Umxholo
- Injana iyayithanda
- Ufumana imvakalelo ehlekisayo ngomntu omaziyo
- Imodeli yaseFreudian yolwakhiwo inantoni yokwenza nomntu omthandayo?
- Ke kuthetha ntoni ukuba neemvakalelo komnye umntu?
- I-superego yakho iyavuma
- Ke emva kwesifundo se-psyche, kuthetha ntoni ukuba neemvakalelo komnye umntu?
Siqala ukuba neekrismesi kwasekuqaleni kwisikolo saseprayimari, sonke siyayazi imvakalelo. Ubukho babo buyaluqaqambisa usuku lwethu, sifuna ukubabona ngalo lonke ixesha, kwaye siziva sinomona ukuba bahoya omnye umntu.
Sihamba ngeentsuku zethu zokufikisa singasadidekanga ngale mvakalelo. Siya sizingca kwaye sifuna ukwenza ubudlelwane obusondeleyo naloo mntu. Sihamba nokufikisa ngaxeshanye kwaye sinomdla wokwabelana ngesondo. Uninzi lwabantu luyabhidanisa ezo mvakalelo nenkanuko.
Unokucinga ukuba kwenzeka ntoni, sonke sidlule kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo.
Njengokuba sikhula, abanye bethu basaziva ukuba "amabhabhathane esiswini sethu" malunga nomntu othile, kodwa ithetha ntoni kanye kanye?
Injana iyayithanda
Sonke siziva sinomtsalane komnye umntu. Laa mfana mhle kumabonwakude, intombazana entle kwivenkile yekofu, umphathi oshushu noxanduva, kunye nalo mmelwane ukhohlakeleyo. Kwenzeka naxa ingumntu wasemzini esimbonileyo ebhasini.
Kutheni siziva sinento engaqhelekanga xa sidibana nabo bantu?
Okokuqala, kungokwemvelo.
Intabatheko yenzeka kuye wonke umntu. Yinto nje yendlela esisabela ngayo kuyo, kwaye njengoko sikhula, sifunda ngakumbi malunga nemilinganiselo yoluntu.
Ezo zikhokelo zisikhokela kwindlela esimele sisabele ngayo. Kodwa lukhetho lwethu ukuba sifuna ukuyilandela. Uninzi lwethu luzakhela olwethu isikhokelo semigaqo esikhokelayo esiyilandelayo ngokusekelezelweyo esikufundileyo nakumava ethu.
Ngokusekwe kwimigaqo yethu, yeyiphi loo nto inomtsalane? Ngaba luthando okanye yinkanuko?
Akunjalo.
Ingqondo yakho ithi lo mntu ukuba uhlobo lwakho. Akukho nto ingako, akukho nto ingaphantsi. Sichukumise isihloko semigaqo ekhokelayo kuba yiyo eza kukuxelela into ekufuneka uyenzile emva koko. Abanye abantu abenzi nto, abanye bayaya, ngelixa kukho abantu abenza into engalunganga.
Ke ukutyumza umntu ongamaziyo ngokungafanelekanga kufanelekile ukuba kungabikho nto. Ngaphandle kokuba uyifumane kuwe ngokwakho ukuze wazi umntu lowo.
Ufumana imvakalelo ehlekisayo ngomntu omaziyo
Oku kuxhomekeke kwikhulu lezinto ezahlukeneyo. Ngokuka-Freud, i-psyche yethu yahlulelwe kwi-id, i-ego, kunye ne-superego.
I-Id-I-id yinto engxamisekileyo kunye nengqondo yengqondo yethu. Zezona zinto zinamandla ezisisiseko zokuqhuba esinazo njengezinto eziphilayo. Yeyona nto isezingqondweni zethu esenza ukuba sifune ukutya, ukuzala, ukulawula, kunye nezinye izinto eziphilayo kufuneka zisinde.
Ego -Icandelo lokuthatha izigqibo.
Superego - Inxalenye yengqondo yethu esixelela ukuba silandele izithethe kunye nokuziphatha eluntwini.
Imodeli yaseFreudian yolwakhiwo inantoni yokwenza nomntu omthandayo?
Elula, loo mntu unokuba ngumbhalo (Usapho lwakho, udadewenu wentombi yakho, Umfazi owonwabileyo emtshatweni, isini esifanayo, njl.
