Umxholo
- Ubudlelwane nabantu abathandanayo
- Iipateni zobudlelwane beNarcissistic
- 2. AbakwaNarcissist bayalawula kwaye banobuqhetseba
- 3. IiNarcissist ziyingozi
- 4. I-Narcissists iya kuyithoba isidima i-Ex
Okwangoku umntu uziva etsala nomntu wesini esahlukileyo (ngamanye amaxesha abesini esifanayo, kodwa yenye into), baphupha ngothando, ukuthandana, kunye nobudlelwane.
Njengomsila wasentsomini othengiselwe abantwana, iNkosana neNkosazana bayadibana, bathandane, kwaye baphile bonwabile ngonaphakade. Ngelishwa, ubomi bukude nayo. Ngamanye amaxesha uthando alufuneki, kwaye kukho amaxesha enkosana nenkosazana, abangahlangani konke konke.
Kukho amaxesha apho omnye wabo ephela etshata irhamncwa.
Ubudlelwane nabantu abathandanayo
I-1% yabemi ihlupheke ngenxa yeNarcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) ngokothelekelelo oluthile. Eli nani linokuvakala ngathi linani elincinci, kodwa ukuba ucinga nyani ngalo, ngumntu omnye kwabali-100. Kwilizwe lezigidi ezingama-300, ngabantu abazizigidi ezi-3.
Isikhokelo soncedo sichonga iimpawu kunye neempawu ze-NPD. Ukuchonga ubukho babo kubudlelwane, linyathelo lokuqala elicacileyo lokuqonda umntu one-NPD.
- Ingqondo enkulu yokuzixabisa
- Ubuncwane bobungangamsha
- Ufuna ukungqinisisa rhoqo kunye nelungelo
- Baxhaphaze kwaye baxhaphaze abanye
I-Narcissists inenguqu engaphezulu kokuzixabisa kwabo.
Kuba abantu abaninzi abaphumelele ngokwenyani njengama-rockstars, oosozigidigidi, kunye neembaleki zeenkwenkwezi benza ngendlela efanayo, kwenza ukuba umntu ophumeleleyo enze into eluntwini. Umahluko kukuba abo bantu baphumeleleyo banempumelelo yokwenyani kwaye inokungqinwa ngempumelelo ngelixa ii-narcissists zizi piggyback kuphela kwabanye.
Abantu abaninzi bakhohlisiwe sesi senzo.
I-Narcissists ngamaxoki e-pathological kwaye ngenxa yoko, qhubeka nokwakha ubungqina obubonakalayo bokuxhasa ubumnandi babo. Kananjalo, batsala amaqabane akholelwa ukuba “babambisa” kakuhle.
Iipateni zobudlelwane beNarcissistic
Abantu abane-NPD badlula kubudlelwane ngendlela efanayo, baya kushushu baye kutshisa ngokufudumeleyo, baye kuthi ga kubunzulu besihogo esishushu.
1. AmaNarcissist athandana ngokugqithileyo
Ezothando zikhona okanye ubuncinci, ekuqaleni kobudlelwane. AbakwaNarcissists baya emva kwento abayifunayo ngothando. Ingqondo yabo yelungelo ayiyi kubavumela ukuba bathathe into abayithatha njengepropathi yabo (nokuba ayisiyiyo).
Ukuba ufumene isiphelo sokuqwalaselwa, kunokubonakala ngathi kuthandana kakhulu.
Liliphupha lakhe wonke umntu ukudibana neqabane lakhe elikhulu kunobomi (okanye oziphethe ngalo), kwaye ubanike ingqwalaselo yabo iphelele ngokungathi akukho nto ibaluleke ngakumbi emhlabeni. Kungenxa yokuba kukho ingxaki kwihlabathi eliyiphupha kwihlabathi le-narcissist.
Ingxaki bakholelwa ukuba bangabakho, kodwa bayazi ezantsi ngaphakathi ukuba abanayo. Baya kuthi emva koko basebenzise onke amaqhinga abo ukukufumana ngokungathi ungumvuzo oza kuwinwa.
2. AbakwaNarcissist bayalawula kwaye banobuqhetseba
Nje ukuba uzinikele kubo, izinto ziyatshintsha. Ngelo xesha, abasakuboni njengentaba ekufuneka yoyisiwe, kodwa likhoboka kubo. Bayazi ukuba akufezekanga, kwaye baya kuqalisa ukukuxonxa babe “likhoboka” labo eligqibeleleyo.
Zonke iipateni zothando oluthandayo zilandela le template ngokungathi bayifunde kwincwadi ethile kwindawo ethile.
Izakuqala ngezicelo ezichuliweyo zokuba amaqabane abo alandele njengokutshintsha kweenwele, impahla, indlela yokuthetha, njl.
