Umxholo
- 1. Ukuthatha omnye nomnye njengesiqhelo
- 2. Abenzi zicwangciso zemali kunye
- 3. Kuxhomekeke omnye komnye kakhulu
- 4. Ukungabikho kobuhlobo kubizela isithukuthezi
- 5. Ukugcina umsindo ngaphakathi kuwe kufana nokuhlala kwintaba-mlilo
Umtshato, eyona ndawo iphambili yobudlelwane intle, izulu kwaye yintoni.
Zonke izibini ziqala obu budlelwane ngobude bothando, inzondelelo kunye neemvakalelo ezinzulu ezibonakala ngathi ziyahlala ubomi bonke. Nangona kunjalo, ixesha lelona titshala libalaseleyo kwaye njengoko lidlula, libonisa amacala ahlukeneyo kunye nemibala yobudlelwane. Izibini ezitshatileyo azikho ngaphandle. Ngokuhamba kweminyaka, baya kubona izinto ezahlukeneyo zolu lwalamano olunokuba rhabaxa.
Akukho nto ingenakwenzeka kubandakanya isisombululo seengxaki zobomi bomtshato ukuba uyazi apho usilela khona. Ngenxa yoko, kungcono ukuba wazi iimpazamo ezenziwa ngabantu.
Mhlawumbi ungabuhlangula ubudlelwane bakho ngaphambi kokuba kufike isaqhwithi.
1. Ukuthatha omnye nomnye njengesiqhelo
Emva komtshato, abantu bahlala kunye kwaye benza phantse yonke into kunye.
Ukutya, ukuhlala eholideyini, ukucwangcisa ikamva, ukuthenga, kunye noluhlu luyaqhubeka. Ngokuqinisekileyo, wenza okufanayo. Uyazi ntoni, nobabini nifumaneke ngokulula omnye komnye kangangokuba ngamanye amaxesha omnye wenu okanye nobabini niqala ukuthatha ngokungakhathali.
Izidingo zomoya, iimbono zomsebenzi, ukucinga komntu, njl. Ukuba awuyihloniphi loo nto kwaye awuyihoyi, ubudlelwane obomeleleyo bomtshato bunokuthi bube nesiphelo esibuhlungu.
Ukuhlala kunye kufanele ukuba ibe sisibini esomeleleyo hayi ukunyanzelwa. Mamela inkxalabo yeqabane lakho njengoko izisa ubabalo kulwalamano.
2. Abenzi zicwangciso zemali kunye
Owu, le yimpazamo enkulu.
Wonke umntu kweli hlabathi kufuneka abenemali eyaneleyo yokubuyela ukuhlala kwaye aphile kweli hlabathi. Xa ngumntu omnye kuphela ekufuneka athathe uxanduva lwezezimali, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kubakho ukukhathazeka. Xa oku kusenzeka, iinkxwaleko zibonisa ifuthe lazo kulwalamano.
Jonga nje ngeenxa zonke, kukho uxinzelelo olukhulu phaya.
Umdyarho weerati ukufumana ngaphezulu, ukuhlala emsebenzini okanye ukwenza eyona nto ishishini iqhubeka nge-24 × 7, iintsuku ezingama-365. Ngokuqinisekileyo nawe uneenjongo zemali kunye nezicwangciso zexesha elizayo. Ezinye ziinjongo ezizodwa kwaye ezinye zenzelwe usapho. Azinakufezekiswa ngaphandle kwemvume kunye negalelo.
Indoda nomfazi bobabini banendima elinganayo ekucwangcisweni kwemali.
Nangona kunjalo, ngokomahluko womvuzo isabelo esigcinwayo okanye sokutyala imali sinokuhlala silungiswa. Kodwa nantoni na eniyenzayo, yenzeni kunye. Ngokukodwa xa kufikwa kwizibophelelo, thwala umthwalo kunye. Ukusuka kwimali mboleko yexeshana elifutshane ukuya kumatyala exesha elide, xa wabelana ngomthwalo kuzisa isibini esisondeleyo.
Ngaphambi kokuthatha naliphi na ikhadi lekhredithi, imali mboleko okanye nayiphi na imveliso yezemali ithatha imvume efanayo. Umzekelo, nokuba uthatha imali-mboleko yexeshana, qala uxoxe kwaye ubone ukuba ingayichaphazela njani imali yakho.Nangona kunjalo, kumzi-mveliso omtsha wezezimali ukhetho lwezezimali sele lufikeleleke kwaye luyatshintsha.
Umzekelo-Ababolekisi base-Bhritane, inkampani ebolekayo ekwi-Intanethi e-UK ibonelela ngexabiso eliphantsi kunanini na ngaphambili kwimali mboleko. Unako ukuba zonke iimfuno zakho ezincinci zemali zizalisekiswe apha. Nangona kunjalo, ingcinga yesibini malunga nesigqibo sezemali ihlala ifuneka.
