Umxholo
- 1. Ubuza izizathu zakho ngalo lonke ixesha
- 2. Ugcina amanqaku
- 3. Ukholelwa ekubeni uhlala une-ajenda efihliweyo
- 4. Ukuphikisana phantse kube yinto yokuzikhusela endaweni yokusombulula iingxaki
- 5. Usoloko usengxakini ngokungamncomi okanye ukumbulela
- 6. Zininzi izinto azicingayo ezenziweyo kwicala lakhe ekufuneka uzazi”
- 7. Ufuna ukwazi ngayo yonke incoko okanye umyalezo owufumanayo
- 8. Uba nomona kakhulu ngexesha olichitha kunye okanye uncokola nabahlobo bakho abasenyongweni
- 9. Uhlala elungile kwaye ubonakala ekuvuyela ukungqina ukuba awuchananga
Ukuhlala nendoda engazithembanga ayingomsebenzi onzima nje kuphela; inokuba nefuthe elibi kwimpilo yakho nakwimpilo yeemvakalelo. Ungasokola nengcinga yendlela yokujongana nokungazithembi kunye nendlela yokuthanda indoda engazithembanga. Kukho izinto ezimbalwa ezoyisayo ngokweemvakalelo ngaphandle kokwazi ukuba uthembekile, uthembekile, ukhathalele kwaye ukhuthazekile; Ukanti unendoda engazithembanga ehlala ikrokrela, ingathembi kwaye kunqabile ukuba iyeke ukubuza uninzi lwezenzo kunye neenjongo zakho. Abasetyhini abaninzi basebenza nzima kakhulu ukutsiba ngehupula ukugcina abayeni babo bonwabile. Ngexesha elithile, umsebenzi wokujongana nokuziphatha kwendoda engakhuselekanga iba nzima kakhulu. Xa oku kusenzeka kwaye umfazi ekugqibeleni uyisiphelo sentambo yakhe; ngamanye amaxesha uyakwazisa ukuba ugqibile ukuzama, ukuba amabango makhulu kakhulu kwaye ayinamsebenzi nokuba uzama kangakanani, uhlala efumana indlela entsha angayifikeleliyo. Nazi ezinye zeempawu zomyeni ongazithembanga ezibonisa ukuba uhlala nendoda engazithembanga kakhulu inokubandakanya:
1. Ubuza izizathu zakho ngalo lonke ixesha
Uyazi ukuba usebenza nzima ukhathalela usapho lwakho kunye nendoda yakho kwaye kunqabile ukuba ube nexesha lokuzinakekela okanye wenze into ongathanda ukuyenza. Nokuba usebenza nzima kangakanani na kwizinto, usafumana iindlela zokubuza iinjongo zakho kwaye abonakalise ukuthandabuza ukuba uyakhathala njengokuba usitsho.
Olu lolunye lweempawu ezibengezelayo zendoda engazithembanga. Kuya kufuneka ufunde indlela yokujongana nendoda engazithembanga.
2. Ugcina amanqaku
Ufumanisa ukuba akaze alibale ixesha lokuba ukwazi ukuphuma nabahlobo bakho okanye uyeke utyelele umama wakho, uphawu olucacileyo lokuba utshatile kumyeni ongazithembanga. Ubalisa kuwe amaxesha amaninzi ukuba uphume okanye ubaleke kangakanani xa kuthelekiswa nokuba kukangaphi ekwazile ukwenza njalo. Ukuba uphuma rhoqo, ucinga ukuba uninzi lokuphuma kwakhe akubalanga kodwa olwakho luhlala lubalulekile.
Kulungile! Uboshwe kwiqabane elingakhuselekanga.
3. Ukholelwa ekubeni uhlala une-ajenda efihliweyo
Xa utshatele kwindoda engakhuselekanga, uya kuzifumanisa ujongene namathandabuzo angenasiseko kunye nezityholo eziphoswa endleleni yakho.
Umzekelo -
Kubonakala ngathi nokuba usebenza nzima kangakanani ekwenzeni umsebenzi wakho ekhaya kwaye unakekele nosapho lwakho, uhlala ekuthandabuza iinjongo zakho. Ucinga ukuba wenza izinto kuba ufuna into kuye okanye uziva ukuba kufuneka wenze "uxanduva" lwakho. Ugqibela ngokuziva uphulukene nalo lonke uvuyo olubangelwa kukukhathalela usapho lwakho.
