Umxholo
- Izizathu zokuwa ngaphandle kothando kunye neqabane
- 1. Ukuba ngumzali
- 2. Uyekile ukuzikhathalela
- 3. Awunabomi
- Iimpawu zokuba uyawa luthando
- 1. Abambalwa babelane ngomdla kunye nemisebenzi
- 2. Akukho phawu lothando kumaqabane
- 3. Akukho nzame zokusombulula iimbambano
- Kufuneka wenze ntoni xa uphelelwa luthando emtshatweni
Nazi iimeko ebomini bakho xa unokuziva ukuba yonke into iyawa, kwaye unguye ukuwa ngothando emtshatweni. Ndithembe! Ayinguwe wedwa.
Uninzi lwabantu lunokuziqonda ngokulula iimpawu ezithi bayathandana, ngakumbi kubudlelwane obutsha. Kodwa iimpawu zokuba uphelelwe luthando emtshatweni, okanye nabuphi na obunye ubudlelwane obuqhubeka okwexeshana, akusoloko kulula ukuzibona okanye ukuziqonda.
Ukungabikho komtsalane wesini kwaye uqhagamshelo lweemvakalelo zizinto ezimbini eziqhelekileyo ezinegalelo ekuphulukaneni nothando emtshatweni.
Ukuwa ngothando nayo ayiqhelekanga njengokuba uninzi lwabantu lucinga. Uphando luthi, phantse i-50% yayo yonke imitshato e-United States iyakuphela ngoqhawulo-mtshato.Kwa isifundo esinye siqikelela ukuba i-41% yayo yonke imitshato yokuqala iphela ngokwahlukana komtshato.
Phantse umyinge wama-66% abasetyhini abafake izicelo zokuqhawula umtshato.
Ukuwa ngothando kunokukhokelela kuyo Ukuphazamisa ukusebenza kwesiqhelo yengqondo nomzimba wakho. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuphakama kwethu okuphezulu kunye neelow ezisezantsi kunokunxulunyaniswa nolwalamano lothando. Usenokuba nakho ukuphulukana nomdla rhoqo kwimisebenzi yemihla ngemihla. Ayisiyonto ngaphandle kokuwa-luthando-emtshatweni wesifo.
Oku kuthetha ukuba unokuba inyathelo elikufutshane ukuba lixhoba loxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo.
Izizathu zokuwa ngaphandle kothando kunye neqabane
Imitshato iyatshintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha. Awunakulindela ukuba isigaba sasemva komtshato siza kuhlala ngonaphakade, akunjalo? Kwaye xa uku ubudlelwane bexesha elide, ukuwa ngothando inokuba sisiganeko esilindelweyo.
Ukuba ufuna izizathu, kunokwenzeka ukuba ufumane isixa sazo. Ukungathembeki inokuba sesona sizathu sibalaseleyo sokuvuselela iimvakalelo ezinje ngokuthandana nothando-emtshatweni kwiqabane elingcatshiweyo. Ke kwakhona, ukungathembeki nokukrexeza unokuba ngu iziphumo zokungabinamdla, abangenaluthando, kwaye imitshato engabelani ngesondo.
Masiqonde izizathu ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuba siqale ngokuchonga iimpawu zokuwa luthando-
1. Ukuba ngumzali
Ukulungiselela uxanduva lonto iza nokukhulisa usapho. Uchitha ixesha elininzi ukhathalela abantwana bakho kangangokuba ungabinalo ixesha elaneleyo lokusindisa iqabane lakho. Ngaphandle kokuqonda, uya kuzifumanisa uphelelwa luthando emtshatweni.
Ukukhulisa abantwana ngumsebenzi onzima. Abancinci baxhomekeke ngakumbi koomama ngexa lobusana babo. Kunqabile ukuba babe nexesha lokuchitha bodwa, ukwenza uthando kumaqabane abo yeyona nto yokugqibela eza ezingqondweni zabo.
Kancinci, bazifumana bethandana nabayeni babo, kwaye le ndlela yokuziphatha ichaphazela amadoda ekubuyiseni kwabo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo uyothusa umfanekiso, uyabona!
2. Uyekile ukuzikhathalela
Esi sesinye isizathu sokuba kutheni abantu baqala ukuwa eluthandweni emtshatweni. Zihambile iintsuku apho ubonwabele ukunxiba kwaye uhlala ulungile kwiqabane lakho. Kodwa njengoko iminyaka yayihamba kwaye isikhundla sakhe ebomini bakho sisiba sisigxina, uthathe umdla omncinci wokuhlala usempilweni kwaye umhle.
Endaweni yoko, loo migudu ibonakala ingabalulekanga kangako kuwe.
Kwaye, kudala ngaphambi kokuba uqaphele umonakalo owenziweyo, wena qala ukuqaphela iimpawu eyakho Umyeni uyathandana nawe.
