Umxholo
- Umtshato wezonyango ngokuchasene nengqondo
- Kutheni le nto kufuneka ndiqwalasele umtshato kunye nonyango losapho?
- Ukufumana umtshato olungileyo kunye nonyango losapho
- Zingaphi iiseshoni endinokuzilindela?
Ukhe weva ngonyango ngaphambili, kodwa ubusazi ukuba zininzi iintlobo ezahlukeneyo okanye amasebe? Unyango lomntu ngamnye luyaziwa kakhulu, kodwa mhlawumbi alwaziwa kangako ngumtshato kunye nonyango losapho.
Ke luyintoni unyango losapho? Okanye yintoni ukululekwa ngomtshato?
Ukubeka nje, inkcazo yonyango ngomtshato kunye nosapho kukuba luhlobo okanye isebe lonyango lwengqondo olusebenza nezibini okanye iintsapho khuthaza utshintsho olululo.
Iinkqubo zokunyanga nosapho ezinyangayo kudala zikho, ngokungekho sikweni nangokusesikweni. E-US, yaqala ngoo-1940. Njengoko unyango lomtshato lubonakalise luluncedo kule minyaka idlulileyo, lufumene ukuthandwa.
Ngokokuvota okwenziwe yiPsychology Today, ngaphezulu kweepesenti ezingama-27 zabantu abadala bafuna uncedo kunyangi lwento ethile kule minyaka mibini idlulileyo (icandelo lelo ngumtshato neengcebiso malunga nosapho).
Ukusukela ngeminyaka yoo-1970, inani labacebisi ngemitshato liye landa ngokuphindwe ka-50, kwaye banyanga abantu abaphantse babe zizigidi ezi-2.
Ngaba umtshato kunye nonyango lwasekhaya kukulungele? Nazi ezinye izinto ezinokunceda.
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Umtshato wezonyango ngokuchasene nengqondo
Okokuqala, kunokuba luncedo ukwazi umahluko kunye nokufana phakathi kwesayikholojisti kunye nomtshato onelayisensi kunye nonyango losapho.
Isayikholojisti, ngokwe-American Psychological Association, ngumntu oye esikolweni kwaye waqinisekiswa ukuba usebenza njengengcali yeengqondo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo banesidanga senkosi okanye sobugqirha, kunye neminyaka emibini yoqeqesho lwezonyango. Kukho malunga ne-105,000 yeengqondo ezinelayisensi kwisayikholojisti yase-U.S. Ezinceda abantu ukuba bajongane nemicimbi eza nobomi okanye iingxaki zempilo yengqondo.
Bangakwazi ukuxilonga kwaye banikeze unyango. Iiseshoni zonyango apho bathetha khona ukuze baqonde imicimbi emva koko beze nezisombululo.
Umtshato kunye neentsapho zonyango zifana kakhulu neengcali zengqondo. Nangona kunjalo, baqeqeshelwe ngokukodwa ukuphatha imicimbi ngaphakathi komtshato kunye nosapho.
Ngokwe-American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, banesidanga se-master okanye sobugqirha kunye neminyaka emibini okanye nangaphezulu yamava onyango ngaphambi kokuba baqale ikhondo lomsebenzi wobungcali.
Banokuchonga nokunyanga imiba yeemvakalelo kunye neengxaki zokuziphatha. Umtshato kunye nonyango lweentsapho banomdla kwimpilo yexesha elide yesi sibini kunye nosapho, kunye nomntu ngamnye.
Ke ngelixa iingcali zeengqondo kunye nomtshato kunye neentsapho zonyango zinexabiso elifanayo lokufunda kunye noqeqesho lwezonyango, oko bakufundiswayo kuyahluka.
Umtshato kunye neentsapho zonyango zibaluleke ngakumbi ekusebenzeni nemisebenzi yonyango yosapho ejongene nemicimbi emtshatweni okanye kusapho, kwaye bayazi kakuhle ekusebenzeni namandla abantu abaninzi ababandakanyekayo kulo mbandela.
Kutheni le nto kufuneka ndiqwalasele umtshato kunye nonyango losapho?
Lo ngumbuzo olungileyo onokuzibuza wona, kunye nezibonelelo kunye nezinto ezingalunganga kunyango losapho ziya kwahluka kumntu ngamnye.
Ukuba unengxaki kusapho lwakho okanye emtshatweni ongenakubonakala ngathi uyasebenza, kwaye ayizukuzihambela yodwa, umtshato kunye nonyango losapho kunokuba ngumbono olungileyo.