Ukuziphatha okunetyhefu okunje kwiqabane elingakhuselekanga kuphelisa ubudlelwane. Ukujongana nomyeni ongazithembanga kunzima, kodwa akunakwenzeka. Kuya kufuneka ufumane iindlela zokuthetha nomntu ongaqinisekanga ngobuchule kwaye uzame ukuqiqa naye kangangoko.
4. Ukuphikisana phantse kube yinto yokuzikhusela endaweni yokusombulula iingxaki
Xa usizisa ngesihloko ukuzama ukusombulula ingxaki ukuze uyifumane ngasemva kwenu nobabini, uyisebenzisa njengeqonga lokunibetha kwaye aqhubekeka aqhubekise inqaku lakhe, nokuba uzama kangakanani na ukufumana isisombululo. Oku kuqhelekile kumyeni ongazithembanga.
5. Usoloko usengxakini ngokungamncomi okanye ukumbulela
Mhlawumbi nobabini niya kwisiganeko esikhethekileyo; angene egumbini anincome malunga nendlela enibukeka ngayo, kwaye nangaphambi kokuba nibe nethuba lokumncoma, nisengxakini yokungakwenzi oko. Ukuba awumbuleli kwangoko ngento ayenzileyo, ngekhe uve isiphelo sayo. Uya kukwazisa ukuba unamathuba amaninzi okuncoma okanye ukumbulela; kodwa njengokuba ukhumbula imeko, uyazi ukuba awuzange ube nethuba lokwenza njalo ngaphambi kokuba uhlaselwe.
Ewe! Ukujongana nendoda engazithembanga kuya kusiba nzima suku ngalunye lokudlula.
6. Zininzi izinto azicingayo ezenziweyo kwicala lakhe ekufuneka uzazi”
Ukutshata nendoda engakhuselekanga kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ube usazi yonke into.
Uhlala enomsindo kuba ungakhange uyibambe indlela ebeziva ngayo okanye into ebeyifuna. Usenokuphendula ngokumazisa ukuba awukwazi ukufunda ingqondo yakhe, kodwa uyakuphendula ngokuthi okoko benisoloko nikunye, kwaye amaxesha amaninzi njengoko oku kwenzekile ngaphambili- “kufuneka uyazi lento . ”
7. Ufuna ukwazi ngayo yonke incoko okanye umyalezo owufumanayo
Ufumanisa ukuba ngaphambi kokuba ube nesivakalisi esinye ekuphenduleni umnxeba, ufuna ukwazi ukuba uthetha nabani. Akanakuyimela ukuba ufumana isicatshulwa kwaye usiphendule xa engazi ukuba ngubani kwaye ingantoni le ncoko.
8. Uba nomona kakhulu ngexesha olichitha kunye okanye uncokola nabahlobo bakho abasenyongweni
Ungayiqinisekisa njani indoda engakhuselekanga? Ukutshata nendoda engakhuselekanga kukwathetha ukuba kufuneka umqinisekise rhoqo ukuba umbeka ngaphezu kwabo bonke abantu.
Uyazi ukuba ubeka phambili kuye kunye nolwalamano lwakho kunye kwaye unomdla kwizinto zakhe zokukhathazeka malunga nexesha olichitha nabahlobo bakho abasondeleyo. Ucutha ixesha olichitha nabahlobo bakho kwaye unciphisa incoko kunye nokuthumela imiyalezo nabo; kodwa usaphikisana nawe kwaye unyanzelisa ukuba lixesha elininzi kakhulu nabo, kwaye ubakhathalele ngaphezu kokuba umkhathalele.
9. Uhlala elungile kwaye ubonakala ekuvuyela ukungqina ukuba awuchananga
Naxa usenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuphepha impikiswano naye, kubonakala ngathi ufumana izinto ozenzileyo okanye ubonise ubuxoki ekucingeni kwakho. Ke, nokuba ungaphendula uthini, ungena engxakini enkulu kunye naye.
Ukuba uhlala nendoda engakhuselekanga kwaye ingxaki ayilungiswa, ekugqibeleni uza kuphelelwa yirhasi kubudlelwane. Unokufikelela kwinqanaba apho ufuna ukuphuma kunye nokuba loluphi na uncedo okanye utshintsho azimisele ukuluzama. Ngaphambi kokuba ufike kwelo nqanaba, yenza umsebenzi othile ukomeleza isisombululo sakho kunye nokuzithemba kwakho emva koko ugqibe ngemida enzima kwaye ekhawulezayo ozibekele yona ukuze ubeke utshintsho lwenene kubudlelwane.
Kwakhona funda ukuba ungajongana njani nendoda engazithembanga njenge pro.