Umxholo
- Xa izibini zilindile, zonyusa amanqanaba okusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo
- Ukuba ufuna iqabane lakho ukuba libe yi-BFF yakho, linda ulalane
- Ulwalamano lwakho nabazala bakho bangomso lungcono
- Akufanele ukhathazeke ngokukhulelwa okanye ii-STD
- Ukwabelana ngesondo emva komtshato yinkqubo entle yokufunda
- Oko abanye abafazi babethetha ngokulinda de umtshato:
Ukulinda de umtshato ubelane ngesondo kubonakala kungathandeki kwimeko yanamhlanje yesini evulekileyo, iminqweno, kunye nobudlelwane obujolise kwezesondo. Ewe, abo balindayo bambalwa abancinci: i-89.1% yabasetyhini bayabelana ngesondo ngaphambi kokuba batshate, beshiya kuphela iipesenti ezili-10 zabasetyhini abangabelani ngesondo xa befika esibingelelweni. "INtombi Enyulu" kunye "Enyulu" kuvakala njengamagama aphuma kwiminyaka yoo-1950, ngaphandle kwaxa esetyenziswa ziinkolo ezithile ezisaqhubeka nokuwaxabisa loo mazwe.
Masibuye umva kumaxabiso akhoyo, lawo asixelelayo ukuba thina kufanele ukuba neentlobano zesini ngaphambi komtshato ukuze "sikubone esikufumanayo", kwaye ujonge ezinye zeenzuzo ezithile zokulinda ukuthi "ndiyayenza" ngaphambi kokuba sibe nolwalamano lomzimba neqabane lethu.
Xa izibini zilindile, zonyusa amanqanaba okusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo
Ukwenza uthando luhlobo lonxibelelwano, ngokuqinisekileyo. Kuluntu lwethu lwangoku, kubonakala ngathi yinxalenye eyamkelekileyo yokuthandana, kwanangaphambi kobudlelwane bokuthandana. Kodwa xa ubudlelwane bujolise kakhulu kwinkalo yomzimba, eyenzekayo ngenxa yokuba ulonwabo ngokwesondo luba yinjongo, into ehlala ithatha ukubuyela umva kukufunda ezinye iindlela zokudibanisa neqabane lakho.
Abantu abalinda de batshate bayabona ukuba ubudlelwane babo ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo buphuhla ngakumbi ebutsheni bobudlelwane ngaphandle kwesilingo sesini.
Imihla yabo bayichitha bencokola, besabelana, kwaye besakha olunye uhlobo lokusondelana, oluthi, xa sele lutshatile kwaye lwabelana ngesondo, lwenze ukuba ukusondelelana ngokomzimba kube kukhulu kwaye kunelise. Bayamazi ngokwenyani umntu abathandana naye, kuba banexesha elaneleyo lokwenza unxibelelwano olomeleleyo kunye nabo.
Ukuba ufuna iqabane lakho ukuba libe yi-BFF yakho, linda ulalane
Ngaphandle kwento yokwabelana ngesondo kubudlelwane bakho bangaphambi komtshato, unexesha lokukhulisa ubuhlobo obunobutyebi, obupheleleyo nobunentsingiselo kunye neqabane lakho elizayo.
Uthandile okanye ungathandi, ukusondelana ngesondo kunokusebenza njengokuphazamisa kwaye kube yinto ephambili ekujongeni umsebenzi wakho wokuthandana.
Unokuphela uchitha ixesha elininzi ngokuthe tyaba kunokuba ume nkqo kwaye unethuba elincinci kwezo ncoko zinde, zinzulu ezinceda ekwakheni ubuhlobo bokwenyani nobunyulu.
Ulwalamano lwakho nabazala bakho bangomso lungcono
Kula maxesha anamhlanje, abasebukhweni bakho banokuba nezimo ezingathandekiyo xa besazi ukuba umntwana wabo, nokuba sele ekhulile, uyabelana ngesondo. Ukugcina isondo de umtshato ukhulule kule nto, kwaye unokuchitha ixesha nabazali bakho bezezimali ngaphandle kokuziva unetyala okanye kufuneka ubufihle izinto.