3. Awunabomi
Qala ukugcina ubomi bakho ngaphandle komtshato. Le yeyona nto iphosakeleyo abafazi bayazibophelela kuyo xa sele behleli kubudlelwane. Kodwa esi simo sengqondo sinokubonisa ukuba sinokugqibela
Ukulahla ukuthanda kwakho, ukuzonwabisa, izihlobo, kunye nendlala yakho yobomi, ngamafutshane uncama yonke into echazayo, iya kuyityhalela kude indoda yakho.
Awungo ukuwa ngothando emtshatweni, kodwa uyayikhuthaza indoda yakho ukuba ijonge ukhetho olungcono kunawe.
Isizathu sokukhalaza kwamadoda malunga nokuwa eluthandweni sinokuxhomekeka ikakhulu kubafazi babo ekuboniseni olu hlobo lwesimo ebomini.
Ke, mabhinqa bopha!
Ezi mpawu zibonakalayo zokuwa luthando azibonisi ukuphela komtshato konke konke. Ingcali kwezobudlelwane, uSuzanne Edelman uthi,
Uninzi lwemiqondiso luyalungiswa. Kuya kufuneka uzimisele ukuxoxa ngokuphandle ngomcimbi ngamnye kwaye ubonise ukukhathalela ngokwaneleyo ukutshintsha indlela oziphethe ngayo.”
Kodwa kuqala, kuya kufuneka zichonge iimpawu ye ukuthandana nomntu.
Iimpawu zokuba uyawa luthando
Ukuba ucinga ukuba ungahle uthandane emtshatweni, qwalasela le miqondiso ilandelayo oko kungabonisa iimvakalelo zakho malunga nolwalamano lwakho lomtshato ayisiyiyo le nto babeyiyo.
1. Abambalwa babelane ngomdla kunye nemisebenzi
Ngu ayiqhelekanga kwizibini ezitshatileyo ukuya unomdla ohlukileyo okanye izinto ozithandayo ezinje ngomlingane othanda ibhola kunye nomnye ongayithandiyo. Kodwa ye abathandanayo, ezi Umdla owahlukileyo awubonisi ungquzulwano.
Ngapha koko, abantu abatshatileyo banokuhlala besabelana ngemisebenzi nangona bengayonwabisi, njengokuthatha iqabane kwi-opera ngaphandle kokuyonwabela.
Ukuba uyawa emtshatweni, nangona kunjalo, unokuqaphela ukuba ulungile ukuchitha ixesha elincinci ukwenza imisebenzi ekwabelwana ngayo okanye uthetha ngezinto onomdla kuzo.
2. Akukho phawu lothando kumaqabane
Kuqheleke kakhulu ukuba izibini ezitshatileyo ukuba kakhulu unothando kwaye uthanda ngokuphandle xa besandul
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ufumanisa ukuba awubonakalisi uthando, ukonwaba okanye umbulelo kwiqabane lakho rhoqo-okanye ngokungaphantsi kakhulu kunakuqala-oko kunokuba luphawu lokuba awusathandani.
Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi ukuba wena uzifumane ucaphuka ngakumbi okanye ukucaphuka neqabane lakho.
3. Akukho nzame zokusombulula iimbambano
Abantu abathandanayo ngenkuthalo baya kuhlala bezama ukusombulula ukungavisisani kubudlelwane babo kuba batyale imali kulwalamano kwaye ngokwemvelo bafuna ubudlelwane busebenze.
Ukuba uyathandana emtshatweni, nangona kunjalo, unokufumanisa ukuba awuzami kuzama ukusombulula iingxaki-enyanisweni, ungaqala ubone ngathi kungcono ungayihoyi imeko leyo ngokupheleleyo, kwaye ukusombulula impixano ayibalulekanga ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Ngelishwa, oku kunesiphumo esisecaleni sokwenza ubudlelwane bube nzima ngakumbi kwaye bunengxaki, oko kunokubangela ukulahleka kothando okuqhubekayo kwiqabane lakho.
Kufuneka wenze ntoni xa uphelelwa luthando emtshatweni
Ukuba ucinga ukuba iimvakalelo zakho kwiqabane lakho zinciphile, kuya kufuneka uzikhethele ngokwakho: unga sebenzela ukuzama ukuvuselela iimvakalelo zakho okanye buyeke ubudlelwane buhambe.
Nokuba loluphi ukhetho luya kufuna ukucinga okuninzi okanye ukuqwalaselwa ngononophelo, kuba omabini la manyathelo ngamanyathelo abalulekileyo anokuchaphazela ubudlelwane bakho kunye nobomi bakho bebonke.
Ngaba uziva uphelelwe luthando? Thatha imibuzo