Umxholo
- Uqhawulo-mtshato alusoze lulula, kodwa singanceda
- Ukugcinwa komntwana ngelixa kuqhawulwa umtshato
- Imisebenzi eza nokugcinwa komntwana
- Imithetho yokugcinwa kwabantwana xa abantwana benempahla
Ukugcinwa komntwana ngexesha lokuqhawula umtshato kuhlala kungumbuzo. Ngapha koko, uqhawulo-mtshato lunokuphazamisa kakhulu kwaye luya kuba nefuthe elibi kusapho lonke. Kwaye xa kuziwa kuqhawulo mtshato ukuba unabantwana, le meko iya isiba nzima kwaye ibuhlungu.
Le yinkqubo ende xa uzama ukuba nelungelo lokugcina umntwana wakho. Kwezinye iimeko, imeko, 'ngubani ofumana ilungelo lomntwana kuqhawulo mtshato?' Kuthathe iminyaka ngaphambi kokuhlala ngokwahlukana.
Ekuqaleni, bobabini abazali banelungelo elifanayo lokugcina abantwana babo ukuba akukho sivumelwano kuloo ndawo. Kananjalo bobabini abazali banamalungelo okundwendwela kwaye nako, ngaphandle kwezichaso zomthetho.
Ke, bobabini abazali banelungelo elifanayo lokugcina ngaphambi nangexesha lenkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato.
Uqhawulo-mtshato alusoze lulula, kodwa singanceda
Kwiimeko apho uqhawulo-mtshato lungenakuphepheka kwaye luqinisekile ukwenzeka, kuyacetyiswa ukuba kufunwe isikhokelo sezomthetho, ufunde ngemithetho yokugcinwa kwabantwana, kwaye uqhubeke ngokufanayo ukumisela amalungelo okugcina umntwana.
Kodwa, ngaba ungafumana ukugcinwa komntwana ngelixa uqhawulo-mtshato lusalindile?
Xa abazali befaka uqhawulo-mtshato, kuxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kumntwana afuna ukuhlala naye ukuba umntwana uya esikolweni okanye uneminyaka eli-15 okanye eli-16 ubudala. Apha, umzali onamalungelo okugcina umntwana uya kuba ngowokuqala ukufumana umntwana kwaye kuya kufuneka athathe uxanduva lweemfuno zomntwana kubandakanya ezonyango, ezentlalo, ezemvakalelo, ezemali, ezemfundo, njl.
Nangona kunjalo, umzali, ongenalo ilungelo, uya kuba nelungelo lokufikelela kuphela.
Ukugcinwa komntwana ngelixa kuqhawulwa umtshato
Masiqonde ukuba ngubani ogcina abantwana ngelixa uqhawulo-mtshato lusalindelwe?
Ukugcinwa komntwana akuxhomekekanga kumvuzo womnye wabazali, nangona kunjalo, oku ngokuqinisekileyo, kubangela ikamva elikhuselekileyo nelikhuselekileyo lomntwana.
Amalungelo omama ongarholiyo, awazukubekwa tyala kodwa inkxaso yomntwana izakufunwa kutata ofumana umvuzo.
- Ukuba umntwana ukwiminyaka yobudala bethenda kwaye ufuna ukhathalelo olupheleleyo, kuya kukhethwa ilungelo lokugcina.
- Ukuba umntwana ufikelele kubudala bokuqonda, kuxhomekeke kwiminqweno yakhe yokuthatha izigqibo malunga nelungelo lokugcina kunye nelungelo lokufikelela.
Yiyo loo nto la manqaku mabini angasentla ebonisa ukuba ngubani omele athathelwe ingqalelo kumalungelo okugcina umntwana ngokuxhomekeke kubudala bakhe.
Kwimeko yokuqhawula umtshato bobabini, zombini ezi zinto zikhankanywe apha ngasentla ziya kuthathelwa ingqalelo. Kuphosakele ngokupheleleyo ukuthi utata kufuneka anikwe ilungelo lokugcina umntwana akuba efikelele kubudala bokuqonda.
Ukugcina umntwana ngokudibeneyo kunika ilungelo kubo bobabini abazali kodwa ngamandla ahlukeneyo. Umzali uya kunikwa ilungelo lokugcina umntwana ngelixa omnye umzali eya kuthi athathwe njengoyena mgcini oyintloko kwimeko yolondolozo lwendibaniselwano.
Ubunzulu bokufikelela kumzali ongamgcinanga umntwana kunokuba yimihla ngemihla, ngeveki, ngenyanga okanye kwiveki ezimbini. Kuyafana nokufikelela ebusuku okanye ukufikelela kwemini. Oku kungonyuka kancinci kancinci kwaye kunokubandakanya iintsuku ezizodwa, iholide okanye iimpelaveki.
Kuyafana nokufikelela simahla ngaphandle kokucwangciswa; Nangona kunjalo, oku kubandakanya ilungelo lomzali ongamgcinanga umntwana kwimicimbi yesikolo efana ne-PTM, imisebenzi yonyaka njl.
Ukuba umzali onelungelo lokufikelela kwaye ufuna ukugcina umntwana kangangeentsuku ezithile (kangangeveki okanye ezimbini), umzali ongamgcinanga umntwana kufuneka athathe ii-odolo ezivela kwinkundla ukuya kweso siphumo ngokuxhomekeke kukuqondana.
Imisebenzi eza nokugcinwa komntwana
Ilungelo lokugcina umntwana liya kuthwala noxanduva lomzali lokusebenzisa uxanduva oluthile lomntwana. Lo msebenzi ubalulekile kubazali nelungelo lokugcina. Omabini la maqela angavumelana kuso nasiphi na isixa okanye intlawulo ngezigaba ezahlukeneyo zemfundo yomntwana okanye inkcitho yenyanga nenyanga efunekayo emntwaneni, ngokwesivumelwano.
Ngoku, esi sixa sinokuba yiyo nantoni na, kodwa kufuneka sigubungele iindleko eziqhelekileyo ezifunekayo ukuze siphile ubomi kubandakanya iimfuno zentlalo, zonyango kunye nezentlalo.
Imithetho yokugcinwa kwabantwana xa abantwana benempahla
Ukuba umntwana unepropathi ethile egameni lakhe okanye komnye wabazali unokuhlawulwa njengesixa-mali esinokuhlengahlengiswa njengeendleko zesondlo senyanga.
Ukuba kukho utyalomali egameni lomntwana olunokubakho ngokwaneleyo kwimbuyekezo enkulu kwixa elizayo (i-inshurensi kunye nemigaqo-nkqubo yezemfundo), nayo inokuthathelwa ingqalelo. Ngaphaya koko, nayiphi na imeko kaxakeka (egubungela iimeko zonyango) nayo iya kuthwala uxanduva ngelixa kugcinwa ilungelo lokugcina umntwana.
Ukuthi imali enikwe ngegama lomntwana ngeendleko zakhe iya kusetyenziswa gwenxa ngumzali ogcina umntwana akufuneki ithathelwe ingqalelo kuthintelo lwendawo yokuhlala efanelekileyo.
Inkundla iya kuba ligunya, kwaye iya kuba ngumgcini wokugqibela. Yonke imithetho / amalungelo, amagama ogcino njlnjl aya kukhuselwa yinkundla kuphela. Zonke izigqibo ziya kuqalwa 'kumdla womntwana.' Intlalontle yomntwana iya kuthathwa njengeyona nto iphambili.