Amaxesha akho kunye aya kuba simahla nakweyiphi na imbonakalo emnyama okanye imibuzo engathandekiyo evela kubo.
Ukubamba iintlobano zesini de umtshato ukhulule ekubeni uzimele, okanye uze nezizathu zokuba ubuphi kwaye wenzani. Ungabonwabela ubukhweni bakho ngesazela esicocekileyo.
Akufanele ukhathazeke ngokukhulelwa okanye ii-STD
Kuba wena neqabane lakho nivumile ukulinda de umtshato ulale kunye, awunyanzelekanga ukuba uzikhathaze ngolawulo lokuzalwa (okanye ukusilela kwayo), iimvavanyo zokukhulelwa, izifo ezidluliselwa ngeentlobano zesini kunye naluphi na uvavanyo kwabo, kunye ezahlukeneyo zeminye imiba engafunekiyo eziswa ngaphambi kokutshata.
Ukwabelana ngesondo emva komtshato yinkqubo entle yokufunda
Abantu abathandanayo abalinda de batshate ukuba babelane ngesondo bayavuma ukuya kwinani elithile lokuxakaniseka nokungakhululeki xa befika ekugqibeleni benze isenzo.
Kodwa ngenxa yokuba befunda imizimba yabanye kwimeko apho benze ukhetho oluqinisekileyo lokuhlonipha, nakuphi na ukungonwabi, uluvo lweentloni okanye ukungazi malunga nokuya apho kungesosivumelwano.
Ijika lokufunda komnye nomnye lomzimba kunye nolonwabo yinto entle, kwaye bayayilandela kwindawo ekhuselekileyo nekhuselekileyo kulwalamano lwabo lomtshato. Ke kuthekani ukuba ixesha lokuqala ayilohambo oluya kwiparadesi? Banabo bonke ubomi babo ukufumanisa oku ... kwaye ihlala ithatha kuphela imizamo embalwa yokufumana ukuxhonywa kwayo.
Oko abanye abafazi babethetha ngokulinda de umtshato:
“Ngokufuthi, izibini ezitshatileyo namhlanje zingena kwiintlobano zesini ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo. Kodwa xa kuziwa koluphi uhlobo lobudlelwane olufunayo ekugqibeleni, bendifuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba umyeni wam uyandithanda sonke, ii-quirks zam, imikhwa, yonke into, njl.
Ndicinga ukuba xa uthandana nomntu ixesha elide ngokwaneleyo ukuze wazi oyena mntu, mhlawumbi unokuphinda-phinda ukuba awugcini ubudlelwane ngonaphakade. Uninzi lwabantu bonke luya kukhula luthandane ngesondo, awudingi ukuba "uzame umfana" ngaphambi kokuthatha isigqibo sokutshata naye. Qiniseka ukuba ufumana umntu olungileyo kwaye nokuba yeyiphi na indlela yakhe yokwenza uthando, izakulunga. ” URebecca, oneminyaka engama-23.
“Ewe, bendilinde umtshato ngaphambi kokuba ndilale nomyeni wam. Kwam kwakubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina ubuntombi bam kwindoda endiyithandayo ngentliziyo yam yonke, kwaye ukuba neentlobano zesini ngobusuku bomtshato wam okokuqala yayiyibhonasi. Kwakulilungelo ukumnika ubuntombi bam. Ndatshata ndineminyaka engama-23 ubudala. Ndiyazingca ngokugcina ubuntombi bam nditshatile. Ibikukukhetha kwam ngabom, ngabom. ” -Christina, oneminyaka engama-25.
“Ukwabelana ngesondo luhambo lokufunda kuye wonke umntu, kwaye ukuba nobabini nisondela kuzo njengeentombi, kubaluleke ngakumbi kuba nifunda kunye! Kum, isini asisosiseko somtshato olungileyo, nangona sisibonelelo esihle. ” -Carmen, 27.