Umxholo
- 1. Ixesha lokuzikhulisa nokuziguqula
- 2. Ingeniso yosapho eyongeziweyo kunye nomthwalo ekwabelwana ngawo woxanduva lwezezimali
- 3. Kungenxa yokuba uyayithanda
- 4. Uza nezakhono zoomama kwitafile yobungcali
- 1. Chaza ukhetho lomsebenzi
- 2. Yakha inkqubo yenkxaso
- 3.Unxibelelwano ekwabelwana ngalo neqabane lakho
Ukutyhila kwindima yakho njengomama, apho ungumkhathaleli kunye nomondli womntwana wakho, ngamava azalisayo. Njengokuhlala ekhaya mama, ubonakalisa inyamezelo ekujongeni uxanduva lwemihla ngemihla lokuba ngumama, kodwa ukuba ngumama obhiyozelwayo akufuneki kufane nomcimbi wobomi bakho. Ukuba ubucinga ngokubuyela emsebenzini emva kwexesha uthatha ixesha ukuqala usapho, ungavumeli ukungazithembi kujonge inkqubela phambili yomsebenzi wakho. Isimo sengqondo esichanekileyo kunye nesicwangciso esifanelekileyo sokuthatha amanyathelo ziya kuba kukutshintsha okupheleleyo komdlalo kuwe ekuqhubekeni ngempumelelo kwintloko yomsebenzi okhulayo.
Kungenxa yoko le nto ingumbono olungileyo wokuqhubeka nokusebenza, kunye neendlela zokuhlangabezana nemiceli mngeni yokubuyela ezinyaweni zakho emva kokuba ngumama.
Ityala lesizathu sokuba ufanele ukusebenza
1. Ixesha lokuzikhulisa nokuziguqula
Kangangoko ukonwabela ukuba ngumama, kubalulekile ukwakha ikhondo lomsebenzi elikuvumela ukuba wenze isazisi esizimeleyo kwimibutho yabucala. Kukho uluvo lokuxhotyiswa kunye nokuphuculwa kwengqondo yokuzixabisa okuza nokuba uzimele geqe ngokwezemali, ubuchule kwaye ucebise inkqubo yakho yokucinga. Uxhotyiswa ngezakhono zobomi ezingcono kumanqanaba okwenza izigqibo, uthethathethwano, ezemali kunye nolawulo lwexesha. Ufunda nokuba uxabise ngakumbi abantu abakungqongileyo, abathi baququzelele inguqu egudileyo kubomi bakho bobungcali.
2. Ingeniso yosapho eyongeziweyo kunye nomthwalo ekwabelwana ngawo woxanduva lwezezimali
Ngokongezwa okuthandekayo kusapho lwakho, ngoku unongeze iindleko zokukhulisa umntwana wakho, ukuchitha kwizinto eziluncedo ekukhuliseni umntwana wakho ngokusempilweni- iindleko zonyango, ifanitshala, izixhobo, iimpahla, ifomula kunye nezinye iimfuno zokhathalelo lomntwana.
Ngelixa iindleko zikhuphuka, umvuzo, ukuba awuzange wongezwe ngomnye, ungabeka uxinizelelo kwiqabane lakho kwaye nakwibhola ekhephu ibuyele umva kulonwabo lomtshato. Iqabane lakho lizama konke okusemandleni ukubonelela ngokusemandleni alo kwaye wenze uxolo ngokunciphisa ezinye zeendleko, ozifumanise ukuba kukuzonwabisa, kwaye akubalulekanga ekuzifumaneni.
Kodwa ukusaphula i-bank ayisiyonto inokukhetha kwaye ke ukuba ngumfel'ukholo ubomi bakho bonke, ngokucacileyo, eyona nto inokukunceda kukuba ube negalelo elifanelekileyo kwingeniso yosapho kunye nakwindlela yokuphila ephucukileyo. Olu, nangona kunjalo, lubizo lobuqu kwaye kufuneka luvele kwindawo yokuvuma kunye nokuqonda.
3. Kungenxa yokuba uyayithanda
Uyakonwabela ukusebenza, uyakholelwa kubuchule bakho kwaye awuzange uzibambe ekuthabatheni amandla akho okwenyani. Ufuna ukufunda nokukhula, kwaye ungagcini nje ngokugcina ubukrelekrele, ulwazi kunye namandla owakhele iminyaka edlulileyo, njengengcali yangaphambili. Uyayonwabela inkululeko yezoqoqosho kunye nobungangamsha obuza ngokuba ngumntu obhinqileyo ofuna umsebenzi, ufuna ukushiya umntwana wakho nelifa elityebileyo, elenzelwe umntwana wakho ukuba ajonge kwaye afunde kulo, ngohlobo lwamava amaninzi onawo ngaphaya imida yendlu.
4. Uza nezakhono zoomama kwitafile yobungcali
Ukuba ubuzibetha, ukucinga ukuba ngumama kunzima kakhulu ukuba ushiye naliphi na igumbi lezakhono zasemsebenzini olifunayo kwicandelo lakho lobungcali, unesizathu sokuvuya ngoku.
