Umxholo
- Kutheni kubalulekile ukuxolelwa
- Khangela izinto ezintle
- Yiba novelwano nomnye
- Thetha ukufumana uncedo
- Iingcebiso ngendlela yokulungisa ingqumbo emtshatweni
Ukuxolela okwenyani kubudlelwane kunegalelo kubudlelwane obonwabisayo nobusempilweni. Uthando kunye nokuxolela kuyahambelana.
Kwabo bafuna iimpendulo ezithile kumbuzo, yintoni uxolelo kwaye kutheni kubalulekile, masijongane nayo-akukho mntu ugqibeleleyo. Uxolelo lumalunga nokubonisa ukuzimisela ukwamkela ukuba ungumntu kwaye unokwenzakala kwaye uzive wonzakele.
Kungenxa yoko le nto ukuxolela kuyinto ebalulekileyo yokwenza naluphi na ulwalamano lusempilweni kwaye luphumelele. Ababini abakholelwa ukuba amaqabane abo omphefumlo baya kulungela ubomi babo bexesha elizayo kunye nokulindelwa okufana neglavu kuludano olukhulu.
Ngaphantsi komgca, baya kuqonda ukuba omabini amaqabane azibopheleli ekwenzeni iimpazamo kwaye enzakalise omnye.
Ngaba oko kuthetha ukuba siyabancama? Ukuba ufuna ukonwabela umtshato ongapheliyo nomntu omthandayo noxabisekileyo, ke ukubethelela nokukhula kwisakhono sethu sokuxolela kubalulekile. Khumbula ukuba uthando kunye noxolelo zihamba kunye.
Oko kucela umbuzo, njani ukuyeka ukuhamba kwexesha elidlulileyo kunye nokuthembela kwakhona?
Kutheni kubalulekile ukuxolelwa
Ngaphambi kokuba sibonakalise indlela esinokuzixolela ngayo kubudlelwane okanye emtshatweni, masijonge ezinye zeziphumo zokubamba ingqumbo.
- Yongeza ubukrakra kunye nomsindo kulwalamano
- Isithintelo kumandla ethu okonwabela kunye nokuphila ngalo mzuzu
- Yongeza kuxinzelelo lwethu kunye noxinzelelo
- Uyasinqamla kwelinye
Kutheni kubalulekile ukuxolela?
“Ukuba awuxoleli, ungoyena uhlawula kakhulu”
Nangona singayazi yonke le nto kwaye sikholelwe ukuba kubalulekile ukuxolela nokuyeka, akunakuba lula kangako. Uninzi lwabantu, nkqu nabo bakulungeleyo ukuxolela kwaye balibale, abanalwazi malunga nendlela yokuxolela kwaye uqhubeke.
Ngaba oko kuthetha ukuba umntu makaqhubeke alibale, ahlale phantsi kwaye amelane nokuxhatshazwa? Akunjalongo noko! Nazi ezinye zeendlela kunye neendlela ezingqiniweyo eziza kukunceda uyeke uxolele umntu okukhohlisileyo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, konke malunga neembono.
Kweminye, indlela yokuxolela umntu ngokukopela ayingombuzo, njengoko begqiba kwelokuba babuphelise ubudlelwane ngenxa yokungathembeki kunye nomonakalo ngokwengqondo nangokweemvakalelo ophela isiphelo esizenzekelayo kulwalamano lwabo. Ukuxolela kubudlelwane kulula ukutsho kunokuba kwenziwe.
Kwabaninzi, ukukopela kubudlelwane yenye yezona ngxaki zinzima kwiqabane elingakopeliyo kunye nokhetho olunzima lokuhlala kubudlelwane neqabane elikhohlisayo.
Nangona inokuba yinto yokugqibela onokufuna ukuyenza, ngakumbi kwimeko apho uziva ukuba wenze impazamo enkulu, jonga ezinye zeziphumo ezilungileyo zeso siqendu.
Yeyiphi eyona nto ibalulekileyo yokuthatha kuwe?
Xa utshintsha eyakho imbono kwaye usebenzise loo mava ukuqokelela izifundo ezibalulekileyo kuwe, emva koko ufumane impendulo kumbuzo, indlela yokulixolela iqabane lakho eliqhathayo liya kuba lula.
