Umxholo
- Ukungonwabi ngokubanzi noMtshato
- Amathuba angakumbi okuKopela
- Ukuphuhlisa unxibelelwano kwi-Intanethi
- Uziva elilolo okanye engavakaliyo
Xa abantu besiva malunga nokuqhawuka komtshato ngenxa yokungathembeki, abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba umyeni unetyala. Ngabo bathambekele ekuphambukeni, akunjalo? Ngokwenyani abafazi bayakhohlisa, nabo, kwaye amanani kunye nezizathu zinokukumangalisa.
Ngokwezifundo ezininzi zamva nje, amadoda nabafazi bahle nyhani naxa kufikwa ekukhohliseni amaqabane abo. Ke kuyabonakala ukuba amadoda afumana i-rap embi xa kufikwa kumba wokungakwazi ukuhlala ethembekile. Ngokwenyani, yayiqhele ukuba yinyani, kodwa kwiminyaka yakutshanje, ngokutsho kweYunivesithi yaseIndiana eBloomington yophando, iipesenti ezili-19 zabasetyhini kunye neepesenti ezingama-23 zamadoda axeliwe ukuba ayakhohlisa ngexesha lomtshato wabo.
Kodwa mhlawumbi umdla ngakumbi zizizathu zokuba amaqabane akhohlise. Rhoqo kunoko, amadoda bebefuna ukonwabisa ngakumbi ngokwasemzimbeni / ngokwesondo ngaphandle komtshato. Kodwa abantu basetyhini, ngelixa befuna ukuyifumana loo nto, ayisiyiyo kuphela ejonge loo nto. Rhoqo banqwenela utshintsho lweemvakalelo. Ngokwezifundo ezahlukeneyo, Nazi ezinye izizathu zokuba kutheni abafazi bekopa:
Ukungonwabi ngokubanzi noMtshato
Inokuba yinto enkulu, okanye izinto nje ezincinci. Kodwa kule mihla, xa umfazi engonwabanga, ujonge ukonwaba kwenye indawo. Ukuba umntu osebenza naye okanye umhlobo oyindoda uyamhoya, unokuphambuka kuba loo mntu ugcwalisa ibhakethi lolonwabo ngeendlela amaqabane abo angazenzi.
UMaddy wayesazi ukuba umyeni wakhe ungumfana olungileyo, kodwa wayeziva ekhathazekile mihla le. “Besifuna izinto ezahlukeneyo. Ndicinga ukuba ekuqaleni sasinezimvo ezifanayo, kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha sahlukana. ” Ukungonwabi kwakhe ngokubanzi kwamkhokelela ekubuyiseleni ezandleni zelangatye elidala elalihlala ngakumbi ngendlela awayecinga ngayo. Kodwa kwavela, umyeni wakhe naye wayekopa, ke bavuma ukwahlukana.
Amathuba angakumbi okuKopela
Amadoda nabafazi ngokubanzi abakopeli ukuba bayazi ukuba baya kubanjwa; kodwa xa becinga ukuba abayi kubanjwa, ezo manani ziyatshintsha. Kwaye kwezi ntsuku, baninzi abantu ababhinqileyo, iintsapho ezineeshedyuli ezixakekileyo, ngaphandle kohambo lwedolophu, njl.
Xa uKate waxelela umyeni wakhe weminyaka emine ukuba uza kuqala ukuba neesemina ngokuhlwa ngeveki emsebenzini, akazange alinge. Oko kwavuleka ngolwesiBini ngorhatya ukuba achithe nomntu asebenza naye owayenolwalamano kunye naye. Umcimbi uqhubeke ngaphezulu konyaka ngaphambi kokuba axelele umyeni wakhe kwaye bawuqhawula umtshato.
Ukuphuhlisa unxibelelwano kwi-Intanethi
Imithombo yeendaba kwezentlalo kunye neendawo ezithandanayo zokwenza i-intanethi zenza ukuba kube lula ukuba ne-fling encinci kunye nesoka elidala okanye umntu omtsha. Abafazi ngokubanzi abekho kubusuku obunye bema nomntu abangamaziyo. Endaweni yokuba babe nokuthandana nomntu abadibene naye. Kule minyaka apho ukuthetha kwi-intanethi ngelangatye elidala, okanye ukuseka i-akhawunti yokukhohlisa kwi-intanethi kulula kakhulu, akumangalisi ukuba abafazi bahendwe.
U-Lacey wayesazi ukuba utshatele umntu ongalunganga kuye, kodwa wayengaqinisekanga ngento amakayenze ukwenza izinto zibengcono, kwaye wayesoyika ukumshiya. Uye wathetha iiyure nomhlobo omdala ofunda kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, emva kokumkhangela kwimithombo yeendaba. Yakhula ngakumbi kunobuhlobo, kwaye kobo budlelwane waqonda ukuba zinokwahluka njani izinto. Ngokukhawuleza wamshiya umyeni wakhe waya kumhlobo wakhe wamabanga aphakamileyo.
Uziva elilolo okanye engavakaliyo
Abasetyhini kufuneka bazive benxibelelana namaqabane abo ukuze bazalisekiswe. Ukuba amaqabane abo akekho emzimbeni (usebenza kakhulu), okanye akafumaneki ngokwasemphefumlweni okanye “akamfumani,” unokukhangela umntu onakho nonakho. Kungenzeka nokuba umyeni womfazi wayeqhele ukunxibelelana naye, kodwa ngokuhamba kwexesha loo ntlantsi inciphile. Intlantsi inokukhanya komnye umntu kwaye angalingeka ukuba angathembeki ukuze azive ngathi ulungile.
USara wayetshintsha ubomi bakhe bonke; Wayesele eza kuyeka kwaye aqale ishishini lakhe. Kwakuyiphupha lakhe lobomi. Kuphela, umyeni wakhe wayengamxhasi kwaye engakhange abonakale ekhathala ngamaphupha akhe. Waziva etyumke kakhulu, wayengasakwazi nokumjonga. Umthengi kaSarah wayevuya kakhulu ngezimvo zakhe kwaye kungekudala bakhulisa uqhagamshelo awayenqwenela uSara iminyaka. Babenemicimbi eqhubekayo de ishishini lakhe laphuma emhlabeni. Ekugqibeleni wayekile ukuthandana waza wahlala nomyeni wakhe, kuba waziva enetyala ngale nto ayenzileyo. Uziva ezalisekiswe ngakumbi kwishishini lakhe elitsha kwaye umyeni wakhe uyawaxhasa amaphupha akhe.