Umxholo
- 1. Usafuna ukudlala macala onke - nangaphezulu
- 2. Amava adlulileyo- okuhle nokubi
- 3. Ngokwenene ucinga ukuba awunguye ogqibeleleyo
- 4. Isigubungelo esingqonge igama "umtshato"
- Ungajongana njani nendoda ngemicimbi yokuzibophelela
Masicinge ukuba ubuthandana okanye ujikeleza nomfana mva nje kodwa ngalo lonke ixesha uqala incoko malunga nokuthatha ubudlelwane ukuya kwinqanaba elilandelayo, akafuni ukuleyibhela. Ubudlelwane zizinto ezibuthathaka ezithatha iinzame ezininzi zokuhlangana kunye nokuqhubeka ngendlela ecacileyo negqibeleleyo. Unokuba unika konke onako kubudlelwane kubandakanya uthando, ukuthembana, kunye nokuxhasana kodwa leyo yinto oyinika ukusukela esiphelweni kodwa uthini ngendoda yakho?
Ngaba ubeka yonke intembelo efuneka kuwe?
Ngaba uyabonelela ngenkxaso apho ifunekayo kodwa angabinakho ukwabelana nayo yonke into?
Amadoda athatha ixesha ukuzibophelela kubudlelwane- njengeLOTI lexesha kuba banesabelo sabo samava. Ewe, sisiqalo nje esi ngoba zininzi izizathu abangatsho ngazo- "ndiyayenza" !!
Nazi izizathu zokuba kutheni amadoda ejongene nexesha elinzima lokuzibophelela kubudlelwane.
1. Usafuna ukudlala macala onke - nangaphezulu
Esi sesona sizathu sixhaphakileyo esiza kufikelela entlokweni yomfazi- lo mfo kufuneka abhanxe kwaye ajikeleze ukuzonwabisa. Yinto leyo enokuba sisizathu esinokubakho kwezinye iimeko ngokuqinisekileyo apho umfo efumana nje umcimbi wokudlula kunye nawe ukuze ufumane izibonelelo omnika zona.
Amaxesha amaninzi abafana bafuna ukonwaba ebomini babo kwaye yiyo loo nto bema ngaphandle kokuzibophelela. Ayingawo amadoda anemicimbi yokuzibophelela, ayisiyongo ngokwaneleyo.
2. Amava adlulileyo- okuhle nokubi
Wonke umntu unesabelo sakhe samava - kokulungileyo nokubi.
Ukuzibophelela kwamadoda angama-phobic ngabo banamava amabi kakhulu banokwenza nantoni na ukunqanda ukuphindaphinda isiqendu esifanayo.
Ndiyakhumbula umhlobo wam wayenomdla, enomsindo, enothando kakhulu nalo mfazi kwaye wayeceba ukutshata. Xa wayeqhubeka kwaye ecebisa kuye - akavumanga ebusweni. Wayekhathazekile kakhulu iiveki emva koko waqhubela phambili.
Kodwa wayengakulungelanga ukuba kubudlelwane obukhulu kodwa ke kwafika omnye umfazi owayemthanda kakhulu. Xa weza ngaphambili wathetha loo mazwi amyoli kuye - waqandusela engakwazi nokuthetha.
Esi sesinye sezizathu zokuba amadoda angazibopheleli kubudlelwane ngenxa yokuba esoyika ukujongana nokunye ukusilela ebomini kwaye ngenxa yoko, bayayeka ukufana.
Ukuzibophelela emadodeni ayoyika ukuba ubudlelwane babo buza kudibana nemeko efanayo nobudlelwane bangaphambili.
3. Ngokwenene ucinga ukuba awunguye ogqibeleleyo
Awunakho ukukhetha ngokuchanekileyo ngalo lonke ixesha-okokuqala. Xa kufikwa ekukhetheni ogqibeleleyo emtshatweni, kuya kufuneka uhambe ngemihla enamaphupha amabi, incoko enentsingiselo, impelaveki ende kunye nokunye okuninzi kunoko. Ngelo xesha elifanelekileyo, udibana nabantu abaninzi abangafanelekanga ukuba babizwe-abagqibeleleyo. Ukuzibophelela kwangoko kunokuba sisigqibo esibi kuwe (kule meko-emadodeni). Ke, bayayeka ukuyenza kwangethuba kakhulu.
Amadoda anemicimbi yokuzibophelela ngabo bangaze baceba ukuhlala phantsi naye nabani na kwaphela.
4. Isigubungelo esingqonge igama "umtshato"
Izizathu abafana bayesaba ukuzibophelela kungenxa yokuba umxholo womtshato ngamanye amaxesha usasazwa njengento edibanisa amaphiko akho kwaye ithathe inkululeko yakho. Akunjalo, umtshato ukunika ithuba lokuhlala kunye nokwakha ubomi kunye nomntu omthandayo kunye naye ofuna ukuba naye, ngokuzithandela.
Xa umfana esoyika ukuzibophelela imiqondiso ayibonisayo ibandakanya, ukuhlengahlengisa xa uthetha ngekamva, ukwabelana ngezicwangciso zedwa nawe ezingakubandakanyi, ukuthandabuza ukukwazisa kubahlobo nakwintsapho yakhe njalo njalo.
Ungajongana njani nendoda ngemicimbi yokuzibophelela
Ukuba uthatha ixesha elininzi kwaye akenzi, uyakuthanda kwaye uthatha ixesha lokuzithemba, edlala ngokuzama nokuzama ukukuqonda ngcono.
Kodwa, ukuba uziva ngokungathandabuzekiyo ukuba unemicimbi yokuzibophelela angazukuyifumana emva koko uyemka. Awunyanzelekanga ukuba ujongane nayo, ukuba ufuna ukuba nekamva nomntu kwaye umntu akafuni ukwenza kwa oko, emva koko wenza ezinye izicwangciso.