Zama ukuzibeka ezicathulweni zeqabane lakho.
Zama ukuqonda ukuba badlule phi, okanye kutheni kusenokwenzeka ukuba bayenzile ngelixa beyeka ingqumbo emtshatweni. Hlaziya ukuba ukhe wenza impazamo efanayo kwixa elidlulileyo.
Zama okusemandleni akho ukucinga ngeempawu zabo ezintle; konke oku kunokukunceda uqonde ukuba yayingezonjongo zabo ukukwenza buhlungu. Mhlawumbi, bajongana nemicimbi yabo engenanto yakwenza nawe.
Elona cebiso lililo lendlela yokuxolela umntu oqhubeka ekukhathaza yile- musa ukumamela ilizwi lakho elingaphakathi eligxeka; zama uvelwano ngokusemandleni akho.
Ukuba isenzo esonayo seqabane besibuhlungu kakhulu, njengokukopela, ukuyeka ukuhamba kunye nokuqhubeka kobudlelwane kuba nzima kakhulu.
Kwiimeko ezinjalo, kungcono ukuthetha nomntu osondeleyo kuwe okanye ufumane uncedo lobuchwephesha ukuze uhambe kakuhle kwiimvakalelo zakho njengoko usilwa ngokuxolela kunye nokuyeka.
Ngale ndlela uya kuba nakho ukufumana inkxaso ekufaneleyo ukuze uzincede ngokwakho kule nkqubo kwaye wakhe izakhono ezifunekayo ekwenzeni ukuxolelwa.
Xa wenzakele, yonke into ofuna ukuyenza kukukhala okanye ukulila.
Ukuzama ukuxolela kunokuba yinto yokugqibela engqondweni yakho. Kodwa zinike ixesha kwaye uyazi ukuba kutheni kubalulekile ukukhupha uxinzelelo lwexesha elidlulileyo, uyeke uxolele- konke kulunge kuwe. Zama ezi ndlela zokuxolela emtshatweni kwaye ubone ukuba zikunceda njani ukuba ukhule njengomntu.
Jonga kwakhona:
Inzondo emtshatweni okanye nabuphi na ubudlelwane bexesha elide ngumbulali othuleyo osongela ukusinda kobudlelwane bakho.
Nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa zokwenza umtshato wakho usebenze ukuba ingqumbo iyonakalisa ubuhlobo bakho.
- SUkulawulwa kwe-elf kunye nolawulo lweemvakalelo zakho zibaluleke kakhulu xa ufuna ukuziqhelanisa noxolo kubudlelwane kwaye uphilise kumanxeba okungathembeki.
- Yazi loo nto uxolelo kubudlelwane alulingani nokuvumela isimilo esibi seqabane lakho. Ngokuchasene noko, ukuxolela kubudlelwane kubonisa ukukhula njengesibini, kunye nekamva elingenamsindo kunye nomsindo.
- Yeka ukurhoxa ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni, kwaye uthathe inyathelo eliya phambili lokwamkela uvelwano, uthando kunye nemikhwa yonxibelelwano olusempilweni kulwalamano lwakho.
- Sukuvumela ukungakhathali ukuba kukhule kwaye kunciphise umthwalo wakho. Njengokuqhubeka kokuxolelwa kubudlelwane, gxila ekuphiliseni ngexesha elifutshane ngokungazibambi iimvakalelo ezibuhlungu ixesha elide.
Ukubamba ingqumbo kubudlelwane kubonisa ukohlwaya wena hayi iqabane lakho kuphela. Ke, yeka ukubanjwa ziimvakalelo zakho ezingalunganga.
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, ukwamkela ukuba ubudlelwane bakho bunentanda, kwaye bunako ukonakalisa ubudlelwane bakho kubalulekile ukuze uqhelisele uxolelo kubudlelwane, kwaye uqale ngokutsha. Sebenzisa esi siqwengana sirhabaxa njengebhodi yesiseko yokwenza nzulu unxibelelwano lwakho neqabane lakho, kunye nokwakha izitayile zokuncamathisela okunempilo.