Uninzi lwamaqabane bazimisele ukwenza utshintsho oluncinci olukhawulezileyo ukuze babakholise kwaye bathintele ubudlelwane ukuba bungahlukani.
Emva kwelo nqanaba, baya kuqala ukukuhlukanisa nabahlobo bakho, usapho, nayo yonke into oyithandayo, kubandakanya nezinto ozithandayo. Bakholelwa ukuba bangababo kwaye banokukusebenzisa / bakubumbe ngendlela abafuna ngayo. Bayazi nokuba impembelelo yangaphandle iya kuphazamisa "iprojekthi yabo yokulingisa iqabane" kwaye baya kuthi ngokungathandabuzekiyo bahlazise wonke umntu ngokuthe chu, kodwa ngobundlongondlongo.
Njengamaqabane, le patheni yobudlelwane bokuziphatha kakubi iqala ukukhulisa iintanda kumanyano lwabo njengenyaniso ephikisana nefantasy yabo. Amanye amaqabane anobuntu obomeleleyo ayaluchasa olo hlobo lonyango. Imilo yayiya kuhlala isenzeka njengoko i-narcissist izama ukulwa ukubuyela kubo.
Okukhona amaqabane abo exhathisa, kokukhona i-narcissist, engaboyiswanga kakhulu, ilwa nayo.
Le patheni yobudlelwane bokuziphatha okuhle iya kungena kwisigaba esitsha nesiyingozi.
3. IiNarcissist ziyingozi
Baza kuqala ukusebenzisa iindlela ezifihlakeleyo ukuze baphinde bakwazi ukulawula imeko. Kuya kuqala ngokusongela, ukunyanzelisa nokunyanzelisa.Ukuba umba awusombululekanga emva koko, i-narcissist iya kuhamba nezinye zezoyikiso kwaye inokufumana umzimba ngexesha lempikiswano nolunye ungquzulwano.
Ngumbono olungileyo ukwazisa abahlobo kunye nosapho oluthembekileyo imeko yokhuseleko lwakho.
Kuyazisola xa unqamle amaqhina okanye ubachasile abahlobo bakho kunye nosapho kwisigaba esedlule. Nangona kunjalo, uninzi lwabo abakukhathalele ngokwenene luyakuthatha kwaye bakukhusele.
Ungalibali ukucela uxolo.
I-Narcissist iyazi ukuba okwangoku, ubudlelwane buphelile kwaye buza kuthatha amanyathelo ukunciphisa umonakalo kwisiphelo sabo kunye nokwandisa iqabane labo. Musa ukumangaliswa xa beqhatha nomnye umntu, kubandakanya nabantu abasondeleyo kuwe ngeli xesha. Ukuba kunjalo, banqwenelele okuhle kodwa.
Baya kuba namava afanayo olwalamano lobuhlobo.
4. I-Narcissists iya kuyithoba isidima i-Ex
Okwangoku ubudlelwane buhlukana nangona bungagqitywanga ngokusesikweni, iNarcissist iya kukuphatha njengenkunkuma elahliweyo.
Musa ukumangaliswa ukuba ezona mfihlo zakho zinzulu zimnyama zisasazeka kwi-Intanethi ukuze wonke umntu azibone. Baza kuzama ukutshabalalisa isiqu sakho. Baza kuhlasela izinto zakho zobuqu, umsebenzi wakho, olunye ulwalamano kunye nabahlobo kunye nosapho.
Iindlela ziyahluka ukusuka komnye umntu ukuya komnye, kodwa zonke ziya kuzama ukukuhlisa isidima, ukuze zikunike ityala xa uthe wahlukana. Sukungathembeki ngaphandle kokuqhekeka ngokusemthethweni neqabane lakho.
Bayakuyinyusa loo nto ngesiphumo esiphezulu.
Kwilizwe elifanelekileyo, ubudlelwane buya kuphela kwaye i-narcissist ifumane ithagethi entsha kwaye ipateni efanayo yobudlelwane be-narcissistic iya kuqala kwakhona.
Indlela ababaphatha ngayo abantu ababaphethe kakubi kunokuthelekiswa nendlela umntu anokuyiphatha ngayo ikhondom esele isetyenzisiwe. Banokuyithatha njengemnandi ngelixa iqhubeka, kodwa ngoku sisiqwenga senkunkuma.
Kukho umahluko othile wokuba i-narcissists ayithatheli isidima se-ex yabo, kodwa endaweni yoko, ibaphakamise njengemodeli engenakufikeleleka kwiqabane labo langoku lokulingisa, nokuba liphelela njani kwiqabane elo.
Kuthamsanqa ukuba ekugqibeleni kugqityiwe. Ususo oluhle.