Izakhono zakho zomama ziipivots eziza kukunika ithuba elongezelelekileyo lokuhambisa okona kulungileyo. Umonde, ukucenga kunye nenqanaba lokubeka phambili kwizinto ozenzayo ekhaya ekhaya kwinkqubo yobuzali kubalulekile ekusebenzeni, ngokunjalo. Ubungqongqo obufundise ukuthi hayi kunye nokukwazi ukuthethathethana, impumelelo yakho ekudaleni indawo ekhuselekileyo yomntwana wakho - zonke ezi zakhono zibalulekile ekusebenzeni nakubomi. Akukho ndlela awuyi kwenza ukusika okukhethekileyo emsebenzini wakho omtsha ngezi zakhono zisandula kulinywa zomama.
Ukuba kwaye xa uthatha isigqibo sokuthabathela emanzini ukuvusa ikhondo lakho lomsebenzi, nazi iindlela ezi-3 zokoyisa iindlela ezisendleleni yakho yokwakha kwakhona ikhondo lakho lobomi emva kokuba ngumama-
1. Chaza ukhetho lomsebenzi
Phambi kokuba uqalise inkqubo yokuzingela umsebenzi, jonga ixesha ozimisele ukulinikezela kulwazi lwakho lobuchwephesha ngelixa ungaphazamisi iimfuno zosapho. Ungaqwalasela ukuthatha umsebenzi osisigxina okanye usebenze isigxina. Unokukhetha enye indawo yokwabelana ngomsebenzi (ulungelelwaniso oluvunyelanayo apho abasebenzi ababini babelana ngomsebenzi kunye nentlawulo yomsebenzi osisigxina omnye).
Thatha ingqwalaselo yokuba bhetyebhetye okunikwa emsebenzini, indawo yokugcina abantwana kwindawo osebenza kuyo okanye kwindawo oyifunayo, umgama kunye nexesha lokuhamba. Kananjalo ayizukuba ngumbono ombi ukunxibelelana kwakhona nabasebenzi bakho bakudala, ukuze uphinde uqalise kwindawo yokuqhelana nayo.
2. Yakha inkqubo yenkxaso
Cwangcisa ulwakhiwo olomeleleyo apho ukhawuleze khona xa uncedo lwakho lwasekhaya luthatha ikhefu ngequbuliso okanye kufuneka uhambe ngexesha elinye neqabane lakho. Phakamisa ukuxhasa abahlobo bakho kunye nosapho xa kunokwenzeka ukuphazamiseka kwishedyuli yakho. Kuyanikwa ukuba kuthabatha ixesha kunye nokuzilolonga okwandayo ukwakha inkqubo esebenzayo esebenzayo ngokupheleleyo, nokuba ezinye zezinto ziyawa ekhaya. Ke, yiba nomonde kwaye unomdla. Zithembe kwaye uzikhawuleze ude ugqibe ukwenza isicwangciso esona silungileyo sokugcina ulungelelwano lobomi bomsebenzi.
3.Unxibelelwano ekwabelwana ngalo neqabane lakho
Ngoku ukuba uneeshedyuli zomsebenzi ezibini-enye iphambi kwekhaya kwaye enye ikwindawo yokusebenza kwakho, unxibelelwano ekwabelwana ngalo neqabane lakho lingcwele. Qala ngokudibanisa isicwangciso kunye neqabane lakho, elinokwabiwa ngokufanelekileyo kwemisebenzi yekhaya, yemali kunye nokhathalelo lwabantwana kubo bobabini abazali. Ukuhlamba iimpahla, ukuzalisa ukutya, ukuhlangabezana nokuzibophelela kwezentlalo, unxibelelwano nootitshala, abanonopheli kunye notyelelo lukagqirha ukukhankanya nje abambalwa.
Ukugcina iphepha lokulandela umkhondo okanye uluhlu lwezinto eziza kwenziwa kunokusebenza njengezixhobo ezimangalisayo ekomelezeni umtshato owonwabileyo, ukuba ngumzali usempilweni kunye nokuthintela nakuphi na ukubakho okungathandekiyo ekhaya. Ukuqesha umntu oza kubagcina umntwana ngeempelaveki inokuba licebo elihle lokuba uthathe ixesha lokuchitha ubusuku, apho uyayivuma inkxaso yeqabane lakho kwaye nichithe ixesha kunye ukunxibelelana kwakhona njengesibini kunye nokugcina ulonwabo emtshatweni.
Okokugqibela kususwe
Kulowo nalowo ngokwabo. Ngelixa imeko yomama osebenzayo inenzuzo ngokubhekisele kwintlawulo eyongezelelweyo, ukukhuthaza ubukrelekrele kunye nendlela yokuphila ephuculweyo, ukuhlala kumama wamava ekhaya kunokuba yinto eyonwabisayo ngokulinganayo. Ukuba ukhetha ukuhlala ekhaya kumama, ngamanye amaxesha kufanelekile kwimeko ezingxamisekileyo apho umntwana wakho egula okanye efuna ukubekwa izandla, kuba ayizukufuna ukuba ubambe iintloko kunye neqabane lakho ukuba ngubani oza kweqa umnxeba womsebenzi emsebenzini.
Zombini ezi zimo zinezibonelelo zazo kunye neeflipsides. Yifowuni yakho yokugweba, iimeko, inqaku lokuvumelana neqabane lakho kunye nolangazelelo lwakho lwendalo-zezona zinto zithatha isigqibo xa kufikwa ekuthatheni olo kholo olukhulu lokholo.