Imvakalelo ehlekisayo yi-Id yakho nje ekuxelela yona, ufuna loo mntu, umphathi wakho uya kukuxelela nantoni na oyilandelayo, kwaye i-ego yakho iya kuba sisigqibo osenzayo ekugqibeleni.
I-id ayicingi, ifuna nje. Yonke enye into libali elahlukileyo.Nokuba unomdla kangakanani, konke malunga nokuba yintoni i-ego yakho eyenzayo ebonisa ubuntu bakho.
Ke kuthetha ntoni ukuba neemvakalelo komnye umntu?
Kuthetha ukuba ufuna ukuba nolwalamano olusondeleyo nomntu, nokuba kufanelekile, libali elahlukileyo.
Kungathetha ukuba unokuba ngumntu ozukileyo, iklasi, okanye umntu onomntwana onqabileyo. Kuxhomekeka kukhetho oluya kuthi ekugqibeleni ulwenze.
I-superego yakho iyavuma
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba neemvakalelo zomntu othile kwaye umphathi wakho uyavumelana nawe?
Masicinge ukuba awunayo nayiphi na into engaqhelekanga ekhusela i-superego yakho. Ke kuthetha ukuba ufumene iqabane elinokubakho. Ngekhe sithi luthando ngeli xesha, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo wadibana nomntu onokumthanda.
Awuthandani nantoni na ngaphandle kokuba uzimisele ukukunika ubomi ngayo. Inokuba ngumntu, umntwana, okanye umbono.
Ukuphuhlisa kunye nokomeleza amaqhina akho kubalulekile ukuba uthandane. Kukho amakhulu ezibini emhlabeni aqale ngaphandle kwamabhabhathane ahlekisayo, kodwa aphela kunye ixesha elide.
Yandisa ubudlelwane bakho nomntu, banokuba luhlobo lwakho ngoku, kodwa izinto ziyatshintsha xa usazi umntu othile. Bangangcono okanye bathathe ithuba lokubi.
Ke emva kwesifundo se-psyche, kuthetha ntoni ukuba neemvakalelo komnye umntu?
Ayithethi nto kwaphela. Ude wenze into malunga nayo. Umbhali wokuqala wasebenzisa amabhabhathane kwisikweko kuba, njengamabhabhathane, ezo mvakalelo ziyafika zihambe, ngamaxeshana amafutshane.
Uthando lunamandla ngakumbi, lunokugubungela umntu kwaye lwazi ukuqhuba abantu benze izinto eziphambeneyo.
Ukuba uyaqhubeka nokudibana naloo mntu kwaye wakhe iibhondi zakho, ngaminazana ithile unokuthandana. Asinakuthi lo mntu uya kukuthanda kwakhona, ngenxa yokuba iingqondo zakho zisebenza kunye ukwenza konke okusemandleni akho, oko akuthethi ukuba elinye iqela liya kuphinda lenze imizamo yakho.
Logama nje bengakudeleli kwaye bakuphephe, unethuba.
Ke kuthetha ntoni ukuba neemvakalelo komnye umntu? Ngaba oko kuthetha ukuba ayinaxabiso de ndenze into malunga nalo? Ewe.
Into ocinga kwaye uziva ngayo, yeyakho wedwa.
Into oyithethayo okanye oyenzayo kukuba ihlabathi ligwebe. Kuphela kuxa uthetha okanye usenza izinto ezibonakalisa iingcinga neemvakalelo zakho, kuphela apho kuya kuba nentsingiselo.
Ayinamsebenzi ukuba uziva ungomsindo, umsindo, ingqumbo, intiyo, uthando, ukuthanda, ukuthanda, ukuthanda, okanye inkanuko.
Kude kube kufakwe isenzo nge-ego yakho. Zizo zonke iingcinga zakho zangasese. Lumka, kuba iinjongo zakho zilungile (kuwe). Oko akuthethi ukuba abanye abantu baya kusabela kakuhle.
Kodwa ungenzi nto uya kuqinisekisa ukuba iimvakalelo zakho aziyi kukhokelela kwinto. Ke thetha kwi-id yakho kunye ne-superego. Emva koko yenza ukhetho olufanelekileyo.