Imiba enokwenzeka yomtshato kunye nonyango losapho inokunceda kuluhlu ngokubanzi. Banokukunceda ukunyanga imiba yezempilo yengqondo enje ngokudakumba, unxunguphalo, okanye ezinye iingxaki ezinegalelo kwimiba esecaleni losapho okanye emtshatweni.
Okanye inokuba yimicimbi enokunxulumana neentlekele usapho okanye isibini esinyamezeleyo, njengokulahlekelwa ngumntwana, okanye uqhawulo-mtshato.
Ukongeza, ezi ntlobo ze Abanyangi banokunceda ukunyanga abo baye banyamezela ukuxhatshazwa, okanye Banokunceda izibini ezinemicimbi yokusondelelana.
Oku ayisiyiyo nje amahla ndinyuka obomi. Le yimicimbi ephambili enokuthi ichaphazele impilo yeemvakalelo zomtshato okanye yosapho.
Ngelixa sinako ukusebenza kakhulu sisodwa ukuze siphumelele kule micimbi, kulungile ukuqonda ukuba ngamanye amaxesha unokufuna uncedo lwangaphandle.
Inye into elungileyo yomtshato kunye nonyango losapho kukuba banamava okunceda iintsapho kunye nabantu abatshatileyo njengabakho.
Ngokwe-American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, iipesenti ezingama-90 zabathengi zinika ingxelo yokuphucuka kwempilo yabo yeemvakalelo emva kokufumana unyango.
Ukufumana umtshato olungileyo kunye nonyango losapho
Ayizizo zonke iingcali zonyango ezifanayo
Ezi zizinto ezimbini ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe ngokuqinisekileyo xa ujonga ugqirha olungele wena. Kodwa nangaphezulu, abantu bayaqonda ukuba kubalulekile ukuba ufumane ugqirha onokuthi ubenaye.
Unyango yinto yobuqu, ke ngoko i-Therapist kufuneka ibe ngumntu oziva ukhululekile ukuthetha naye, kunye nomntu omthembileyo ukuze ube nakho ukulandela iingcebiso zabo.
Enye ye Iindawo ezilungileyo zokufumana ugqirha olungileyo kukudluliselwa. Ingxaki yalonto ayisiyonto yokusasaza inyani yokuba baya kunyangi.
Kodwa ukuba uyazi ngomntu onaye, ngobulumko ubuze ukuba ngubani onokumcebisa. Unokwazi ukufunda uphononongo lwabanyangi abahlukeneyo kwi-Intanethi.
Ekugqibeleni, unokufuna nje ukuya kunyango kuqala ukuze ubone ukuba loluphi unyango olulungele wena. Sukuziva ungalunganga xa bengasebenzi, kwaye kufuneka ufumane omnye umntu. Ayinguye wonke umntu oya kulungela lonke usapho okanye isibini.
Zingaphi iiseshoni endinokuzilindela?
Umbutho wase-Oklahoma woMtshato kunye noNyango lweeNtsapho uthi olu hlobo lonyango luhlala ixesha elifutshane.
Izibini ezitshatileyo okanye iintsapho ziza kunye nomcimbi othile abafuna ukuwenza, kwaye kukho injongo yokuphela kwengqondo. Ke iiseshoni ze-9-12 zihlala zi-avareji.
Kodwa uninzi lunokuthatha iiseshoni ezingama-20 okanye ezingama-50. Kuxhomekeka nje kwisibini okanye kusapho kunye nomcimbi ekuwo.
Utshintsho lunzima kwaye lungathatha ixesha, ngakumbi xa abanye abantu babandakanyeka. Ke sukulindela utshintsho ngokukhawuleza, kodwa uyazi ukuba unyango alusoloko lukho ngonaphakade. Ilapho xa uyifuna, nokuba yeyeseshoni enye okanye ixesha leseshoni ebomini.
Into enomdla kukuba, umtshato kunye nosapho abanyangi ngokubanzi bachitha isiqingatha sexesha labo ukwenza umntu ngamnye-on-one, kunye nesiqingatha kunye nosapho okanye zidityaniswe neqabane.
Iya kubonisa ukuba ukuthetha kwiqela kuyanceda, kodwa kunjalo ukungena wedwa. Ukuba uhamba ngale ndlela, ngokubanzi, kunokubakho iiseshoni ezininzi ezichaphazelekayo.
Ukutshata kunye nonyango losapho yindlela yokuba iintsapho okanye izibini zithethe nomphathiswa oqeqeshiweyo malunga nemicimbi ebomini babo.
Kule minyaka, ezininzi Izibonelelo zokucebisa ngomtshato bangqina; ikhule ngokuthandwa. Ngaba kulungile kuwe? Ukuba ubucinga ngayo, kutheni ungazami nje?