ungakwazi.
- Chonga izinto onokuzenza kunye, cwangcisa ixesha lokuba uzenze, kwaye ungathathi lula. Ukwenza izinto kunye kuya kuwomeleza umtshato wenu.
- Njalo khumbula ukukhupha. Ukuthinta ngokwasemzimbeni kubalulekile kubudlelwane, kuyanceda ukudala kwaye kuphuculise uthando, kukwenza wena kunye neqabane lakho niziva nifunwa, kuyanidambisa, kukwenza ukhululeke, kunike intuthuzelo, kwaye kukwenza uzive uqhagamshelene. Kuya kubakho amaxesha apho ukubamba kwakho konke okufunwa liqabane lakho.
- Chazela omnye nomnye izinto ozicingayo nendlela oziva ngayo, kwaye uthethe ngokucacileyo. Musa ukulindela ukuba iqabane lakho lazi ngokuzenzekelayo ukuba ucinga ntoni okanye uziva njani.
- Thetha malunga kwaye wabelane ngamathemba kunye namaphupha akho. Oku kubangela ukuba niphuhlise unxibelelwano olunzulu kunye nomnye, kuvule umnyango wokuba nixhasane kwaye niqondane ngcono, kwaye ikukhuthaze ukuba nisebenze kunye ukufezekisa iminqweno yenu.
- Kulungele ukulalanisa. Ulungelelwaniso lubaluleke kakhulu kwimpumelelo yolwalamano lwakho. Ezinye izinto azifanelekanga ukulwa okanye ukuphikisana ngazo, akusoloko ulungile, ezinye izinto kufuneka uziyeke. Zibuze, ngaba kufanelekile ukuphulukana nolwalamano lwakho?
- Soloko ubhetyebhetye; utshintsho lwenzeka kulo lonke ubudlelwane. Yamkela ukuba awunakuhlala unezinto ngendlela yakho, izinto aziyi kuhlala zihamba njengoko bekucwangcisiwe, okanye ufuna ukuba zihambe njani.
- Thatha ixesha lokumamelana. Ukumamela kukwenza uzive uthandwa kwaye uqondwa. URalph Nichols uthi, “Ezona mfuno zisisiseko zabantu kukufuna ukuqonda nokuqonda. Eyona ndlela yokuqonda abantu kukubaphulaphula. ”
- Funda ngendlela yokulawula ungquzulwano. Kukho ukungaboni ngasonye ongenakukusombulula, kodwa ungafunda ukuzilawula ngokuza nezisombululo ezifanelekileyo, ulalanise, uvume ukungavumelani, kwaye uyeke.
- Hlalani ninyanisekile omnye komnye. Ukunyaniseka sisiseko esibalulekileyo ekwakhiwe kuso ubudlelwane kwaye yinto ephambili ekubeni nobudlelwane obomeleleyo nobomeleleyo.
- Musa ukoyika ukubuzana xa ufuna ukucaciselwa xa ufuna ukuqonda. Ayikwenzi ube buthathaka, ithi ndikulungele ukuzithoba kwaye ndibeke ikratshi kunye ne-ego ecaleni, ukufuna uncedo kwiqabane lam.
- Jongana neengxaki njengoko zivela, kwaye ungatshayeli izinto phantsi kombhoxo kwaye wenze ngathi khange zenzeke okanye akunamsebenzi. Naziphi na iingxaki ongadibani nazo, ziyakhula, ziyomelela, kwaye ziye zibe "yindlovu egumbini." Sukuvumela imiba ihlale ixesha elide ngokucinga ukuba izakuhamba, ukuba uyayityeshela.
- Musa ukulala unomsindo. Ukulala unomsindo kubangela ukwahlukana, uya kuvuka unomsindo, ichaphazela ukulala kwakho, kwaye ichaphazela impilo yakho yeemvakalelo neyengqondo.
- Musani ukuthetha kakubi ngomnye nomnye kusapho nakubahlobo; emva kokuba uxolele iqabane lakho kwaye waqhubekela phambili, usapho kunye nabahlobo bakho basaya kuhlala bephambene, kwaye uxolelo aluyi kuza lula kubo. Okukhona abantu ugcina kubudlelwane bakho kokukhona ubudlelwane bakho buya kuba ngcono.
- Uthando olungenamiqathango kwaye uhlala usithi ndiyaxolisa.
- Ngalo lonke ixesha khumbula ukuba kutheni usithi, "Ndenza njalo."