Umxholo
- Gcina ubuhlobo obuhle
- Jonganani nehlabathi kunye
- Hlonipha ukwahluka kobuntu
- Fumana ingxabano ngokukhawuleza
- Yiba ngumphulaphuli olungileyo
- Cela uxolo ngokufanelekileyo
- Yenza iqabane lakho lizive likhethekile
- Beka ukuthembana omnye komnye
- Khumbula amaxesha amnandi
Isibini ngasinye sikholelwa ekubeni "sonwabile emva koko" ngelixa sibopha iqhina. Bacinga ukuba baya kuhlala kunye ngonaphakade. Nangona kunjalo, ayisiyiyo yonke imitshato enesiphelo.
Ngelishwa, imitshato emininzi iphela ngoqhawulo-mtshato. Kunokubakho izizathu ezahlukeneyo zobudlelwane obungonwabisiyo ngenxa yokuba ayisiyiyo yonke imitshato ebenzayo. Ukubandakanya ubudlelwane obonwabileyo, ke, yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi obonwabisayo.
Umbuzo ophakamayo ngowokuba yintoni ebeka imitshato emifutshane ngaphandle kwaleyo ihlala iminyaka engama-50 okanye nangaphezulu.
Ewe, ngokwezibini ezibhiyozela iminyaka engama-50 yolonwabo lomtshato kunye neengcali eziye zabubona obu budlelwane busanda, kukho imigaqo yegolide. Kukho izinto ezithile zobomi obude kunye nobomtshato obonwabisayo obonyusa amathuba okuba isibini sihlale kunye iminyaka emininzi kamva.
Okulandelayo ngamagama anobulumko kunye neendlela ezilungileyo zokwenza ukuba umtshato wakho uhambe umgama
Gcina ubuhlobo obuhle
Enye yezinto ezibalulekileyo emtshatweni ohlala ixesha elide kukuba ngabahlobo abalungileyo. Njengoko isaci esidumileyo sisithi: “Ithatha ezimbini ukuya kwi-tango.”
Isekwe ngokupheleleyo kubuhlobo hayi kwisibophelelo xa abantu ababini bevuma ngokuzithandela ukwenza into kunye. Akusoloko kunjalo ukuba abantu abathandanayo ngokuzenzekelayo abahlobo abalungileyo nabo.
Ubuhlobo obuhle phakathi kwabathandi ababini benza ukuchitha ixesha kunye into yokuba amaqela omabini ayonwabele kwaye ajonge phambili kuyo.
Jonganani nehlabathi kunye
Olona lwalamano lwanelisayo lwenzeka xa isibini siqonda ukuba umtshato ngumdlalo weqela. Kufuneka beme ngasemva, bejonge ngaphandle.
Singabantu ngabanye kodwa sifeza ngakumbi kunye. Khumbula ukuba umtshato ayingomncintiswano; ungaze ugcine amanqaku.
Hlonipha ukwahluka kobuntu
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba wamkele iqabane lakho ngenxa yokuba bangoobani. Akufanele ucinge ukuba ungatshata nendoda namhlanje kwaye utshintshe iindlela zayo ngomso.
Ukufana ngokufanayo akuyi kusebenza, kwaye uninzi uya kuthi ekugqibeleni uphele unqwenela ukuba usenayo imodeli endala, enesiphene owathandayo.
Fumana ingxabano ngokukhawuleza
Rhoqo ziinkcukacha ezincinci zobomi bemihla ngemihla ezimisela ukuba umtshato uphumelele. Amagama omsindo anokubonakalisa ulwalamano lwakho, kwaye umphumo unokuba buhlungu. Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba nesisa xa uxabana.
Phikisana kakhulu, kodwa soloko uyifumana.
Imitshato ayisoloko igudile, kodwa kufuneka ihlale ihloniphekile. Lumka xa uthetha ingqondo yakho kwaye ungathethi okanye wenze nantoni na engaphinde ifumaneke.
Yiba ngumphulaphuli olungileyo
Le ntlonipho intle yenza umahluko. Kubalulekile ukuqonda uluvo lweqabane lakho. Umtshato olungileyo usekwe kunxibelelwano oluhle kunye nokukwazi ukusombulula ingxaki ngaphandle kokuzisa iimpembelelo zangaphandle.
Nikelani ixesha lenu ekuqondaneni.
Ukwenza umtshato usebenze, sonke isibini kufuneka sifumane ukungafihlisi kunye nokunyaniseka ukuxoxa ngemiba emininzi. Kukuthintelwa iintetho eziba yingcambu yeengxaki ezininzi.
Cela uxolo ngokufanelekileyo
Akukhomntu ogqibelele. Yindalo yomntu ukwenza iimpazamo.
Kumtshato ophilileyo, ukuxolisa ngaphandle kokuvuma ukuba ayisiyonto yokukhathazeka.
Ukuthi uxolo akusoloko kuthetha ukuba ubuphosakele. Ingabhekisa ekubeni lusizi ngokuziphatha kwakho, amagama, kwaye mhlawumbi ukhwaza.
Ngamanye amaxesha kulungile ukuba uyavuma ukungavumelani kwaye uqhubeke. Amaqabane angazibeki ecaleni ii-egos zawo ecaleni abeka ubudlelwane bawo emngciphekweni, awenze ukuba abenolunya.
Yenza iqabane lakho lizive likhethekile
Ubudlelwane obuhlala ixesha elide abuzi ngaphandle kombingelelo omncinci.
Kuyimfuneko ukubeka iqabane lakho kuqala ngamanye amaxesha. Yazisa iqabane lakho ukuba ucinga ntoni kwaye ubakhathalele. Cwangcisa umhla wesidlo sangokuhlwa okanye ubothuse ukubenza bazive bebodwa kwaye befunwa.
Beka ukuthembana omnye komnye
Ithemba yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yobudlelwane obusempilweni nobanelisayo. Ukuthemba umntu kukhetho olwenzayo.
Kubalulekile ukuba amaqabane athembane njengoko isisiseko apho ubudlelwane bakho bunokuphila khona kwelona xesha linzima.
Nikezelana indawo yobuqu yokungabikho kokuthembana sesinye sezizathu zokuba ubudlelwane buqhekeka.
Khumbula amaxesha amnandi
Soloko ukhumbula ukuba iingxoxo zezokwexeshana.
Zama ukulibala imiba emibi yobudlelwane kwaye ukhumbule amaxesha akho amahle kunye. Ungangabinangomso nomntu omthandayo.
Naluphi na ubudlelwane budinga umonde kunye nomzamo. Akunakwenzeka ukuba usebenze ubudlelwane obunentsingiselo ngokungenasiphako. Ke ngoko, ncamathelanani ngamanye amaxesha amabi kwaye khumbulani ukuhlala yonke imihla yenu, njengoko ingowokugqibela.