3. Kuxhomekeke omnye komnye kakhulu
'Ukugqithisa kwayo yonke into kubi' umsantsa omkhulu kunye nokusondela kakhulu, zombini azilunganga emtshatweni wakho.
Ukutshutshiswa akulunganga kungekuphela kwimpilo kodwa kunye nobudlelwane. Vumela uphefumle, ufumane indawo yakho kwaye unike indawo kwiqabane lakho.
Sukuxhomekeka omnye komnye kakhulu kwaye eyona ndlela yokwenza oku kukwenza inkqubo yakho kwaye uyilandele.
Oku akuxeleli ukungahoyi iqabane lakho, kodwa ukuba uzive uzithembile oku kubalulekile.
Akuzange kube yingxaki ukuxoxa ngemicimbi eyahlukeneyo nesiqingatha sakho esingcono kodwa ungabenzi ubunyanzelekileyo ekwenzeni yonke into. Yenza isangqa somhlobo wakho kwaye uhlale uqhagamshele kumalungu osapho, njengoko umntu omnye (iqabane lobomi) engakwazi ukufeza konke okulindeleyo.
Abantu bayinxalenye yoluntu kwaye banokuchuma ngcono xa behlala beqhagamshelene noluntu. Oku, enyanisweni, kuyabuqinisa ubudlelwane benu njengoko nobabini nikhula ngokwaneleyo ukuba nijongane nobudlelwane kunye neemeko ngokwahlukeneyo.
4. Ukungabikho kobuhlobo kubizela isithukuthezi
Khawukhumbule nje ukuba nobabini nisondelelene njani kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ngaphambi komtshato.
Ukutya kunye, ukonwaba kunye, iimuvi, amatheko asebusuku, ukuhamba ngeempelaveki, imihla yothando, Wow yintoni?
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, ubuhlala usabelana ngezinto ezininzi kwaye imini nobusuku azange wenze mahluko kumandla akho ukuze uhlale utyalomali kwincoko. Kodwa kwenzeka ntoni kuloo nto ngoku?
Nobabini aninakuthetha ngokufanelekileyo, fihla izinto ezininzi kwaye nihlale nizigcinile. Yima umzuzu, ayisiqhula le, obu budlelwane bakho kwaye kufuneka buvuselelwe ngomoya omtsha.
Kutheni ungaphinde ube ngabahlobo kwakhona kwaye wabelane ngamava kunye neemvakalelo ezilityelweyo.
Akukho mntu mhlawumbi unokugcina iimfihlo zakho ngokugqibeleleyo njengeqabane lakho lobomi. Kodwa ngenxa yoko, la macala mabini kufuneka atyale imali kwaye asebenze ngokunyanisekileyo. Ukuzibophelela kwe-100% kuyafuneka.
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5. Ukugcina umsindo ngaphakathi kuwe kufana nokuhlala kwintaba-mlilo
Ukuchazwa kweemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo nokuba luthando okanye umsindo, ziyimfuneko ukubonisa. Ukulwa kuyinxalenye yobudlelwane, kwaye akukubi ngamanye amaxesha ukulwa (ngokucacileyo, akunabundlobongela) kwaye vumela umsindo uphume.
Kuyanceda ukuba ukhulule lonke uxinzelelo, olucoca ubumdaka bobomi.
Njengoko kulungile ukuba buhlungu ngamanye amaxesha, kulungile ukulwa ngamanye amaxesha. Emva koko xa iqabane lakho kwaye nihleli kunye ukuphinda ubambe kwakhona, loo maxesha aba luphembelelo lobudlelwane.
Oku kwenza ukuba izinto zisebenze ixesha elide, ngokuhamba kwexesha isibini sifumana ukucaciswa kokungathandwa liqabane laso kwaye kufanele ukuba kuthintelwe. Ubushushu belanga kuphela obunokwenza ukuba uqaphele ukubaluleka komthunzi womthi.
Ukulwa kwenza uthando lube mnandi ngakumbi.
Umtshato yinto emangalisayo kuba oku mhlawumbi kuphela kobudlelwane obunokuthwala amahla ndinyuka.
Kodwa qiniseka ukuba ihlala yomelele ngalo lonke ixesha. Ubomi bunye; yisebenzise kakuhle ngezizathu ezifanelekileyo. Sukuyonakalisa ngezinto ezingalunganga njengoko zifunxa ulonwabo kubomi obukufaneleyo. Ziphephe ezi mpazamo zingentla kwaye wenze ubudlelwane bakho buhlale ixesha elide. Hlalani kunye ngonaphakade.
Umtshato 'uyiphethe ngononophelo' ubudlelwane kunye nento ekufuneka ihlale ubomi bonke. Ukuba ukuphepha ezinye iimpazamo kunokwenza ukuba ihlale ixesha elide kuya kufuneka uyazi malunga nazo ukuthintela ukwenzeka kwazo.